How to cope?

[Guest]

I don't know how long I can keep going...

 

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months and its been long distance from the beginning. We live over 400 miles away from each other and both have demanding jobs. Somehow since we've been together the longest we've gone without seeing each other is about 4 weeks (pretty good going considering the distance).

 

The distance is killing me, it hurts so much that he is so far away. I'm going through a rough patch with some other things at the moment and not having him near by is so painful.

 

I'm crying all the time and generally feel depressed.

 

How do you cope?

 

I would love some tips, I feel like I'm losing my mind.

 

Please help me..

[catrocks]

It's pretty typical to feel like this at some point during the separation. I always find that the best way to avoid sitting around feeling depressed and crying (as tempting as that is!) is to spend as much time as possible around other people, whether it be friends or family, and then making sure you talk to your other half at the end of the day. Keeping busy is the best way to overcome the crying stage. And, at a certain point in the relationship (for me it was after about a year and a half of distance) you kind of get used to it and don't really think about it too much.... or maybe that's just me?

 

The thing that really has helped me over the past 9 months has been having an end point to the distance in mind. Have the two of you spoken about the future? Is it possible that one of you would move to be with the other? It doesn't have to happen right now, but having a plan for the future helped me a lot.

 

I hope you start to feel better soon, I totally understand how you feel, and I'm sure that you won't feel this way forever - you're just going through a rough patch, try to work through it with the help of friends, family and your bf and I'm sure you will feel better soon xx