Issues about his co-worker?

[Oinuma]

My boyfriend (of eight months) works as a salesman in a furniture store. He's been at the job for about three months now. Lately I've been hearing more and more mention of a co-worker of his, a girl who works in the customer service department of the store. He tells me that she's pretty "loose", and hits on most of the guys who work there on a daily basis. It seems she's also taken an interest in my boyfriend. Last week, she invited him out to dinner after work. He turned her down, and she ended up taking somebody else. Then, both her and the guy she ended up going out to dinner with were gone from work the next day. I heard about all this from my boyfriend.

 

Here's what bothered me - my boyfriend then told me that when he saw the girl next, he went up to her and said something like, "Did you put Dave's (the guy she went out to eat with) back out or something? (Implying that they had slept together). You two were both gone yesterday." To which the girl apparently replied, "No, I was performing yesterday, that's why I was gone." (She's a dancer). And my boyfriend's response was, "Yeah, I'll bet you were performing."

 

When he casually, and off-handedly, told me about this exchange, it upset me. I took it as flirting; it really seems so to me. Joking to this girl about her sexual activities? Am I just being overly-sensitive?

[Not_That_Innocent]

You're probably not overeacting. As harsh as this may sound, he may have a "thing" for her. The fact that she went out with the other guy probably made him jealous. He has to talk to someone about it, and you're probably the closest to him. Maybe it's nothing, but I would definitely keep an eye on the situation.

[Carbine]

I'd probably be upset, but not at the hysterical stage...yet.

 

You don't know the context in which he said "yeah I bet you were performing". Yes he may have been flirting but then again, he may have said it in a condescending manner. Who knows? If he does have a thing for her as not_that_innocent said, then he may well cheat, but that's pretty extreme. Most likely he'll get over his jealousy fairly soon.

 

But like I said, I'd be a little worried, not to mention hurt and threatened. Knowing me, I'd probably do one of two things: a) march straight into the store and give her a piece of my mind. But you probably don't want to do that, or b) cause some trouble for her, like get a few of your male friends that your bf hasn't met to harrass her on different occasions. I wonder how her boss feels about her working there, knowing she strips on the side to make money? Here's an idea: get a couple of your mates to go in there to go in to the store one day and get the boss's attention. When he asks "can I help you?" get them to say "yeah, we're looking for whatever-her-name-is. We met her at Dirty Dames (or whatever the strip club is called) saturday night and the bitch promised us a free dance. She said she'd get up on one of the dining room tables you sell, so she wouldn't have to pay to use club premises".