mixtnconfuzd Posted May 11, 2007 Share Posted May 11, 2007 ok i will try to make this as short as possible and to the point and it may sound appalling to some but my boyfriend of a year which we live together for 9-10 months have been fighting for the past week and he has been coming home later than usual since then but i almost know where he is 99% of the time bcause his family lives 1 block away from me and thats where he spends most of his time--his way of dealign with us arguing is to ignore me--oh a big fact--we have had sex everyday sometimes 3-4 times a day since we since april of last year-i could say maybe only 4-5 days we didnt if that and one of them was last night bcause i made him really mad but thats another story--i dont think he has cheated on me and i know he loves me alot--but ok here goes---i was looking through his dirty laundry and checked his boxers and noticed a little stain not really white(shorts were black) but maybe like clear--so i sniffed--didnt really smell like urine and definetely not me! i know whay my juices smell like! they are on his washcloth everday! so now i am really more upset bcause i always think the worst of every situation--so do i ask him if he was with anyone last night etc...??? or hint or what> how do i ask? do i wait to do it face to face or call him or what? ive never had to deal with this--and he is my heart and it would devastate me! HELP!!!!!!!! ASAP!!111111 you shouldn't ask him, because he will obviously deny it. You have to catch him in the act. Heres a blog that I found it may help. http://dirtycheat.blogspot.com Link to post Share on other sites
Author alexa137 Posted May 13, 2007 Author Share Posted May 13, 2007 i think im gonna continue this post on the breakup forum: this is now a different subject---nothings changed--other than i am trying to be out the apartment as much as possile--only to sleep get things etc..the past few days--i gave him a little taste of what hes been doing to me fri night--i pretended like i was out(at bar)which he hates--i was actually doing laundry in the bldg 200 feet from my apt! so i saw him a few times in and out at his dads, store, etc...saw that he went home at 11pm--so i thought hmmm--i will make him wait for me--so i parked my car down the street and folded laundry(fun huh) well i had nothing else to do! no money no gas and my friend was busy---he started texting me 2 mins later asking me when i was coming home,,,what time etc...i waited and gave qucik responses he tried calling i didnt asnswer waited til about 12:15am came home and went to bed--he was in bed--he tried sex i said no--next morning he tried sex before work i said no--if i cant get what i want by you spending time with me then you dont get what you want!" he got pissed and went to work--i went out of town shopping etc..he called few times for dumb stuff--and i pretended like i didnt want to talk and had to go-at night started with texts--i was riding around with my daughter went to dinner and mall etc..storm started so i finally ran out of gas and money again and went home a bout 9am--he came home 10:30pm went to bed i watched tv went to bed-- this morning he left to go fishing didnt say a work--so i left him voicemail that basically said ur so mean and ignorant, and hurtful that i want out of this--i gotta --so leave me alone dont text dont call etc..and to move asap before i go on vacation end of month and i can do bad by myself and i cant even stand being around him anymore! he tried calling while i was in church til now and i didnt answer--texted him again saying i just want you to let me go" he came home asked me "what" i said nothing--he mumbled something out the door and left Link to post Share on other sites
Author alexa137 Posted May 18, 2007 Author Share Posted May 18, 2007 ok after telling him sunday to let me go and i cant be with someone who doesnt treat me the way i wanted--monday- til today he has acted a little nicer to me--money talk a kiss but today--ha! i got the cell phone bill! ok so why would you call the same number almost everyday for 2 weeks like 10-20 times a day!! its a new # wasnt in the situation a few months ago--started about april 9th-til may 3rd-- so i called it from a pay phone--it was a girl--so i said just wanted to let yo know that the guy you are messing with has a girlfriend--she just asked who is this i didnt tell and i repeated myself again and added that they have lived together for almost a year and plan on marriage etc.. so she says oh really who is this i said cousin of that someone--and she said and how do you know i am messing with someone? so i just said well just so you know he has a girlfriend and she hung up my bf and i just argued( ididnt bring up anything!) for a few hours he was saying i have been mean to him all day blah blah--i wanted to kick his ass out so bad--told him to come here--he didnt answer phone for 30 mins(vm came on) he said he was talking to sprint--but it was either that or her-- i am sure he knows something--he packed his stuff--i started with the questions but no answers etc... he just left-but didnt take his stuff--told him if he leaves that means you are hinting that we are completely done and you dont want me anymore--etc-- i just need to proof who she is---if he cheating i really would be devastated--bcause we talked about that being the worst thing to do to someone! and we still have sex everynight-- well the last time i checked phone bill and made calls we broke up over it--so i dont know what will happen--but he has no proof bcasue i didnt say who i was to the girl and i made the call from a payphone Link to post Share on other sites
dbtmarley Posted May 18, 2007 Share Posted May 18, 2007 If I knew my woman was sniffing my boxers when I was away I would soak those bad boys in some ammonia... but then again we joke like that. Link to post Share on other sites
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