aaronburdett Posted May 7, 2007 Share Posted May 7, 2007 how do u no if u love some1 or not wut are some of the signs? Link to post Share on other sites
lonelybird Posted May 8, 2007 Share Posted May 8, 2007 u just no, it's like destiny:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
vegetarianqt Posted May 14, 2007 Share Posted May 14, 2007 You'll know if there's chemistry that's for sure. Love? Well, love is a choice. When people say, "how do I know if I've fallen in love?" Well, love isn't a passive verb. You don't fall into it. You choose to love someone. Liking someone and just having chemistry and being infatuated starts turning into something more: you start looking at this person and you forget your own selfishness and want to make that person happy regardless of what you get in return. Then when you get to that point, it can become love if you choose to put that person's needs above your own. I believe love is forever, so if you truly love that person, forever doesn't seem long enough to be serving and giving and loving this one person. Love is amazing because it's the only time that people just lose their selfishness. When there aren't any alterior motives but the happiness of another. That's love. Remember, love isn't leisure. It's work. but the wages are worth it. (to love and be loved in return is the greatest thing in the world) Link to post Share on other sites
vegetarianqt Posted May 14, 2007 Share Posted May 14, 2007 You'll know if there's chemistry that's for sure. Love? Well, love is a choice. When people say, "how do I know if I've fallen in love?" Well, love isn't a passive verb. You don't fall into it. You choose to love someone. Liking someone and just having chemistry and being infatuated starts turning into something more: you start looking at this person and you forget your own selfishness and want to make that person happy regardless of what you get in return. Then when you get to that point, it can become love if you choose to put that person's needs above your own. I believe love is forever, so if you truly love that person, forever doesn't seem long enough to be serving and giving and loving this one person. Love is amazing because it's the only time that people just lose their selfishness. When there aren't any alterior motives but the happiness of another. That's love. Remember, love isn't leisure. It's work. but the wages are worth it. (to love and be loved in return is the greatest thing in the world) Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted May 15, 2007 Share Posted May 15, 2007 how do u no if u love some1 or not wut are some of the signs? Counter-question: How old are you? Link to post Share on other sites
lonelybird Posted May 15, 2007 Share Posted May 15, 2007 You'll know if there's chemistry that's for sure. Love? Well, love is a choice. When people say, "how do I know if I've fallen in love?" Well, love isn't a passive verb. You don't fall into it. You choose to love someone. Liking someone and just having chemistry and being infatuated starts turning into something more: you start looking at this person and you forget your own selfishness and want to make that person happy regardless of what you get in return. Then when you get to that point, it can become love if you choose to put that person's needs above your own. I believe love is forever, so if you truly love that person, forever doesn't seem long enough to be serving and giving and loving this one person. Love is amazing because it's the only time that people just lose their selfishness. When there aren't any alterior motives but the happiness of another. That's love. Remember, love isn't leisure. It's work. but the wages are worth it. (to love and be loved in return is the greatest thing in the world) Good post Link to post Share on other sites
Author aaronburdett Posted May 18, 2007 Author Share Posted May 18, 2007 i am 16 years old Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted May 18, 2007 Share Posted May 18, 2007 i am 16 years old I figured somewhere in that range. You don't worry too much about true love right now, kiddo. Just concentrate on being the best you can be. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aaronburdett Posted May 20, 2007 Author Share Posted May 20, 2007 ok now that i no wut love is me and my girlfriend broke up about one month ago how do u i tell if i still love her and want her back cause i ask myself all the time "do i love her?".cause i no this prob. sounds dumb but i still sleep with her bear she give me and i dont go to bed with out it and i still keep the notes she give me and ill shoot someone if they messed them up i get realy jeaous when she is with her new boyfriend and i just feel like runing up to her and just kissing her but in the back of my head im like do i love her?i no this is weird most of the times im ok when im around her or on the phone its just when im not is not can someone help me Link to post Share on other sites
frannie Posted May 20, 2007 Share Posted May 20, 2007 Well you have a lot of emotions around her... love is a very complicated thing. You're talking of jealousy, but lots of other less negative things like treasuring things she gave you and attaching a lot of meaning to them. I don't think that love and emotions even get a lot more easier to deal with or make more sense as you get older... we just tend to think we know a lot more (mainly because of our prejudices and lessons and hurts). No one can probably unravel this for you... and maybe asking questions like 'am I in love' don't really work. Just treasure or experience those feelings for what they are. About wanting her back... well do you really want her, the person she is... or is it about comfort and the nearness of 'a' person..? Is she your first girlfriend, or were there others ... and what makes her different..? Listen, I'm 44 and I'm still not a whole lot nearer knowing the answer some days. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aaronburdett Posted May 20, 2007 Author Share Posted May 20, 2007 yes i want her back,i cant stop thinkig about her,yes i like how she is me and her have alot of things in common and i like her for who she is its just kills me not haveing her by my side Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted May 20, 2007 Share Posted May 20, 2007 You love who they are and not what they can do for you Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted May 20, 2007 Share Posted May 20, 2007 ok now that i no wut love is me and my girlfriend broke up about one month ago how do u i tell if i still love her and want her back cause i ask myself all the time "do i love her?".cause i no this prob. sounds dumb but i still sleep with her bear she give me and i dont go to bed with out it and i still keep the notes she give me and ill shoot someone if they messed them up i get realy jeaous when she is with her new boyfriend and i just feel like runing up to her and just kissing her but in the back of my head im like do i love her?i no this is weird most of the times im ok when im around her or on the phone its just when im not is not can someone help me Aaron, although I'm tempted, I'll try not to be too preachy in what I say. Here goes... I don't think you can really be in "love" at 16...sorry, but that's what I think. It's just infatuation, attraction, and attachment. This is the tricky part about "love". Love and attachment are so alike, it's difficult to distinguish which is which. The way I see it, love cannot exist without attachment. But attachment CAN exist without love. What you're feeling is all the leftover attachment you have to her. Not love. You concentrate on yourself right now. You'll find out about love when you're a bit more grown-up, because you'll see that love has so many dimensions to it. In fact, I think it remains a learning process throughout life. Link to post Share on other sites
frannie Posted May 20, 2007 Share Posted May 20, 2007 yes i want her back,i cant stop thinkig about her,yes i like how she is me and her have alot of things in common and i like her for who she is its just kills me not haveing her by my side Well I asked a lot more specific things than this, about other girlfriends and what's particular about her. I suppose it's hard to know those things when you have little experience. I certainly had next to none, and didn't really feel the way you were feeling til I was older than you are. If it 'just kills you' not having her, but you want to know if it's love, well.. love has many definitions, and even obsessional feeling about someone you barely know really hurts and is talked about as unrequited love. What you need to look at I suppose is whether this feeling is doing good or bad things for you and whether it's leading anywhere... because those are the important things. So... is this going anywhere, does she still want to be with you..? How did things go when you were together..? Did you treat her well? Why did you split up..? I hate to sound condescending but at 16 really nothing is going to last because you're still finding your feet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aaronburdett Posted May 21, 2007 Author Share Posted May 21, 2007 no im pertty sure it mite be love , i think about being with her 24/7 and think of stuff that will happen later on in life with her and all i want to do is just be around her Link to post Share on other sites
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted May 21, 2007 Share Posted May 21, 2007 no im pertty sure it mite be love , i think about being with her 24/7 and think of stuff that will happen later on in life with her and all i want to do is just be around her My only advice then would be to pay attention to your spelling and grammar, and improve upon it. At least THAT will help you in life, for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
hrtbroken99 Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 :love:love is the most wonderful experience....I wish that everyone at some point in their lifetime have a chance to experience it...for me I knew that I was in love with my exbf when all I did was think about him, wanted to devote everything for him, spend all my time with him, please him, care for him, cook for him, everything was about him, and when he was not in my sight all I did was think about him constantly, even though we are broken up now for 6 months..I still love him, and a day does not go by where I do not think about him...it sux now because we are no longer together...treausre it while you have it because you never know when you could lose it Link to post Share on other sites
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