ex called

[Kyle323]

About six months ago I made it a point to get a hold of an ex whom I haven't seen in two years. I think I still love her and sure I would like a second chance with her but the main thing I just wanted to see how she's doing in life. She calls last week while I was at work so the next day I called her and we have an alright conversation. I don't know why but for some reason I was freaking nervous, my legs were shaking and I couldn't think straight. She hardly asked me anything and at the end of the conversation instead of saying call again she says I'm sure I'll hear from you sometime again.

 

 

I didn't really get the impression I was hoping for. How long should I wait to call agian if I don't hear back from her? Should I even call again? Isnn't it true that if no talk comes up to meet then thats a sign for a no call? Any more advice..

 

thanks kyle

[Teddy and Jane]

About six months ago I made it a point to get a hold of an ex whom I haven't seen in two years. I think I still love her and sure I would like a second chance with her but the main thing I just wanted to see how she's doing in life. She calls last week while I was at work so the next day I called her and we have an alright conversation. I don't know why but for some reason I was freaking nervous, my legs were shaking and I couldn't think straight. She hardly asked me anything and at the end of the conversation instead of saying call again she says I'm sure I'll hear from you sometime again.

 

 

I didn't really get the impression I was hoping for. How long should I wait to call agian if I don't hear back from her? Should I even call again? Isnn't it true that if no talk comes up to meet then thats a sign for a no call? Any more advice..

 

thanks kyle

 

I think you should definitely call her soon, within a week. At that point, you should be the one to suggest getting together for coffee or lunch or something light like that.

[skper138]

I would agree. call her and invite her out for coffee or a quick bite.

if you have feeling for her then you have nothing to lose and a lot to gain. if she says no then that's ok remember your goal is to take things slow and do things the right way. she will think about it and she will end up bringing it up next time or you can try to bring it up again after a few more phone calls. Do not make the calls to frequent unless you know for sure she wants to talk to you often. If she says yes to the coffee or lunch then do not talk to her about your feelings till you get a good feel about her status. take it slow and remeber that if this woman is for you then there is no worries. only time will tell. be her friend and catch up on all those things that happend in your lifes in the past 2 years. women are always one step ahead and sometimes there is no need for you to speak your feelings.

good luck to you; I truly mean it

[2ndIINone]

She hardly asked me anything and at the end of the conversation instead of saying call again she says I'm sure I'll hear from you sometime again.

 

this sounds a little cocky and arrogant to me. As if she KNOWS you're gonna call her again as if... you can't stay away from her.

 

Am I wrong to assume this?

[New Hope]

Guy, I agree with 2ndIInone..He said it for me,,,guy move on with your life, after two years.....she still has u by the balls. Be a Man!!!..Plus u was looking for her, Not her u....Theres too many girls, to be focus on One!! The fear of lost, Stops greater GAIN!!

[2ndIINone]

Exactly.... IF she said it like that.... then she's got a bad attitude and thinks she's got you wrapped....

 

Don't go pursuing her... she knows you called... if she wants you in her life, let her come to you minus that attitude.

[CaliGuy]

Hate to sound harsh but:

 

I don't know why but for some reason I was freaking nervous, my legs were shaking and I couldn't think straight.

 

You were nervous and not really confident. She sensed this because:

 

She hardly asked me anything and at the end of the conversation

 

Because she isn't into you. That's a big sign. She's moved on, perhaps it's time you have as well?

 

 

instead of saying call again she says I'm sure I'll hear from you sometime again.

 

Uhhh newflash, Cheif. She knows you're on her proverbial string and she doesn't respect you. Respect precedes love. You don't have it from her so she can't possibly fall in love with you.

 

I didn't really get the impression I was hoping for. How long should I wait to call agian if I don't hear back from her? Should I even call again? Isnn't it true that if no talk comes up to meet then thats a sign for a no call? Any more advice..

 

My advice to you? Never call her again. Put her on permanent NC and move on with your life.

 

Why waste your time on someone who doesn't want to be with you while the one who does is still out there, waiting for you to find her?

[Teddy and Jane]

I have to disagree with Caliguy. From a woman's perspective, I would phone an exboyfriend out of the blue only if I was thinking about them a lot and was considering getting back together.

I think it was awkward for her in knowing what to say because she was trying to read him just as much as he was trying to read her. Her comment at the end "I'm sure I'll hear from you soon." was not at ALL arrogant, probably just an awkward version of "talk soon". Also it could be an invitation for him to call, totally opening lines of communication....nothing wrong with that, I called you, you call me, how the he** is that arrogant?

It sounds like you really like her and there is no way she would call you out of the blue if she wasn't thinking of you. I definitely think you should do as I said, call her soon and have a coffee or lunch date and take it SLOWLY from there! Trust me, woman's point of view here!

[2ndIINone]

maybe arrogant was a bad choice of words... nonetheless... I had said "IF" she had a bit of an attitude with her... "I'm sure I'll hear from you...." comment, then it's obvious her head and ego was inflated by HIS contact first. She didn't contact him out of the blue.... he contacted her first. Dumpers tend to have that type of attitude when they're being chased by the person they dumped. I wasn't on the phone with them, that's why I asked about her comment to him.... before I judged her words. My first thoughts were... "Im sure I'll hear from you...." sounded to me like she needs to get over herself... but without more info I can't just assume that.

 

Regardless... He made the first move... she returned the call and didn't have much to say to him... why should he continue? Ex's are ex's for a reason.

[Teddy and Jane]

He called her six months ago. Her suddenly calling him was her calling him out of the blue.

Again, I'm a woman....dumper or not, she's missing him for sure. Like I said, it was awkward because she didn't know how he was reacting. Lots of romantic tension there from both it appears.

 

Give her a call!

[Faith2]

Another woman's point of view - yes, call her again and do it soon. Ask her out so you can see each other face to face. Stop analyzing so much! Just do it and find out for real.

[CaliGuy]

I have to disagree with Caliguy. From a woman's perspective, I would phone an exboyfriend out of the blue only if I was thinking about them a lot and was considering getting back together.

 

She didn't phone him out of the blue. She was returning his call. After two years, she was probably just wondering what he wanted. Either way, even if it was 6 months, she didn't sound too exited to talk to him and if anything his nervousness was noticable over the phone.

 

I think it was awkward for her in knowing what to say because she was trying to read him just as much as he was trying to read her. Her comment at the end "I'm sure I'll hear from you soon." was not at ALL arrogant, probably just an awkward version of "talk soon". Also it could be an invitation for him to call, totally opening lines of communication....nothing wrong with that, I called you, you call me, how the he** is that arrogant?

It sounds like you really like her and there is no way she would call you out of the blue if she wasn't thinking of you. I definitely think you should do as I said, call her soon and have a coffee or lunch date and take it SLOWLY from there! Trust me, woman's point of view here!

 

I think if he does that he is in for a serious let down. However, if his curiosity needs satisfied, he should call her. At least that way he gets a clear answer.

[Teddy and Jane]

She didn't phone him out of the blue. She was returning his call. After two years, she was probably just wondering what he wanted. Either way, even if it was 6 months, she didn't sound too exited to talk to him and if anything his nervousness was noticable over the phone.

 

 

 

I think if he does that he is in for a serious let down. However, if his curiosity needs satisfied, he should call her. At least that way he gets a clear answer.

 

You don't wait six months to "return a call." She was thinking about him and called him.

But yeah, the phone call isn't enough for him to go on. I think she does want him to call or she wouldn't have said "I'm sure I'll be hearing from you."

[ibitealil]

I agree with TJ,

you called her at first, probably all her friends told her to move on so she tried to let you go but she couldnt, she still misses you, a lot and calls you. Believe me just like you she was nervious as hell. It took so much courage for her to call you and she just chose those words because she was scared that you will reject her after all this time (two years). Dont you know women get social pressure (from friends etc) to be proud and cool, so she just acts to be proud but she isnt, she wants you. She is expecting your call now!

Good luck!

[InvisibleTouch]

She dumped you, she must pick you back up. The next move can only be hers. Its ok to be civil in converstaion but unless she makes an effort to show that she values you how can you possibly take her words seriously?