andy5128 Posted May 6, 2007 Share Posted May 6, 2007 Hi All I met up with my ex only yesterday, quick scenario update split up end of Jan. Continued contact til end of March then went NC. Decided to contact her as felt ready too and she agreed to meet up and she told me she would let me know when and where and that was last week. She then sent me a text message on Wednesday asking if I could meet her after work on Thursday(yesterday). So we caught up and further details on that below... The get together update!! Well a bit of a dash from work early as she wanted to meet at quarter past 4! So managed to leave work early but had to get to the other side of town and as usual when you want to get somewhere quickly the traffic is a nightmare!! lol Parked up nearby and it was just about to turn quarter past so was just writing a text to her and she called!! Just asking if I was nearby and I said yeah just parked up and walking over now which is just nearby, she said ok will meet you at the corner of the road. Not sure if I have told everyone befor but she has been on one of these crash diets! She's been on it for a while and I knew about it as she had been planning it since late last year when we were together still. I never had an issue with her weight, in fact always thought she looked great as she was nice and shapely!! Anyway she looked so different!! Thankfully I am looking good too, especially with my new justin timberlake shaved haircut!! LOL Well we walked down to the bar and I got the drinks in, we chatted away about allsorts of usual stuff, hows the new job going, hows the parents and so on.. A few brief pauses with silence when together or maybe I was just being over paranoid!! Anyway after about an hour I asked if she wanted another drink on the 3rd or so by then! She said yeah but got to go afterwards as got to see my parents. So had the final drink carried on chatting and then as we were both about to go I kissed her on the cheek. She said nice to see you again and had a nice time, I asked if we could get together again sometime soon and she said yeah, text me and we can arrange something. So any thoughts folks!? Was just going to leave it now for a couple of weeks then text and arrange another get together. Or do I contact sooner or do I leave it longer?!? Would appreciate your advice... Link to post Share on other sites
Author andy5128 Posted May 6, 2007 Author Share Posted May 6, 2007 Hi All For those following this thread an update already!!!... Sent a text just simply saying had a nice time the other day, let me know when your available to catch up sometime soon or something along those lines.. Well about half an hour later got a text from her saying I don't want you to get the wrong idea, I do want to be friends but not see you every week or soo was thinking just now and then.. So I replied saying basically no problem and my mobile phone (cell phone for you US guys) is in her name so mentioned I need to change this over. She replied with let me know what you want to do about the phone... I sent a reply saying Are you free to talk about the phone? as it was a bit much going through it via text She then replied saying sorry no going out now I replied with no problem, let me know when your free to talk about it. That's it, so I guess either my lack of patience with this has let me down or I was living in false hope!! Well I am jumping on the No Contact Challenge I think, If I have a response about sorting the phone will deal with that but otherwise NC for me... It amazes me how things seem good one minute then crap the next!! LOL Well that's how things go I suppose.. Link to post Share on other sites
upsetnhurt Posted May 6, 2007 Share Posted May 6, 2007 What happened to waiting a month or so to text? That is why seeing her before you are completely over her is a problem. You are back to square one here and you are trying so hard to avoid facing that fact. Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted May 6, 2007 Share Posted May 6, 2007 Yes, Andy, it is amazing at what speed things can turn to crap! Up one minute. Smashing to the pavement the other. These second chance deals rarely do succeed I think. Whenever I reconciliated with an ex in the long run things never worked out ....just another heartbreak, a more devastating one, a bit further down the line. I'm really sorry this had to happen to you! Who knows? Maybe it is for the best.. I really don't hold much store in second chances or a zillion for that matter. I'm currently in a second chance limbo situation ...we act like friends but friends don't call eachother everyday for hours of chatting. I'm taking it slowly but already it's wearing me down. I 'm the kind of person who needs to know where I stand and this being suspended in midair - not talking openly and honestly about what is going on - is taxing on my nerves. I don't know if NC is the answer ..just wait awhile and see what she does. Stay strong! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted May 7, 2007 Share Posted May 7, 2007 I recently saw my ex after 2 months of NC. It was really nice to see him although there were a few awkward silences, but after the ice broke it was great and we ended up spending the whole day together. After that i didnt contact him again, and i heard from him only a few days later! Im meeting him again today! So i think sometimes these things can go somewhere, but i would defo say NC, you have made your feelings clear and she knows that! she knows you want to meet her again! Its hard wen you have met up and had a nice time......but if she wants to see you u will hear from her! Be strong and see what happens, Live your own life in the mean time, Never wait on something that may never happen! Link to post Share on other sites
Author andy5128 Posted May 7, 2007 Author Share Posted May 7, 2007 Upsetnhurt.. your right I should of left it, my own impatience!! Yeah back to square one!! Thanks Marlena, your right second chances are very slim and maybe I have blown it. I think full no contact is the way to go, I need her to now come to me if thats what she wants and me not leave things then contact down the line as it blows up in my face. Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted May 7, 2007 Share Posted May 7, 2007 I think full no contact is the way to go, I need her to now come to me That's the answer, Andy, as harsh as it is! And when and if she does, I hope you look and feel great! She will notice and wonder!!! In he meantime, you'll be confident and happy! Link to post Share on other sites
Author andy5128 Posted May 7, 2007 Author Share Posted May 7, 2007 Cheers Marlena Yeah well I go to the gym 4 nights a week now and in good shape well much better than I was a few months back. It's good to look good as it just makes you feel good too, so will be focussing on that. I am not going to blow out the friends now and then she offered just not going to mention it if we speak about the phone soon and then it's upto her if she wants to catch up as friends and for her to make the contact.. Link to post Share on other sites
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