Brendababy86 Posted May 11, 2007 Share Posted May 11, 2007 This june will be me (20 yr old) and my honey's(21 yr old) two year anniversary and although we have had problems in the past (and a breakup under our belts) I thought we were sailing for nothing but blue skies..Until I saw his EXTENSIVE PORN viewing on the internet. I would check his browser history and I would see that he has been pulling certain pics of the site to look at them..You and I both know that it's not to LOOK at what they have on..In the midst of all this, I remember him saying in the beginning of our relationship that he would never look at porn because it objectifies women and he believes that women should be respected. Well, if that's the case, he doesn't respect ME or ANY woman for that matter. He has also taken a liking to cartoon porn, anime porn, and pre teen hidden camera things. It's digusting. I have confronted him about it when, on certain occassions, I have come home and before I put my keys in the door I would go around back (since we live in a house) and peek in through the window and sure enough, he's there wacking off. It's frustrating..It almost makes me feel like there's something wrong with ME and MY image..Both him and me are big people and him looking at all these "ideal" skinny women on the internet makes me feel that on some level (in his mind) I don't live up to his expectations. Things came to a head yesterday when I finally got very upset and beat him up and broke his favorite (and only) computer chair when I discovered that he woke up before me to go look at porn on the computer while I slept. When I ask him why he looks at these things, I try and think of reasons why he would be tempted to..He was a virgin before he met me so I wonder if maybe he feels the need to mentally venture out and "mind-****" all the girls he can before he settles (if EVER). *SIGH* God help me I love him with all my heart but this has got to stop. I'm desperate for help. anything you guys out here can shine a light on would be appreciated.. Thanks alot, B Link to post Share on other sites
directx Posted May 11, 2007 Share Posted May 11, 2007 Boy, this was a dumb thing for him to say: "I remember him saying in the beginning of our relationship that he would never look at porn because it objectifies women and he believes that women should be respected." I would just talk about it. You can actually learn alot about him if you find out what kind of porn he likes. That pre-teen stuff is distrubing though. Personally, I would bail and make sure he seeks help. In fact, if you guys share that computer or both have equal access, he could get you both in serious trouble. I wouldnt take it as an image insult thing. Everybody likes something new/different. You could be with Anglina Jolie or Justine Bateman and their significant others would eventually be looking around. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted May 11, 2007 Share Posted May 11, 2007 No offense but I think the fact that you beat him up and broke his computer chair is far worse than him looking at porn. (Except that I agree..the pre-teen stuff, if they really are pre-teens that he's looking at, is quite disturbing. And I believe, illegal to boot.) Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted May 11, 2007 Share Posted May 11, 2007 Things came to a head yesterday when I finally got very upset and beat him up and broke his favorite (and only) computer chair when I discovered that he woke up before me to go look at porn on the computer while I slept. You beat him up? If his porn use is driving you to physical violence, then 1) you need to stop seeing him because now you are being abusive, and 2) you can't possibly have a rational discussion and come to any sort of compromise or agreement on this issue if you have resorted to physical violence - how do you expect him to hear you out if you are beating him? Link to post Share on other sites
directx Posted May 11, 2007 Share Posted May 11, 2007 Too bad this guy wasn't into S&M, then he would have LOVED getting beat up. Things could have really backfired for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Bobster999 Posted May 31, 2007 Share Posted May 31, 2007 If this is the only problem in your relationship things are going well. Stop being hung up on the porn stuff. However, the pre-teen stuff is a little scary and illegal. He needs to cut that stuff out. Link to post Share on other sites
Enema Posted May 31, 2007 Share Posted May 31, 2007 Preteen stuff is bad. Beating him up is bad. Him looking at porn is not bad. That you're insecure about yourself is Your problem, not His. The porn has nothing to do with you or your sex life. Link to post Share on other sites
tatzwife Posted June 1, 2007 Share Posted June 1, 2007 Sweetie, you are too young, you too are beautiful, life is too short. Come on. Beating him up because of porn? Time for both of you to move on girl! Find someone you have things in common with, who wants to spend the morning in bed with you instead of wacking off to preteens. Link to post Share on other sites
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