I think this girl likes me,what do i do ?

[Mydish1]

So there's this girl that likes me, she's fascinated by me and is intricately interested in where I came from, what i do, and where im going...heck she even mentioned when we're going to watch a movie together.

 

Anyway she's a cool girl and all but Im simply not sexually attracted to her. But I've also been unemotionally unavailable for the longest time - no particular reason. But still Im cool with her and her gay friend, since we're all from the same Uni.

 

I wouldnt mind being friends with her or perhaps go the extra mile and do things together - like catch a movie. But other than that, im not interested in anything more.

 

What should I do?

[Scoop88]

I know exactly how you feel, I was/am in the same type of situation. One of my friends I know for sure liked me. We only had one class together but we always would sit by each other. I could really sense that she was giving 'hints' to show how she feels, but I did not feel the same way about her. Even one of my friends who is friends with another of hers found out through the chain and told me.

Truly, its hard to tell you what to do. I never really hung out with this girl outside of class and will have to wait until I go back to uni before I get the chance to again. Spend some time with her, go see a movie like you said, go mini-golfing, etc. You never know, your feelings might change and you may want to pursue a relationship. Otherwise, give your friend signals that you just want to be friends, but dont push her away. Give her a chance.

Also, if you dont truly have feelings for her after spending more time with her, dont get into a relationship just because she likes you. If its one-way, it wont last long, it wont be strong, and you could both end up hurt more in the end.

[Mydish1]

Spend some time with her, go see a movie like you said, go mini-golfing, etc. You never know, your feelings might change and you may want to pursue a relationship. Otherwise, give your friend signals that you just want to be friends, but dont push her away. Give her a chance.

Also, if you dont truly have feelings for her after spending more time with her, dont get into a relationship just because she likes you. If its one-way, it wont last long, it wont be strong, and you could both end up hurt more in the end.

 

I think that could be what im afraid of. Call me shallow, but ideally she is not my type physically. I think if i wind up spending a good amount of time with her I could wind up liking her.

 

And also I dont want to be tied down in a relationship, as i want the freedom to date others. but you could be right, Ill give her a chance. Ill only know where I stand after getting to know her. But whether or not she's open to the idea of me dating others is still open for debate.

[blue16]

I think that could be what im afraid of. Call me shallow, but ideally she is not my type physically. I think if i wind up spending a good amount of time with her I could wind up liking her.

 

Been there done that man. Hung out with a girl who I knew liked me but I didn't feel the same way. I wasn't interested in a relationship with her, but after spending so much time with her she really grew on me and any minor issues I had with physical attraction towards her went away because I became attracted to her.

 

I treated her like a friend the whole time (short of some flirty banter here and there) and by the time I realized I liked her it was all but too late because she pretty much saw me as a friend at that point even though she liked me. I passed up too many (easy) opportunities to escalate the friendship/relationship because frankly I wasn't interested...and by the time I figured out what I wanted the window was pretty much closed. I couldn't be her friend anymore because it was too tough of a situation...

 

So just be careful what you get into.

[Trialbyfire]

I'm going to advise the opposite. If she's not your type, don't string her along. Walk away and let her find someone else. Imagine getting closer to her and realizing after awhile that she's still not your type. Don't use her.