crazy_grl Posted May 17, 2007 Share Posted May 17, 2007 Glad to hear he called SG. And BTW, if/when I see him again, there is no physical way I will be able to NOT have sex with him. He's irrisistible, and I just can't play that game. Be careful you don't end up as the booty call! Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted May 17, 2007 Share Posted May 17, 2007 You are already setting yourself up for another week of wondering.. Stop that and take control of yourself.. Expect a call in 2-3 days.. as he will be looking to hook up again.. He planned this call to keep you intrigued.. it worked.. maybe he is just trying to be romantic.. who knows.. maybe he was trying to create the aloof feeling to keep you interested in him. H-Bday SG... hope you have a nice day and a good time with your friends.. What he said. SG is that you in your avatar? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Star Gazer Posted May 17, 2007 Author Share Posted May 17, 2007 Cock pictures already? Um, why would he have a picture of yours...?? Is there something you're not telling me, Tanny? Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted May 17, 2007 Share Posted May 17, 2007 Um, why would he have a picture of yours...?? Is there something you're not telling me, Tanny? He couldn't have a picture of mine. You can't put wide-angle lenses on camera phones. Link to post Share on other sites
dropdeadlegs Posted May 17, 2007 Share Posted May 17, 2007 Oh God no! Even if he weren't trying to create space, I wouldn't expect anything at all...at all! Moreover, given that he is clearly trying to create that space and prevent me from getting attached too quickly/taking things slow, the stupidest thing he could do to further that aim would be to send me something. If he did, I would latch onto it/him even more!! SG, honestly I wouldn't expect anything either, but that's because I give too much leeway in the matters of love and romance. That does not make me right in that respect. Him sending something more does not make you get more attached, YOU make yourself get more attached! maybe allow yourself is a better choice of words. Honestly, I see you doing EXACTLY (we like capping that word, don't we? ) what I have done in the past, and assume I might very well do in the future. I'm afraid we think alike when it comes to men and expectations. We don't have enough, or maybe the right, expectations. We don't give ourselves enough credit as awesome women. We are too forgiving and that's why we end up hurt. I would send a new coworker or a new friend a card. Isn't it appropriate to send a new girl I am involved with a card? I do that for people I haven't slept with! Please don't sell yourself short. A card can be funny or kind, it doesn't have to be romantic. Maybe a gift would be too much, but the right gift would be just perfect. You don't have to agree with me on any points, but I see you doing what I do. I latch on easily, and I forgive too much. If it makes any difference, I would almost certainly continue to sleep with him, and if I turned into a "booty call" kind of girl, I would also blame myself, when he is easily worthy of at least as much blame for not having enough character to not take advantage of my willingness. Keep your eyes open and tread carefully. I almost never do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Star Gazer Posted May 17, 2007 Author Share Posted May 17, 2007 SG, honestly I wouldn't expect anything either, but that's because I give too much leeway in the matters of love and romance. That does not make me right in that respect. Him sending something more does not make you get more attached, YOU make yourself get more attached! maybe allow yourself is a better choice of words. Honestly, I see you doing EXACTLY (we like capping that word, don't we? ) what I have done in the past, and assume I might very well do in the future. I'm afraid we think alike when it comes to men and expectations. We don't have enough, or maybe the right, expectations. We don't give ourselves enough credit as awesome women. We are too forgiving and that's why we end up hurt. I would send a new coworker or a new friend a card. Isn't it appropriate to send a new girl I am involved with a card? I do that for people I haven't slept with! Please don't sell yourself short. A card can be funny or kind, it doesn't have to be romantic. Maybe a gift would be too much, but the right gift would be just perfect. You don't have to agree with me on any points, but I see you doing what I do. I latch on easily, and I forgive too much. If it makes any difference, I would almost certainly continue to sleep with him, and if I turned into a "booty call" kind of girl, I would also blame myself, when he is easily worthy of at least as much blame for not having enough character to not take advantage of my willingness. Keep your eyes open and tread carefully. I almost never do. Yeah, I understand what you're saying, and clearly we're a lot alike. I think you're absolutely right that I don't have the RIGHT expectations. But honestly, if it were HIS birthday...I wouldn't have sent/given him anything at this point in the relationship. I would have called, that's it. Maybe if we lived closer and WERE closer and our schedules permitted, I would extend a dinner/cocktails invitation or something, but that's it. I would, however, like you, get a card or gift for a new friend or coworker. I guess I'm built to have the fear of "too much, too soon" when it comes to a fledgling relationship, despite the fact that I DO get attached easily (and hurt easily as well). I like him a lot, but I really do feel more rational and in control of my emotions today. I wish you could be a little angel on my shoulder and watch/experience everything a long with me, because it's hard to get every little thought/expression between he and I out here. Anyway. I'm having a great birthday so far!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted May 17, 2007 Share Posted May 17, 2007 Hey SG - are you the 'pretty pussy' girl? That was the best thread ever! I am so sorry this is happening to you - The bottom line is this hon ... If he is interested in you then you will know it! If he is not then you will know it! Please don't beat yourself up over sleeping with him too soon - It wasnt too soon, I dont agree with all that milarky about 2 months and blah blah I slept with my ex on our first date and we where together 14 years - I slept with mny FWB on our second date and he became a F/buddy and never wanted to progress (and it showed) and I slept with my new b/f on our 3rd date and he has just asked me to marry him (11 months later) If a guy is into you it does not matter when you bump uglies (or pretty's in your case hahah, sorrry couldnt resist it) I reckon this guy would have been the same if you had waited a year! Dont think the worst yet hon - Infact try not to think about it at all (easier said than done) You are a lovely woman and if he is not intersted then just say NEXT!!!! His loss! Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted May 17, 2007 Share Posted May 17, 2007 Ps ......... Happy birthday pps ...... He really SHOULD have got you a card! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Star Gazer Posted May 17, 2007 Author Share Posted May 17, 2007 Lishy, yup - that's me. That was one of the funniest compliments ever, but it was awesome. I'm very confident with my _____ now. Ya know what? I haven't checked my mail since last Saturday. I'm lazy like that. The mailbox is awkwardly located and nowhere near my path from my car to my door. My friend called to ask if I got her card. Whops. So there's the chance there could be something there, but I'm not holding out hope or expectation. Maybe I have really, really low expectations, because I've only had TWO guys EVER buy me flowers or send me a card on my birthday, and they were SERIOUS boyfriends at the time. One also included some diamonds. Hmph. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted May 17, 2007 Share Posted May 17, 2007 Ok babe lets get this into perspective ... If he isnt calling there is a reason behind it - We could sit and guess all night but unless he is actually telling you then we wont know for sure. So lets rewind and think about YOU - You expect nothing becaouse that is what you are used to or becuase you dont wanna set yourself up for a fall. EIther way hon you are worth more and should get more (not material things but more apprection and respect) I think if we are not confident then it shows - For reasons unknown to us he is not doing what he SHOULD be doing! You have 2 choices babes .. 1. Sit and worry and wonder and question yourself about this until you drive yourself mad and blame yourelf for all of it 2. Think f*ck him he is not worth my time and worry and go out and enjoy your birthday. He is not sitting and worrying about you hon and I must say that of the three experiences I gave you, the 2 guys I satyed with BOTH called and where even more loving after we had sex and the one who turned into a FWB didnt call and lost all his enthusiasm with me after the deed! I became obsessed with the FWB and it was awful - If I could turn back time I would have deleted his number and forgoit about him - Instead I had nearly a year of hell as I was happy to accept the scraps he offered me, my self esteem went to zero and it was not nice Dont do what I did babe ALL OR NOTHING Star - You deserve it so dont accept less! Thats my advice anyway honey! Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted May 17, 2007 Share Posted May 17, 2007 he should be making a date to see you star. shouldnt he? Link to post Share on other sites
annabelle75 Posted May 17, 2007 Share Posted May 17, 2007 HAPPY BIRTHDAY !!!!!!!!!! Don't let what is going on with him ruin your special day. You deserve better than that. Go out with your girlfriends, flirt with cute boys and have the time of your life. Worry about mr. butthead some other time. And ...... the fact that he made a point of calling you on your birthday shows that he hasn't completely lost interest. I'm impressed he even remembered it was your birthday. I have one more theory to toss into the bull pin: My ex-husband hated special occasions like birthdays, valentine's day and stuff like that. They made him pressured like he had to buy gifts or do something special. Instead of handling it like a mature person he would just pick fights or ignore me and pretend like the day didn't exist. It was really upsetting for me. There is a small chance that maybe he's not "special day" kind of guy and with your birthday being this week he freaked a bit and backed off. I know its a lame excuse, but I want to make sure you undertsand that you didn't do anything wrong. What ever is going on, its all about him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Star Gazer Posted May 17, 2007 Author Share Posted May 17, 2007 You guys, I really am having a great birthday so far, and am so excited to go out tonight and REALLY celebrate tomorrow (that's the big par-tay!). I'm not letting this get me down. I was upset before, and accepting a lot of fault...but I don't feel that way anymore. Annabelle - four people who know me in 'real life' said the same thing about my birthday, 2 guys and 2 girls. All the rest that know me in 'real life' said the other thing you said - that there's an imbalance in our interest levels and he's likely trying to balance that out and prevent me from getting too attached. Both are perfectly reasonable explanations to me. He's not off the hook, I'm definitely treading carefully. Actually, I'm not treading at all. I'm more concerned about what to wear tonight than this situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Star Gazer Posted May 17, 2007 Author Share Posted May 17, 2007 he should be making a date to see you star. shouldnt he? Yes and no. We have completely opposite work schedules, and with the fire season just having started, as well as his new position within a new department, I don't expect commitment right now - even if it's just for a "date." It's been 4 days since I've seen him. I'm okay. For now, anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
annabelle75 Posted May 17, 2007 Share Posted May 17, 2007 He's not off the hook, I'm definitely treading carefully. Actually, I'm not treading at all. I'm more concerned about what to wear tonight than this situation. Good !!! Go out and have a blast. Wear cute shoes. Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted May 17, 2007 Share Posted May 17, 2007 You guys, I really am having a great birthday so far, and am so excited to go out tonight and REALLY celebrate tomorrow (that's the big par-tay!). I'm not letting this get me down. For some reason when I read this Bon Jovi's "It's My Life" started playing in my head. IT'S MY LIIIIIIIIIFE! IT'S NOW OR NEVER! I AIN'T GONNA LIVE FOREVER!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Star Gazer Posted May 17, 2007 Author Share Posted May 17, 2007 For some reason when I read this Bon Jovi's "It's My Life" started playing in my head. IT'S MY LIIIIIIIIIFE! IT'S NOW OR NEVER! I AIN'T GONNA LIVE FOREVER!!! Funny! I was thinking more along the lines of "Break My Stride," by Matthew Wilder: Ain't nothin' gonna break my stride... Nobody gonna slow me down, oh no... I got to keep on movin'!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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