Too shy or not interested???

[Alpha]

Hi everybody! Nice forum, I'm new here. (and re-typing this message for the second time, be careful…)

 

As many people here, I am trying to be fixed on the feelings of a friend…

 

I met him 8 months ago, we were working together last summer. As we began to know each other better, I realised (and I'm sure he did too, it's too obvious) that we have a LOT of interests in common, we have the same "perception of the life", the same kind of goals, etc. And I realised that I really like him, maybe more than just a friend.

 

There is some signs that I could interest him but I'm confused… He is shy and really do not show his feelings easily…and me too. At the beginning, I crossed his eyes very often when we were in room plenty of people, we were strangely always at the same place at the same moment, he sometimes brushed against me slightly, he answer when somebody ask me a question… He told me many times that when we'll be back in the city (we were working somewhere back in the country) we can see each other and practice sport, do some activities, etc…I have learned by a common friend that he is happy to meet me. I kissed him on the cheeks and I noticed he was a bit troubled…

 

But I am always doing the first step to see him, he rarely call me to organize something. He do not try to have even small physical contact…Is he too shy or simply not interested?? We are both very busy with the university and have very little free time.

 

The last time I saw him, we talked for about two hours and during all this time, he looked right into my eyes, sometimes very intensively, and nowhere else (I mean, nowhere else in the room or by a window ;-) He always try to make me laugh with funny stories, he tell me thing like "Oh… look what love can make people do" talking about some friend's love story, etc. He has pictures of me just I front of his computer… He call me back very rapidly when I ask him a question, he tell me compliments when we are alone, he insisted to tell me that he'll be back very soon in the city (where I live) after the holidays… A perfect friend..

 

What do you think about that? I am not particularly good at psychoanalysing people…Is he only a nice friend or does he want to go further?? I am not sure but I do not think he had serious relationship in the past… If I was sure about his feelings I would tell him mine… What should I do? By the way, I think he is the only person I have ever known that is so similar to me (except for my father…) We're both 20.

 

Thanks,

 

Alpha

[Tolkien]

I think he is defiantly interested in you, now to your question of is he more interested as a friend, or future b/f. Let me think, I'm a little shy myself, and I think the way I treat girls I like is the way he is treating you. Except I'd love for the girl to take the initiative and kiss me! That would be great, lol. I don't know, but I think I would be too shy to just do it like that.

 

I noticed he was a bit troubled

 

I would be a bit troubled too if I was kissed by a guy, do you see my point?

 

I my be 110% wrong, he might just not want to go there yet, it all depends on the person.

 

Has he told you he likes you, does he compliment you often, anything like that?

 

I was just reading over where you said he doesn't show his feelings, I'm the exact same way, so my two cents would just be to continue being "friends" and if this is where you want to take it, work your way into his heart. Never ever demand anything, dont make him feel pressured to tell you how he feels. When he starts expressing feelings to you, starts telling you about problems or anything, then you know you have his trust.

 

If you want to take it a step further, that's up to you, but at that point, you are "close friends." That's the perfect place to build a relationship off of.