frd150 Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t39112/ I have read a lot of posts here on L/S regarding giving space and none i fell are more right on than this one. Some of you vets may remember it so fogive me. It looks like it was revived once before but i think there are alot of new people including myself that can benifit from it. PLEASE READ IT if you are struggling with the whole space issue. Comments on it would be nice. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 Maybe. The issue I see is that BOTH have to want the relationship to work. And something else she missed on as far as the key to a relationship goes is COMMUNICATION. Without it, nothing else is possible. So even if they love you and you love them, if you aren't communicating effectively, it won't work. Love is much like a balance scale with each person's love being on either side. Too much from one side and it becomes unbalanced. Too little and it becomes unbalanced. The most successful, happy relationships are those which are balanced. Learning to love and respect each other. Letting the relationship grow at the right pace for you both. But in the end, effectively communicating those needs and working things out so that there are no misunderstandings it what will make a relationship flourish. Being unable to talk, to communicate effectively, will KILL a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author frd150 Posted May 3, 2007 Author Share Posted May 3, 2007 CaliGuy, What you just stated is the crux of what i have learned through all of this madness in the last couple of months. Lack of communication is the cancer that led us to where we are now. No cheating or abuse just plain old ignorance to what was going on. Then one day it blew up in my face. The warning sings were there but i/ we chose to ignore them. Kinda like a check up with a doctor i think that couples need to discuss, evaluate their relationship from time to time in order to nip the cancer in the rear before it spreads. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 It's something we all eventually learn. Sometimes too late to salvage a relationship but always, always at some time or another. Take the lessons you have learned and build upon them to make your next relationship better than the last. That's all you really can do. Link to post Share on other sites
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