sb129 Posted May 10, 2007 Share Posted May 10, 2007 I am moving to live with my BF in 8 weeks, i have got a job where he and alot of my close friends live. We are moving in together for financial reasons as well, as we can't afford to live separately in London its too expensive, and I still need to sell my house here. Despite it being a LDR, we spend nearly every weekend together, and every four weeks have a whole week together, we have done a little bit of travelling together (which went well- a good sign?!!) I am really excited about being able to see him more often, and spend more time with my friends. However, I have lived alone in my little cottage for nearly three years, and am wondering how well the transition from living alone to living with not just my boyfriend but with other people as we will have to share a flat to keep costs down. Any tips on making the transition as smooth as possible???? Link to post Share on other sites
stoopid Posted May 10, 2007 Share Posted May 10, 2007 How long have you two been together?I was with my girlfriend for about 4 months and she moved in,big mistake!wish i could have went back to the weekend thing ughhh Link to post Share on other sites
Author sb129 Posted May 10, 2007 Author Share Posted May 10, 2007 Six months- not long but it feels like ages. I know it sounds really cheesy, but I know the signs of a good man, I think this one really is a keeper. I wouldn't have even considered moving in with my ex, and we were together two years. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sb129 Posted May 11, 2007 Author Share Posted May 11, 2007 Hmmm. I really would like some tips from the successful co-habiters out there. Maybe I put this in the srong section. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted May 11, 2007 Share Posted May 11, 2007 Congratulations sb129!! As to living together - what worked for us was having a very realistic picture that we are two very different people raised differently and that those differences could lead to conflict if not addressed properly. For instance, he is a morning person - I am not. So instead of expecting me to become one (the honeymoon period is easy to make accommodations for these things - doing it to be together but I knew it was against my true nature) he used this time in the morning as his "alone" time. Same thing for me - I like late nights to read, now come to LS, etc. So a few nights a week he'd go to bed and I'd snuggle up to him later. You know him well enough to know if he is a neat freak, etc. So if you aren't or it is the opposite - it helps if you are both conscious of that as well. One tries to be more forgiving and one steps it up a bit. Just enjoy the fact that you are different in some habits - I actually love a lot of my husbands little quirky habits. Some would drive me crazy if I let them but I keep in mind that if I did away with whatever it is - I'd be doing away with him and I'd regret losing sight of the big picture by focusing on the little things. He and I talked about it before we ended up living together and we both were on the same page. And of course there are the days when a person just has a bad day. This is one I had a big problem with because I tended to take it personally. I had to learn, that sometimes he just had a bad day and didn't feel like being himself but it didn't mean it had anything to do with me. Of course I'd be in a mood sometimes and I'd know it wasn't him. But it was difficult to remember that when I was feeling the grumpiness from him. Everything else just kind of fell into place. Just typing this makes me misty. Every morning I miss my coffee being ready when I wake up. Those morning people are great! Ahhhh. Soon, very soon... Congratulations again! Link to post Share on other sites
Author sb129 Posted May 11, 2007 Author Share Posted May 11, 2007 Thanks IslandGirl- how are things with you? Your reply is exactly the kind of advice I was looking for! I am so excited, and I had a little chat with Wonderboy last night, expressing my excitement, but also saying it would be a big change, and I was a little apprehensive about the changes. He reminded me that its a change for him too, and as long as we talk about the things we are concerned about, or if anything crops up we are worried about to talk about it then we should be OK. We have both lived with partners before, but I have definitely grown up since then, and my BF is pretty considerate and communicative........... last time when I was about to move in with my partner 3.5 years ago I felt nothing but dread. Now I am excited, thats gotta be a good sign! Link to post Share on other sites
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