Reconciliation tonight

[nicgentile]

I am black dude African and she is Polish. We met thru friends when I was working in London when I was there on a one year work program. She lived in Poland, me London. I hopped on a plane went over, met up, fell in love i came back. A month later, she moved in with me. I started looking at extending my work program and got the go ahead from work and authorities just before Xmas. However, I could only extend my work program in UK, not outside. But family back home run into deep problems, so I had to go help, and it would have taken 2 years, she went back to Poland. However, I resolved everything in a month, went back to Poland and spent a month with her and her family, told her mom that I planned to marry her and got her blessing. I came back to London and struggled to sort out my Work Visa and finally got it today. Been waiting since March. She was supposed to come back here end of this month. However, things have changed. She says she is feeling confused, and is not sure of her feelings. The only reason I came back to Europe was because of her. I was offered three positions, one in SA and two in NY. But I came back cause of her. Anyway, she is 24 I'm 26, we broke up on our first anniversary. I am not angry or anything, I messed up coming back cause of a woman, but now, yesterday we officially called it off. Today, she sent an email saying she wants to talk and remain friends cause she is not sure of herself. I told her that if she thought anything thru, she would have stuck it out with me and we could have fixed this. We were planning long term to get married after 7 years, or whenever, but not soon cause we had to still learn more about each other. This are some of the problems I see made our relationship die.

 

1. Her friends are 17 and 18, she is the oldest. She is beginning to sound like them telling me she does not want to spend her life with one person. Before all this, she was desperate to be with me. We used to talk so much and then it popped. i figure her friends are being b**hy and killing us.

 

2. Interaccial is very hard to work. 99% fails, but all her family, grandparents, everyone have put their blessings on this. But now she keeps saying how different we are.

 

3. I have a problem listening and with little white lies, but I have never bull****ted her with major ****. I have been working on the listening thing, but she does not recognize this.

 

4. She is scared of talking about her feelings. Its not a language issue, she says she does not talk about her feelings, but before, she used to send me email, text messages saying how much she loved me and how good we looked. Even after sex, she always used to get up and dress and then come to bed except when I told her no to, and she still had issues with that.

 

Now, I am ready to kill this thing, but I want a last shot at saving it tonight. I can reason with anyone except her. Is it worth it? I mailed over her stuff today cause it was making me feel like ****. If I am saving it, what am I to tell her? I have said everything a man in love tells a woman.