A Sexually Frustrated Virgin

[Sparky]

Except for the doing it with a cougar and waiting until I get married, I agree with you guys and your sugestions.

 

Well, the cougar idea maybe isn't all that bad, but I MUCH prefer the term "experienced". At the same time, older doesn't necessarily mean more experienced.

 

Waiting until I get married is what drove me nuts in the first place. Firstly, because I'm too horny to wait (which I believe is normal ) and secondly, waiting until marriage isn't necessarily going to (if at all) make the first experience the best, which is why I agree 100% on getting experience so that you CAN be good with that special person.

 

And I know not to worry, and I'm not worrying about it, I'm just frustrated. I'm not shy or necessarily think I'm bad with the ladies, hence feeling frustrated.

[SierraMarie]

Don't you think your wife would much rather she be the only person you've had sex with rather than you having sex with other people and being better at it?

 

And, I wouldn't worry about being experienced before you get married, I'm sure you'll do perfectly fine. I think you need to chill out about it.

[Sparky]

Thanks for the confidence in me. It's not that I'm worried about being good, it's just that I just have a desire for intimacy REALLY BADLY, and masturbating doesn't fulfill that desire, it just makes it more desirable.

[FleshNBones]

Thanks for the confidence in me. It's not that I'm worried about being good, it's just that I just have a desire for intimacy REALLY BADLY, and masturbating doesn't fulfill that desire, it just makes it more desirable.

You have way too much free time on your hands.

[Sparky]

You have way too much free time on your hands.

 

Why do you say that?

[SierraMarie]

Thanks for the confidence in me. It's not that I'm worried about being good, it's just that I just have a desire for intimacy REALLY BADLY, and masturbating doesn't fulfill that desire, it just makes it more desirable.

 

Yeah, I know what you mean, except for the masturbating part.

 

I think about sex all the time. Seriously, every day, and I really want to have sex also. The point is, I've had sex and I'm sure I want it just as bad as you do. So it doesn't really matter either way. In fact, you'll probably want sex MORE after you have it. I think what you really want is just the experience of it.

[Sparky]

Yeah, you're right. I just want to experience it.

[SierraMarie]

And you will.

 

I can understand where you're coming from, I remember when I just wanted to have sex really bad just to have it. And I did, but I wish I would have waited now. I had sex just because I wanted to experience it. I wish I would have waited until I was with somebody I really cared about. And I've had sex since then but not with anyone I really cared about. If I would have really waited I still wouldn't have had sex yet and I'll be 20 soon. I just kept doing cause I already did it once, so why not again right?

 

Trust me, the urge won't go away after you have sex, it will just get worse. Because then you'll actually know what it feels like and you'll want it even more.

[Dustin16357]

I'm in a similar situation I just turned twenty and I'm still a virgin, my excuse is that I just broke up with my girlfriend of allmost 5 years and while we did everything else we didnt have sex due to her convictions and while being a virgin didnt really bother me before it's all I can seem to think about now that Im single. I'm litterally keeping myself up at night stressing about this you can really feel like youre the only 20 something virgin in the world sometimes and it is incredibly frustrating, Not to mention the fear that youll be somehow inadequate when you do finally have sex or that women will be turned off by or reject you out of hand due to your inexperience. I have even seriosly considered going the hooker route just to "get it over with" but in the end I know that's not what I really want and I would like to thank the person who started this thread and the people who have responded it has made me feel alot better reading about people who are just as pitiful as me:)

[Sparky]

I'm in a similar situation I just turned twenty and I'm still a virgin, my excuse is that I just broke up with my girlfriend of allmost 5 years and while we did everything else we didnt have sex due to her convictions and while being a virgin didnt really bother me before it's all I can seem to think about now that Im single. I'm litterally keeping myself up at night stressing about this you can really feel like youre the only 20 something virgin in the world sometimes and it is incredibly frustrating, Not to mention the fear that youll be somehow inadequate when you do finally have sex or that women will be turned off by or reject you out of hand due to your inexperience. I have even seriosly considered going the hooker route just to "get it over with" but in the end I know that's not what I really want and I would like to thank the person who started this thread and the people who have responded it has made me feel alot better reading about people who are just as pitiful as me:)

 

Well, you're quite welcome. And yes, it's helped me a lot too.

[dervash]

weel to me it looks like some kind of psycho case. bu if u do it naturally everything could be set up