Ladyjane14 Posted May 9, 2007 Share Posted May 9, 2007 I put full trust in my wife until she betrays. If that highly unlikely day should come I will end it. So then, wouldn't it be fair to say that you have...."a willingness to end the marriage if it becomes intolerable"? That's all I'm talking about Wog. It's not some nefarious plot to keep a man uncomfortable and squirming on tenterhooks. And as far as managing the money goes... there's no 'one size fits all'. My husband manages the finances, just because he's better at it. Not because he has a dingle. And we pool all our resources into one pot because THAT's what works best for us. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted May 9, 2007 Share Posted May 9, 2007 So then, wouldn't it be fair to say that you have...."a willingness to end the marriage if it becomes intolerable". That's all I'm talking about Wog. It's not some nefarious plot to keep a man uncomfortable and squirming on tenterhooks. And as far as managing the money goes... there's no 'one size fits all'. My husband manages the finances, just because he's better at it. Not because he has a dingle. And we pool all our resources into one pot because THAT's what works best for us. Everybody should be willing to end a bad marriage but withour trust there is no chance at a good marriage. People should not go in expecting it to go bad. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted May 9, 2007 Share Posted May 9, 2007 Everybody should be willing to end a bad marriage but withour trust there is no chance at a good marriage. People should not go in expecting it to go bad. Your wife isn't even on the deed to YOUR house.... yet she contributes financially...... you have a prenup too.... You are sounding like a hypocrite here Wog. :o Link to post Share on other sites
Ladyjane14 Posted May 9, 2007 Share Posted May 9, 2007 Everybody should be willing to end a bad marriage but withour trust there is no chance at a good marriage. People should not go in expecting it to go bad. I'm not saying I don't trust him. In fact, I make a concerted effort to do it in an "active" way, meaning I select it as a VERB. Like you and like him, if my spouse fails to treat my trust responsibly, I'm pulling the plug. But what I'm saying is that it keeps us both honest, it keeps us from slipping into complacency that we happen to KNOW that little detail about one another. Link to post Share on other sites
mammax3 Posted May 10, 2007 Share Posted May 10, 2007 Thanks for posting that Curmudgeon. I too have a hard time swallowing the word "Surrendered" but I think that a lot of what she says seems logical. One of the things I've reflected on in my marriage is that we became less like partners and less like friends, if that makes sense (could be due to our situation, who knows!). What I mean is that I wasn't even interacting with him as respectfully as a friend, and definitely not as a partner, since I didn't feel like he was either. But in my situation, not much would have worked since we didn't see each other... The wording of getting out of a marriage pt #2, said that if there is "inappropriate violent or sexual acts to the children"... Is there ever 'appropriate' violent or sexual acts to kids?? I know what she's saying, but it just stuck with me.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sunset Posted May 10, 2007 Author Share Posted May 10, 2007 Wow, thank you - for giving me such a laugh and cheering me up today! I did not score too badly on the quiz but I have just ordered the book anyway. I am guessing that its similar to a lot of self help books, a few snippits to help, some things you already knew and its fair share of 'not a hope in hell' And Ladyjane, I have never heard it called a dingle before Link to post Share on other sites
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