mrmaximum Posted May 7, 2007 Share Posted May 7, 2007 Hey gang, I need an ear if you have a spare moment. I may be overreacting or maybe this is justified. At any rate I'd like another set of eyes on this situation. Here is the scoop; getting married in just a few months, everything is essentially set. My fiancee has asked a long lost friend to be in the wedding party on her side. I didn't think it a good idea but I didn't complain at all when it happened. The person isn't really a bad seed, but is a might selfish and self centered. When we told her that children aren't allowed at this function, she didn't call us for approx. 3 months (we have planned this wedding just under two years ago and we think she was a little upset that her little "angel" wasn't allowed to come) and then when we called we only got her machine. Finally when she did pick up, my fiancee had to come right out and ask her if she was still in. She said yes and things seemed to improve. Just this past weekend we had a buck and doe that she was supposed to be a part of, she was responsible for bringing the dessert. She didn't even show up, not her or any member of her family whatsoever. Not even a call to say why or why not. My SIL called the next day and asked what happened and she said that she got food poisoning and was bed ridden all day. Then my SIL asked about why her husband and her parents (who live with them) didn't come up themselves or even call her so she could bring the food as she lives right around the corner from them. Her answer; they (all three of them) where taking care of her. At this time she still hasn't called my fiancee to apologize for what happened. It just seems a might fishy to me, that's all. Hey gang, am I overreacting or should my Fiancee think about getting someone to possibly stand in for the big day? This would really upset me to have my future wife dissapointed on what is to be such a great day. I'd like to hear your opinion on this matter. Thanks for taking the time guys, I really appreciate it Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 7, 2007 Share Posted May 7, 2007 Better yet, have your SO talk to this person with some straight talk. Something to the tune of how important this day is to her and how unreliable this other person has been to this point, therefore, it's best that someone else replace this person. There's no use adding the additional stress to a day that will already be organized chaos. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mrmaximum Posted May 8, 2007 Author Share Posted May 8, 2007 I appreciate your advice. I told the wife and she is VERY dissapointed about the whole situation. This woman has been showing signs of jealousy for quite some time to be honest. She and her hubby never really had a large wedding and ours is going to be somewhat unique. She was an only child and pretty well got whatever she wanted, so she doesn't take being told no too well. Just in case my fiancee has told me that our neighbour who has been invited has gotten a dress that could easily pass for one of the bridesmaid's dresses, so if things go awry on the day of, we won't be too screwed. Thanks again. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 8, 2007 Share Posted May 8, 2007 She sounds like someone who's very unhappy with her life, who's completely self-centered. Someone like that will not have additional energy to give to your fiancée, on an important day. Even if she shows, who knows what strangeness might occur if she's harbouring silly grudges. It's good that you have a backup plan with this neighbor. You might want to have your neighbor bring her dress to the wedding, in case... Btw, Congrats on your upcoming nuptials! Link to post Share on other sites
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