Need with a bedroom issue

[Guest]

I don't know if this is too graphic for this forum or not but I need some advice on what to do or say to my husband with an issue in the 'bedroom' area. My husband only really touches three spots on me, and I'm starting to wonder what's wrong. He doesn't kiss much, and basically touches nipples and clit and that's it. He doesn't touch me anywhere else on my body really and kisses seem stiff/awkward. He wasn't always like this at first he spent more time and touched me more and used to kiss me. He claims he is very attracted to me and says I'm hot etc and wants sex at least once a day most of the time. So I'm sure he's attracted and interested, but I don't know how to ask him to touch me in more than just those spots. I've tried guiding his hands, telling him how much I like to to be touched by him, how good his hands and mouth feel etc etc, but it's not helping, he'll let me guide his hands around, but if I don't, he's just doing the same thing.

 

He seems very intent on getting me to orgasm as quickly and efficiently as possible, no teasing, lingering, nothing that feels very loving or like he's enjoying touching me. It all feels fine, and I do orgasm but it's just sort of mechanical/clinical, there doesn't seem to be much passion or anything. It's very odd, I've never been with anyone like this, and nothing seem to change. I've never said anything about not liking what's happening because he's very, very sensitive, so I've tried just encouraging him a lot when he does try doing anything different. But it's always very minimal and he goes back to the same mechanical thing each time. What can I do? I can't be upfront with him for sure it would hurt his feelings. Is there any other way I can try to encourage more of the things I want? I touch myself during sex and sometimes hold my hand over his to show him what I want, and encourage him a lot, I masturbate in front of him etc and nothing helps, he just won't do anything I like on his own The first night we were together he told me he went down on a girl for 45min so I thought I'd get the same, but with me he's always in a big huge hurry, he'll get there, do everything as fast as possible, and that's it. It's too intense and direct though and doesn't feel very good at first, I've tried sort of squirming to spots I'd rather he start with, taking his hands and showing him, telling him how much I especially liked it when he does touch anywhere else etc but it's not working

[whichwayisup]

You need to tell him to slow it down...That you want him to take his time and work you into a horny frenzy. Make him understand that you enjoy the fooling around, touching all over is just as important as the actual goal...

 

What you could do is, let him lay back in bed, massage him, lick him all over, and get the ball rolling so to speak, and then when it's your turn, he'll return the favour.

 

Hope this helps.

[JadeStar]

Communicate to him what you want/need. He is not going to know what you like or want if you don't tell him. Also, how much time do you spend touching him?

[Mr. Lucky]

Communicate to him what you want/need. He is not going to know what you like or want if you don't tell him.

Well said. You need to be more direct and stop waiting for him to figure it out. Just don't wait until you're in bed to have the conversation with him, instead sit out on the patio with a glass of wine and tell him you want to take your sex life to the next level. You want to fulfill his fantasies and you want him to fulfill yours. Most guys will eagerly rise to the challenge as it's a win/win...

 

Mr. Lucky