Problem solved....sort of

[guest]

Okay, so I'm trying to do the NC thing and I have been doing an excellent job. The thing is, I can't stop thinking about her and when she does call, I do want to talk to her, but I won't call her. I got an e-mail from her yesterday saying she lost her phone and doesn't have my number anymore and to e-mail it to her. I was going to send it to her, but I thought now is my chance to cut it off for good. I want to send it to her because deep down I am so hung up on her. I have been going out on so many dates and trying so hard to do my own thing, but these other women just don't do it for me and I realize that this girl was me. I mean I couldn't have asked for a more perfect match personality wise. And the thing is, she wasn't the most beautiful girl I have ever been with, it was all about her personality. I want to forget about her and give these other women a chance, but I am stuck. Why did I let this happen to me? I don't want her to know that I am still hung up on her or show any weakness which I have done since we ended it. I know she thinks I totally don't give a s*** about her anymore because when we have spoken, I am very indifferent to her and play it cool, but deep down, I am a mess. My only wish is that she never sees any weakness in me again because that is what caused the whole fallout to begin with. She saw me at a very vulnerable point and I know it completely turned her off. I will never let that happen again with anyone!

[CaliGuy]

Okay, so I'm trying to do the NC thing and I have been doing an excellent job. The thing is, I can't stop thinking about her and when she does call, I do want to talk to her, but I won't call her. I got an e-mail from her yesterday saying she lost her phone and doesn't have my number anymore and to e-mail it to her. I was going to send it to her, but I thought now is my chance to cut it off for good. I want to send it to her because deep down I am so hung up on her. I have been going out on so many dates and trying so hard to do my own thing, but these other women just don't do it for me and I realize that this girl was me. I mean I couldn't have asked for a more perfect match personality wise. And the thing is, she wasn't the most beautiful girl I have ever been with, it was all about her personality. I want to forget about her and give these other women a chance, but I am stuck. Why did I let this happen to me? I don't want her to know that I am still hung up on her or show any weakness which I have done since we ended it. I know she thinks I totally don't give a s*** about her anymore because when we have spoken, I am very indifferent to her and play it cool, but deep down, I am a mess. My only wish is that she never sees any weakness in me again because that is what caused the whole fallout to begin with. She saw me at a very vulnerable point and I know it completely turned her off. I will never let that happen again with anyone!

 

Don't give her your number. Don't reply.

 

If she really wanted to be with you she would say the magic words. "I'm sorry, I screwed up and I want to try again."

 

Anything else and she is keeping you on a string.

 

Don't be friends with someone you are still in love with. It will never work. It will only keep you down and keep you from healing.

 

Keep going with the NC and when you feel up to it, start seeing other women.

[krzr]

f that dont give her anything email is good enuff.

 

she seen u when u were your most vulnerable and broke up with you wtf? thats what relationships are for when one is down the other helps him out not step on him wtf. F her and do what cali said. and you like her personality why? lol shes not the right one for u or anyone else for that matter go find someone that is right for u.

[Guest]

f that dont give her anything email is good enuff.

 

she seen u when u were your most vulnerable and broke up with you wtf? thats what relationships are for when one is down the other helps him out not step on him wtf. F her and do what cali said. and you like her personality why? lol shes not the right one for u or anyone else for that matter go find someone that is right for u.

 

You guys are right! She wasn't there when I needed her the most and I really felt bad about that. Then when I did lay things on the table about how I felt about her, she gave me nothing in return. It's like I threw it all out there and it just went thud. I am just going to drop off the face of the earth as far as she is concerned. I know I am a really good person who deserves better than this and someday somebody will find me and I will find her and it will be the real thing. I just hope that when I do put myself out there again, it will be for the right person. I think right now I am just going to do my own thing and not try and look for somebody to date. If it happens, great. But I am not going to drive myself crazy trying to find someone.