JW Posted January 13, 2003 Share Posted January 13, 2003 Does anybody out there think that guys need "time" to develop feelings for a girl. Do girls ever "grow" on guys or are guys certain whether or not a girl is for them right from the get go.. Also, do passive guys really exist...I mean passive like (they don't initiate anything and wait for the girl to make the move) or is this just a sign that they really aren't that interested? These might be elementary questions yet I have no answers to them. Link to post Share on other sites
JW Posted January 13, 2003 Share Posted January 13, 2003 One more question, at what point does a girl throw in the towel and give up on a guy she likes? Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted January 13, 2003 Share Posted January 13, 2003 There is no answer for this because every single person is different and every single relationship is different. So the easiest answer to your initial post is "YES and NO" and the answer to your second post is "WHENEVER SHE DECIDES TO IF SHE DECIDES TO" (or HE in the case of a guy) Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted January 13, 2003 Share Posted January 13, 2003 1. Does anybody out there think that guys need "time" to develop feelings for a girl." Depends on the feeling you're talking about. A guy can feel like he wants to have sex with a girl almost the minute he sees her. He can have pseudo feelings of love within a few minutes, this is called infatuation. Real, true love does take time. It happens differently for different guys. Some men can fall in love fairly soon after getting to know somebody. Other men take a long time to develop feelings. There is a serious danger in the time it takes. Everything in love has to do with timing. If a guy who takes a very long time to develop feelings for a lady is with a lady who takes much less time, she will be long departed before he realizes these feelings...and vice versa. The only way it can work is if the two people start to have feelings at reasonably the same time. But, yes, many men do require time to develop feelings for a lady. It's necessary to get to know that person and many aspects of them before you have any sound basis for loving them. 2. "Do girls ever "grow" on guys or are guys certain whether or not a girl is for them right from the get go.." You can absolutely bet your bank account that girls can "grow" on guys and vice versa. Matter of fact, I'd say it's much better to "grow" in love than to "fall" in love. Falling can be painful. Growing is what we are here on this planet to do. Very often, we may not even like a person when we first meet them. But, over time as we get to know them better, we can actually develop a very deep love. That's when it's the best. While falling in love with a good friend can be problematic, there is just no better way. You're falling for a real person rather than somebody who has been putting on a nice show during courtship. 3. "Also, do passive guys really exist...I mean passive like (they don't initiate anything and wait for the girl to make the move) or is this just a sign that they really aren't that interested?" There are millions of passive guys. That's why so many women become the aggressor. There are many reasons why guys remain passive but I would say that fear of rejection is a far more significant factor than shyness. It hurts like hell to be rejected by someone you're really attracted to and want to get to know better. 4. "These might be elementary questions yet I have no answers to them." No, they aren't elementary at all. It took me years to figure some of this out and I'm still figuring. As a matter of fact, I don't have many answers at all...only observations which I translate into some semblance of answers. 5. "One more question, at what point does a girl throw in the towel and give up on a guy she likes?" When she decides the guy just isn't interested or when another guy she is attracted to shows her attention or asks her out. Ladies give men windows of opportunity, sometimes they give more than one at different times. You have to recognize these windows and jump in at the right time. Otherwise, your butt has had it. Most ladies don't stay available to a guy for a long period. If they don't get some interest in return within a reasonable amount of time, they go elsewhere. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
JW Posted January 13, 2003 Share Posted January 13, 2003 Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
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