Teacher-student relationships

[kindakonfused]

So its been over a month since I last updated.

 

Things have been going about the same. We see each other almost every weekend, whether I pick her up from campus or she takes a train to a local station. I begun to tell a few close people about it to get an idea of their reaction. So has she.

 

She has told her best friend (who also graduated last year) and she was supportive of it.

I have told a close friend who is also a teacher and oddly enough, knows of someone in his building (different state) with a similar situation...almost the same.

 

However, I also told my mother and brother. My mother was hesistant but seemed supportive. Wanted to know her age obviously and pryed a little bit. But she seemed as though as long as I was careful and cautious, there shouldnt be a problem.

 

Then I told my brother, yesterday actually. His reaction was not the same. He was very surprised that I would do something like this. He was supportive with the whole "if youre happy..." bit. But i know he is disappointed. And since my conversation with him, I have seriously begun reconsidering my choices. I have gone into this severe guilt trip not knowing what to do. Obviously having talked to my brother, my mother calls me today asking if Ive made a decision as far as breaking this off or not. She then recommends to me that I stop seeing her because it wll hurt my reputation.

 

Things have gotten more serious in the way that we feel for each other. And I believe those feelings to be genuine. But I also can still feel that there is something not right about this and the fact that I feel this way really bothers me. I believe my brother telling me what he thought yesterday echoed the feelings I have maybe been silencing.

 

So now comes the question. Do I break this off? Do I keep going. Has this gone too far to now call it quits suddenly? Do I let my brothers words influence the way I react? Here is the problem that like an idiot, I never thought it would come to.

[MsArtful]

This is just my opinion, but I think you should break it off. At the age she is right now, the maturity gap is just a little too wide, and you both probably want different things from your relationships. I'm seventeen and I personally would be kind of freaked out at the notion of dating someone six years older than me who used to be my teacher. That's me though. I would advise you to step back and seriously think about this, she's growing and learning who she is and changing. I can't really see your relationship lasting.

[KittenMoon]

This kinda happened in my high school. This nice, late 20s math teacher came into replace mine, who retired mid year due to health issues. He was extremely loved by the student body. I liked him (though he failed me on my first test with him ). After I graduated, he and my brother were friendly.

 

Fast forward a few years, he's divorced from his wife, later ends up dating a former student around 18 or 19. They get married, have a kid. A scandal to be sure, but not as big as one would have guessed. I think they're still A-ok.

 

Here you are, you're only 24. Not that much older than this girl. As long as things were platonic until post-18, and post-graduation, you're legally ok. Morally, it's a light grey area, I wouldn't worry too much, but keep it on the down low, and if the admin at your school gets wind, discreetly be up front and let them know nothing happened before she left the school. You should be ok.

[SuperFantastico]

Ha, sexy times. Ya i would say, just wait until she graduates. Its not like you are some dirty old man. Heck i've been with 18 and 19 year olds and im 30 .

 

The only taboo thing is that you are a highschool teacher. If you were a college teacher there wouldnt be a problem would there?

 

And theres not really much of an age difference. So you can keep up with her. Heh, try doing that when you are 30 Its tough.

 

Women tend to like older guys because they are more mature, and women tend to mature faster then guys, so it works out pretty well.

 

Relax, and just wait a bit. Perhaps go out and chat up some other girls in the meantime. Candy works wonders HA HA HA Im kidding.