a4a Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 oh for cripes sake........ here we go again. my b-day is coming up so I just checked the bank acct to see if a gigantic check cleared to the vet (stupid vets office holds them for weeks).......so I am looking......... and I find: The H ordered me flowers..... Friggin $70 flowers. WHY??? My god I have told him from day one that they don't mean crap to me. I don't want them, don't need them, and to spend $70 on flowers that the cat will end up eating and rot in the trash can....... just stupid. Now I have more than hinted about many things I want ...... Like Mulch, barn roof, a pic of my horse professionally painted ($250 deal I found).........a new halter for my friggin horse that I won't buy for myself...... why why why why does he do exactly what I don't want exactly what I ask him not to do..... why! So he can say "I tried" and be the half assed victim. Last minute BS gift. Waste of money and something I really get no enjoyment out of. I have half a mind to tell him to cancel the order at this moment. Should I? Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 Oh bah humbug a4a! I can totally see your point, and personally I would rather have the money or something I can use than a big bunch of flowers, but isn't it the thought that counts? He thinks he is doing something nice for you! Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 Poor hubby, I don't think you should tell him to cancel it, that's a little harsh. I love getting flowers so it's hard for me to understand your disappointment completely, maybe he got something else as well? Maybe you could cry hysterically when the flowers die, that way he won't do it again. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 He thinks he is doing something nice for you! sounds like it's a ruse ... they're really for his flower-eatin' pussy Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 You just posted this on a dif thread... "I would love anything that had some planning behind it. Even a dinner out to a reg. place with flowers with a card waiting at our table..... " maybe hes having them sent to the dinner table? IMO....yuo have complained about your hubby since day one.....I dont think he could do anything over and above his normal ways....to make you happy.... and quite frankly....i dont know why you even stay with him....given all the stuff you complain about.... Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 I have half a mind I assume you got married for the other half. What's wrong with flowers?! It's the thought that counts. Take it like a man, you prima donna. Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 "Maybe you could cry hysterically when the flowers die, that way he won't do it again." Thats a f*kin funny suggestion, Allina !! ........... but can you see OUR A4a resorting to old skool feminine manipulation to get her point across, when the good old fork in the skull is twice as effective and a ton more fun !!?!? Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 I'd chop ya up some mulch and put a new roof on the barn for an anniversary gift anyday! But get off your butt and buy your own bridal, and paint your own picture....... Flowers are a waste of money......just my opinion..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted May 2, 2007 Author Share Posted May 2, 2007 Oh bah humbug a4a! I can totally see your point, and personally I would rather have the money or something I can use than a big bunch of flowers, but isn't it the thought that counts? He thinks he is doing something nice for you! He knows the deal...... he knows. This is a guy that is aware of exactly what I want from him..... flowers are on the big NO LIST. Total waste of money and he is more than well aware of my feelings on this. We have had multiple conversations about fruckin' flowers! Now a cheapy bouquet with a nice note attached or an invitation.... yeah..... or waiting at our dinner table a single rose upon our arrival...... yeah... nice........ This is a guy who knows...... I mean KNOWS that calling a flower shop and putting in an order over the phone at the last minute is a worthless gift in my view. Planning and effort are the most important things to me....... again he knows this. Calling in some $70 crap ass flowers is not planning or effort. Nice socks...... yeah he picked me out nice socks for x-mas.... now I did like those. Maybe the flowers will be delievered via camel? :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 I tried to edit my post to say is there some history I don't know about, but I was too slow. And you have answered my question anyway. Maybe you should just tell him you know- the surprise is ruined anyway! Link to post Share on other sites
My Fair Katie Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 I hate coming to the defense of men but if he knows your aversion to flowers, is it possible the flowers are for his mom? Mother's Day is coming up. Maybe he actually got you a young farm hand named Fernando who is tan, has an arse you can bounce a quarter off of, is ripped, and works without a t-shirt. I'm sorry, what were we talking about? Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted May 2, 2007 Author Share Posted May 2, 2007 I tried to edit my post to say is there some history I don't know about, but I was too slow. And you have answered my question anyway. Maybe you should just tell him you know- the surprise is ruined anyway! I really don't want the damn things in this house. He does exactly what I ask him not to do..... what is wrong with him? Do I call him since I am home today and tell him to cancel the damn flowers. I guess I could drop them by the nursing home or something once they are delivered. what a lazy puke he is. This is his way of being passive aggressive...... I did something and see you don't like it.......... whatever. I can never do anything right..... poor me victim victim victim. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 The H ordered me flowers..... Friggin $70 flowers. Maybe those are for his GF Let him do his thing A4... when the flowers come in act surprised and screw his brains out.. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 putting in an order over the phone at the last minute is a worthless gift in my view. Planning and effort are the most important things to me....... again he knows this. Calling in some $70 crap ass flowers is not planning or effort. I like it when men get flowers and hand pick them all, they'll choose a few in your favorite color, a few because it's a flower you like and a few just because they think it looks nice. Such a mismatched, random bouquet of flowers is the best. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 Maybe you should cancel the flowers yourself, and buy yourself something else with the money. Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted May 2, 2007 Author Share Posted May 2, 2007 I hate coming to the defense of men but if he knows your aversion to flowers, is it possible the flowers are for his mom? Mother's Day is coming up. Maybe he actually got you a young farm hand named Fernando who is tan, has an arse you can bounce a quarter off of, is ripped, and works without a t-shirt. I'm sorry, what were we talking about? His mother is dead. Fernando sounds like my H.... that bastard.... that is how he keeps me here with him.... Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 His mother is dead. Fernando sounds like my H.... that bastard.... that is how he keeps me here with him.... so basically you stay for the sex? casue it sure doesnt sound like anything else he does works for you.... Link to post Share on other sites
IfWishesWereHorses Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 maybe its not flowers but something else from a flowershop???? House plant, fruit basket, ummm, I'm thinking... I hate getting flowers too! Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 Something that is bestowed voluntarily and without compensation.The act, right, or power of giving.A talent, endowment, aptitude, or inclination.I'm not sure how your list of Birthday demands fits into the spirit of giving. Why not just relax, keep your opinions to yourself and enjoy the day? Mr. Lucky BTW - Your BF seems to have "a talent, endowment, aptitude, or inclination" for getting on your bad side... Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted May 2, 2007 Author Share Posted May 2, 2007 so basically you stay for the sex? casue it sure doesnt sound like anything else he does works for you.... No I can get that elsewhere. Not in the mood to get into details. He is under the care of a shrink.. shrink thinks he chooses to be an ass and has done nothing with his life because he is so damn PA. Caught him on the cell. I asked him to cancel the order. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 Caught him on the cell. I asked him to cancel the order. What did he say in response to that? I see where you're coming from but to me asking him to cancel seems like a quick way to "you never appreciate anything I do for you anyways!" as frequent response in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 What did he say in response to that? Who cares?! She whipped that bitch back into line. Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted May 2, 2007 Author Share Posted May 2, 2007 What did he say in response to that? I see where you're coming from but to me asking him to cancel seems like a quick way to "you never appreciate anything I do for you anyways!" as frequent response in the future. ehhh......... he states they were not roses so I should have liked them. :lmao: It is not a matter of the flowers. He chooses to not listen nor act on what I ask from him. Not just about gifts either....... not at all. But a fine time to see an example of how he chooses to not listen. Cleaning the cat box would thrill me. Just like I have asked him to do so repeatedly....... they are his cats. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 I just thought I would throw this out there.. for what it is worth.. If my wife figured out about a gift I bought her and demanded that I cancel the order or canceled the order on her own then my knee jerk reaction would be to divorce her ass.. Deal Breaker........ I think that gifts are not an item that you should be pulling a power/control move on your spouse over.. In marriage you have to learn to pick your battles and if my wife decided to hurt my feelings and pick this battle over a b-day gift I would most likely rethink the marriage.. No shiot...This really is what I feel and what I would do.. I think you did more damage to your marriage than you realize.. Just ignoring the purchase and accepting the gift is what I would've done and would've expected my wife to do as well.. Just my own little opinion... Link to post Share on other sites
Mustang Sally Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 *cue (beautiful, young) Paul Newman* ...What we have here is a failure to communicate... I have to say, I'm with Art on this one, though I don't think it alone, would drive me to divorce. Maybe if it's a PA act, the best retaliation, so to speak, would have been to allow the flowers and fawn repeatedly over them? That probably would have thrown him off. Link to post Share on other sites
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