A Sexually Frustrated Virgin

[EricOnTheWeb]

I feel your crave,Dude....Thanks for making this thread,I was to wierded out by asking about this. I wanna gets some too.

[Sparky]

I feel your crave,Dude....Thanks for making this thread,I was to wierded out by asking about this. I wanna gets some too.

 

You're welcome, I guess... You a virgin craving for a sexual experience?

[Pink Amulet]

Awww

 

Am I the only girl who hears a story likes this and feels the urge to fulfil a samaritan duty by sleeping with this sweet and innocent young man?

 

If you were closer, I would help you out!

 

You seem lovely, I am wondering why you have trouble with women.

 

Are you shy?

 

If so, it sounds like you need to come to Australia.

 

We love shy guys here.

 

I really like the suggestion of joining a gym.

 

Not only will it help with your frustrations, it will probably help with any confidence issues you may have and it is a great place to meet women!

 

I don't know if you should get in to the "older woman" situation just yet though.

[Sparky]

Awww

 

Am I the only girl who hears a story likes this and feels the urge to fulfil a samaritan duty by sleeping with this sweet and innocent young man?

 

If you were closer, I would help you out!

 

You seem lovely, I am wondering why you have trouble with women.

 

Are you shy?

 

If so, it sounds like you need to come to Australia.

 

We love shy guys here.

 

I really like the suggestion of joining a gym.

 

Not only will it help with your frustrations, it will probably help with any confidence issues you may have and it is a great place to meet women!

 

I don't know if you should get in to the "older woman" situation just yet though.

 

Pink Amulet, you're just like lovestruck234, always into sex (which I like ). Are all you Austrailian chicks this horny?

 

AAAHHHH!!! DAMMIT!!! WHY CAN'T I LIVE IN AUSTRAILIA??!!! Though, I'm not DESPRITE to get laid (at least I hope not). Trust me, if I was in Austrailia, I'd take you up on your offer in a heartbeat. Oh, and we'll get lovestruck to join too.

 

Anyways, thanks for the gym advice. I like that idea. I haven't been there in ages because of work. Lately, I just can't find the motivation to do it either.

 

I find the words "more experience" a lot more comfortable than "older". Can't help but picture old and shrivilled up women in lack of clothing.

[Sparky]

Not only are you hot, you're really cute, by the way.

[Fun2BMe]

So, all I have to do is go out and get laid? It's THAT simple??

No, it's not that simple. I don't like any of the advice you're being given. It's ok to be a virgin at age 20, and it's ok you didn't have sex with your last girlfriend. I don't think you should go lurking in bars or preying on older women even if they are willing to have the sex, considering it will be your first time.

 

I think you should put your energy not in getting laid, but in finding a nice girlfriend who you will experience your first sexual encounter with, so that sex will be special and not something you just 'get' or 'have' like you have lunch, with a different sandwich/girl of the day.

 

Having anonymous sex with someone you don't have feelings for will put you into the category of saying sex is overrated, at least if that's your first experience. I'd say wait until you do it properly, especially considering how sensitive you are, missing a woman's warmth and so on.

[burning 4 revenge]

Your first time should be something special. Make sure it's with someone you care about instead devaluing yourself with a predator.

i like the subtle dig everyone missed

[pelagicsands]

i like the subtle dig everyone missed

I don't understand the "devaluing" reference... unless his deposit is non-refundable?!

[Sparky]

I don't understand the "devaluing" reference... unless his deposit is non-refundable?!

 

Devaluing?

 

No, it's not that simple. I don't like any of the advice you're being given. It's ok to be a virgin at age 20, and it's ok you didn't have sex with your last girlfriend. I don't think you should go lurking in bars or preying on older women even if they are willing to have the sex, considering it will be your first time.

 

I think you should put your energy not in getting laid, but in finding a nice girlfriend who you will experience your first sexual encounter with, so that sex will be special and not something you just 'get' or 'have' like you have lunch, with a different sandwich/girl of the day.

 

Having anonymous sex with someone you don't have feelings for will put you into the category of saying sex is overrated, at least if that's your first experience. I'd say wait until you do it properly, especially considering how sensitive you are, missing a woman's warmth and so on.

 

Like I said in my first post, I know it's perfectly okay to be a virgin. I'm not out to get laid and show the world that I've done it. THAT would be degrading. I thought I made that pretty clear. I just want to relieve this sexual stress I'm having.

 

And I think I'm starting to agree with the other people here. Maybe I need to do it with an experienced woman it to make me feel better. That doesn't mean I'll devalue sex.

[burning 4 revenge]

I don't understand the "devaluing" reference... unless his deposit is non-refundable?!

I've seen some freaky stuff on the internet

[Sparky]

Ahhh... I get it now, about devaluing. I mean, yes, of course I'm not going to have sex with just ANYONE. It's going to be someone that I like and will treat me well.

 

Good lord! I'm sounding like a little girl...

[Fun2BMe]

Devaluing?

 

 

 

Like I said in my first post, I know it's perfectly okay to be a virgin. I'm not out to get laid and show the world that I've done it. THAT would be degrading. I thought I made that pretty clear. I just want to relieve this sexual stress I'm having.

 

And I think I'm starting to agree with the other people here. Maybe I need to do it with an experienced woman it to make me feel better. That doesn't mean I'll devalue sex.

 

If your only concern is of a physical nature, then why do you state that you are not in favor of hiring a hooker. You might as well get one tonight and get it over with. They're probably more experienced than the 'older woman' anyways. Call one now and report back in a few hours that you are no longer a virgin.

[pelagicsands]

I've seen some freaky stuff on the internet

Put up, or shut up.

 

Sometimes you can't find Miss Right because you should be looking for Mr Right. I'm just saying.

[Chrome Barracuda]

Ahhh... I get it now, about devaluing. I mean, yes, of course I'm not going to have sex with just ANYONE. It's going to be someone that I like and will treat me well.

 

Good lord! I'm sounding like a little girl...

 

Yeah you are! lol. I think you can have sex with a mutual friend for one night, You probably got someone you know, your friends know, your sister knows? hmm??

 

You dont want to be a 40 year old virgin. 20 is a good time to get bucwild!!

[pelagicsands]

You dont want to be a 40 year old virgin.

That only happens in the movies.

[Trialbyfire]

i like the subtle dig everyone missed

Ha...there's nothing subtle about it. Hookers (or other paid professionals) and blow, are not a good combination...

[Sparky]

If your only concern is of a physical nature, then why do you state that you are not in favor of hiring a hooker?

 

Because I'm not desprite. You're just paying for sex. I'd like to make a friend and get to know the person in the process at least.

 

Yeah you are! lol. I think you can have sex with a mutual friend for one night, You probably got someone you know, your friends know, your sister knows? hmm??

 

I DO have some friends that are girls that I know aren't virgins. But that's the problem... their FRIENDS with me. How could I get them to... you know... just do it? It's not like I can just ask "Hey! Wanna have sex?" If it were that simple, I wouldn't have started this thread.

 

Anyone been able to successfully get "just a friend" to do it with them? If so, please tell me!!

[pelagicsands]

It's not like I can just ask "Hey! Wanna have sex?" If it were that simple, I wouldn't have started this thread.

I think you could be a little bit more sophisticated. Like, say you will take them for ice cream, afterwards. That should seal the deal.

[Pink Amulet]

Anyone been able to successfully get "just a friend" to do it with them? If so, please tell me!!

 

Friends are never really friends until you have slept with them

 

But in all seriousness, you need to start putting yourself out there.

 

Do you have any hobbies or talents?

[Chrome Barracuda]

Because I'm not desprite. You're just paying for sex. I'd like to make a friend and get to know the person in the process at least.

 

 

 

I DO have some friends that are girls that I know aren't virgins. But that's the problem... their FRIENDS with me. How could I get them to... you know... just do it? It's not like I can just ask "Hey! Wanna have sex?" If it were that simple, I wouldn't have started this thread.

 

Anyone been able to successfully get "just a friend" to do it with them? If so, please tell me!!

 

Well for one you start flirting, play into their strengths, Get to know the more. You have to foster within their minds that you are attractive, you cant be nervous, project confidence.

 

It takes time, I didnt truly find my mojo at 20 it happened at 24. And by mojo I mean confidence. I can walk into a room, feel confident, and talk to any beautiful woman not worried about being rejected. I look into a woman's eyes deeply and know if I'm going to f*ck her. Just like when a woman meets you and within the first 5 minutes she knows if she's gonna give up the draws. It's not rocket science. It's an art. It's an emotion, it's an passion. It has to come from within.

[Sparky]

Friends are never really friends until you have slept with them

 

But in all seriousness, you need to start putting yourself out there.

 

Do you have any hobbies or talents?

 

I play guitar, rugby, weight training, computers, and drawing (a big one).

 

Barracuda, I remember being taught that attitude towards women. I guess I must've forgotten that stuff. I'm not afraid to get rejected by all means. If they don't want to, it's their loss, not mine.

[pelagicsands]

I play guitar, rugby, weight training, computers, and drawing (a big one).

You should try drawing your big one from its holster.

If they don't want to, it's their loss, not mine.

Technically it's both your losses. Or maybe not, if something better comes along within the next three minutes.

[blue16]

First of all it's "desperate" not "desprite". I agree with another poster who said that you should focus on getting a girlfriend and what not instead of being so concerned with losing your virginity.

 

The part that concerns me more is than anything is the fact that there are a lot of slang words you don't know. Yes, it sounds silly but let me explain...

 

For example, in another thread someone used the term cockblock (which is a somewhat commonly used term among guys) and you weren't quite sure what it meant. Then another instance a poster used the word "wingman" and you didn't seem to have a grasp of the meaning...almost like these words were foreign.

 

I'm not saying that not knowing what these terms BY ITSELF means, but I feel it DOES show that you aren't getting out there enough, not going to enough parties etc. I'm not a huge partier myself, nor am I a ladies man, but even I learned those words when I was like 13 years old. They're just terms you kinda just 'pick up' through hanging out with friends and that kinda stuff - so I'm astounded that you haven't heard them before.

 

And again, i reiterate that not knowing what 'cockblock' means is not a huge deal on the surface, but on the deeper level it leads a little bit of insight on the kind of social life you're living.

[EricOnTheWeb]

You're welcome, I guess... You a virgin craving for a sexual experience?

 

Yeah I would say so,but you're young,you have time,so don't go crazy just yet. I would go on about my situation,but I'll be just looked at as being sorry for myself,so yeah try being my age and a "V" it sucks and hookers and the south side of town is looking better to me every day.

 

Yeah I wish I could have someone to wake up with in the morning too and have some actuall things going on in my house instead of just hearing myself breath. You know...GF and I getting ready to go out on the boat or whatnot on a sunday morning....

 

I guess if I go and bang a random hooker then I'll just have one more thing I'll have to explain to my GF if I'm ever lucky enough to get a GF in this pathetic life of mine.

 

I would do what Fun2BeMe said because you're still way young,you have time bud... As for me..it looks like the red district is in my future...sometimes I can't even believe I'm going to accept that...

 

Good luck to you,and feel free if you want to P/M me...

 

(Eric)

[ibitealil]

My advice to you if you are still having the same problem.

 

Go out and Do social stuff more than being on the web all the time and writing about it. Then you will not have time to think of your virginity so often which means you will stop being stressed about sex and all that. Forget what everbody says about sex and virginity, cuz everybody else have different experience and different opinion about it. Once you go out and socialize, it will come naturally and you will meet the girl who you will be doing it with. Whether it should be special or not, its your choice!