finalf30 Posted May 13, 2007 Share Posted May 13, 2007 I know there are a ton of questions about this, but.. my boyfriend and I had a long distance relationship for 8.5 months at the time, the longest we went without seeing each other was about 3 weeks though. After my birthday, which he came to see me for, he told me that a week or 2 prior, him and a girl he works with kissed at a party, alcohol was involved [not an excuse]. This came as a shock mostly because I was naive thinking our relationship was impenetrable, but also because he was [and is!] the one who's so smitten with me! it was such a surprise. I'm the one who's at school, surrounded by more opportunities to cheat, obviously I'm more loyal but regardless, when this happened he said he pulled away quickly and said he couldnt do it. He felt sick afterward. The girl also has a bf! but everyone thinks she has a crush on mine. the night before this happened, he'd left me a ridiculously long voicemail - probably the longest ever - about how much he missed me, and began crying...the morning OF this wonderful fiasco, we'd been texting back and forth for hours, just talking, and the topic came up of other guys/girls in our lives, kidding around, we said we'd both kill the other person if one of us ever cheated. ironic???! thinking about that makes me wonder. i feel so bad since sometimes i tend to continue to dwell on this. After he told me, he came up to my school four hours away, brought me flowers, cried (sounds like he cries a ton, doesnt it? he doesnt. haha), I sent him home that night. I forgave him. I basically can't let a mistake, something so small that meant nothing to anyone (except me of course!!) ruin an otherwise great and virtually healthy relationship. Why cant I forget it though? Link to post Share on other sites
Tangerina Posted May 13, 2007 Share Posted May 13, 2007 From what you said it sounds like this isn't something that should end or ruin your relationship, but I totally understand why you are so bothered by it. I guess just keep talking and working through it and eventually you'll put it behind you. Link to post Share on other sites
4whatItsWorth Posted May 14, 2007 Share Posted May 14, 2007 Would you have taken him back if he slept with her "by accident" due to alcohol influence? No. Somehow, kisses seem less cheating, doesn't it? I kissed a guy once, I was cheating. I was fully aware of what I was doing. Point being, I am sure he knew what he did. However, he probably does regret it. But if it happens again - dump the guy. Link to post Share on other sites
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