ryanan2 Posted May 5, 2007 Share Posted May 5, 2007 They say people can't change but honestly I think I'm a changed man. After losing whom I would consider to be my 'real true love' in life, I had to take some time and change. We lived together for six months and everything was great, we were on the verge of getting engaged and making a life together and then it all fell apart. I became addicted to online gambling and I didn't give her hardly any attention, so she left me and that was the worst day of my life. From that day on I gave up gambling and then took some time to do some volunteer work. I still very much loved her but had it mind that there was nothing I could do to get her back. Then I ran into her mother, the first time I seen her since her daughter and I split up and I guess she could tell I was trying to change and she tells me that she always thought I was the guy for her daughter but then told me that her daughter moved away with a truck driver. I gave up on anything until my dear old grandmother said the reason that I did all this was that the angels were singing to ya since they knew you made a mistake in life by not keeping your true love and ya need to just make things right with her. Its been a over a year since she and I broke up and was expecting that she might be engaged. So she emails me this long letter a couple days ago saying everything thats happened since then and I had it mind that I could handle anything even if she was married at least I knew that I'm a better man now and that she found someone that loves her. Sadly that isn't that case, she lives but a few blocks away, the man she loved passed away. I feel guilty, its my thought that if I hadn't messed things up with my true love none of this bad stuff would've happened. At this point she's grieving and I could never replace the guy she lost. She wants to have further contact with me buit I don't think it would do her or me me any good. I still love her and we are both still young at 26 but dont know, I don't see how I can get closer to her now. What can I do in this difficult situation? thank ryan Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 5, 2007 Share Posted May 5, 2007 Just let her go, She's in grief and it sounds like you might just have fulfillment sex. Leave her alone and let her be. You did everything you could. That's the thing about letting go. You live you learn, you move on. Link to post Share on other sites
bubbalump Posted May 5, 2007 Share Posted May 5, 2007 A year later your thinking much clearer than right after the breakup, and you've said you made improvements in your life. Right now shes reaching out for a friend , and im sure on some level she still misses you. But she is going through a horrible greiving process which is brutally hard on all of us. From reading your situation and applying it to my ex ( as theres no way for me to know your past relationship).....i would reach back to her, as a friend. If you do choose to reach out as a friend, protect yourself and your heart as feelings may come rushing back. Some people might disagree with me ...but if I stood in your shoes, id reach out as a friend. Good luck man in whatever you choose. Link to post Share on other sites
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