goxcrazy19 Posted May 10, 2007 Share Posted May 10, 2007 Is there such a thing as "IDEAL MAN" ?? -man who is honestly, and do not hide stupid little things behind your back -completely honest with you -fully respects you -etc. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveLace Posted May 10, 2007 Share Posted May 10, 2007 Lot of times I come across a man with almost all of the qualities I desire, but there is always an exception, something he's missing, sometimes its a minor thing, sometimes its a big thing, like he doesn't want kids...we must realize that no one we date will ever possess every single quality that we seek, cuz that would be like seeking perfect. And nothing is perfect. So some missing qualities are acceptable, but others are not, and it also depends on if they have other great things about them to make up for whatever is missing. I don't like really shy guys, but I might go for dating a guy who might a little shy around friends, but if he's not shy with me, it could be ok..that's just an example Link to post Share on other sites
kepners Posted May 10, 2007 Share Posted May 10, 2007 ME! i am perfect me, so my mum says! Link to post Share on other sites
directx Posted May 10, 2007 Share Posted May 10, 2007 Is there such a thing as "IDEAL MAN" ?? -man who is honestly, and do not hide stupid little things behind your back -completely honest with you -fully respects you -etc. So does that mean the world is loaded with "IDEAL WOMEN" and thus we don't have to ask the same question regarding women? Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted May 10, 2007 Share Posted May 10, 2007 Lot of times I come across a man with almost all of the qualities I desire, but there is always an exception, something he's missing, sometimes its a minor thing, sometimes its a big thing, like he doesn't want kids...we must realize that no one we date will ever possess every single quality that we seek, cuz that would be like seeking perfect. And nothing is perfect. So some missing qualities are acceptable, but others are not, and it also depends on if they have other great things about them to make up for whatever is missing. I don't like really shy guys, but I might go for dating a guy who might a little shy around friends, but if he's not shy with me, it could be ok..that's just an example Lovelace, you may be on to something. I've heard it said that women expect the man they marry to change, men hope their women don't. Could it be that you (or others) marry hoping that those "missing qualities" will appear after marriage, thus revealing a "change" in the man? If it does not happen can a woman be truely satisfied with her marriage? Link to post Share on other sites
LoveLace Posted May 10, 2007 Share Posted May 10, 2007 Lovelace, you may be on to something. I've heard it said that women expect the man they marry to change, men hope their women don't. Could it be that you (or others) marry hoping that those "missing qualities" will appear after marriage, thus revealing a "change" in the man? If it does not happen can a woman be truely satisfied with her marriage? Excellent question Lakeside...but 1st to directx really quick: of course men can ask the same question about women...but it's a woman (I assume) that is asking the question, so the post is probably supposed to focus on men, although many points can apply to women also! Good question though Lakeside, cuz it might be tolerable to "date" someone who might lack a desirable quality or 2, but we should ask ourselves, it's ok now but what if it was forever? I've heard that saying before about women hoping men will change and vice-versa, and it's true. Women go through life saying "he'll never grow up" and men say "she used to be so fun and now she's a bitch!"--I'd be rich if I had a penny for everytime I've heard those. I do believe its possible for men to change after marriage, and not right away; and it's usually on their own, due to growing more mature, not because their wives asked them to. If wives nag them, they are more likely NOT to change. And when I say change, I just mean that the average family-man with a good head on his shoulders will eventually know its time to raise a family and give up those long nights out with buddies at the strip club. Of course, wives and mothers have give up things to. But as far as things like topics you see here on LS...like "He never picks up the tab", or "he tells me I'm fat"....usually those are branches off parts of their personality or beliefs that will just never change. The crappy part is, sometimes we don't see negative sides of people until, hell we've already been married to them for 10 years! It happens you know- it could be something we never saw coming when we 1st dated them. For the most part though, we should view who we date as though this is what we'd have to live with forever. If there are components that make us uneasy, we can ask ourselves, is this a changable thing with a little influence.?.I believe it's possible at times. But if its an embedded personality trait, chances are they won't change no matter who they marry. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted May 10, 2007 Share Posted May 10, 2007 Is there such a thing as "IDEAL MAN" ?? -man who is honestly, and do not hide stupid little things behind your back -completely honest with you -fully respects you -etc. Yes, and his name is Wonderboy aka Mr Sb129. Well, he isn't PERFECT, but he is right for me, and i can answer yes to those three questions, and alot more besides. Link to post Share on other sites
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