greenspan Posted January 19, 2003 Share Posted January 19, 2003 Thats what I have believed all along Bill. Link to post Share on other sites
mighty bop Posted January 19, 2003 Share Posted January 19, 2003 Yes I do. Good thinking! Link to post Share on other sites
Bill Posted January 19, 2003 Share Posted January 19, 2003 Good job then Good Luck with the lady. Link to post Share on other sites
greenspan Posted January 19, 2003 Share Posted January 19, 2003 Thanks for the help guys. Link to post Share on other sites
Just A Girl2 Posted February 9, 2003 Share Posted February 9, 2003 Greenspan, I surely don't mean to disrespect you in the least here, but after having read several of your posts here over the past few weeks, this is what i think. Correct me if I'm wrong, but didn't you post once that you've never had a girlfriend before? Also that you're a virgin? (not that that really has much bearing on anything). Well here you are, already stewing about marriage and a prenup, yet you first have to have a girlfriend if you ever want a relationship that will possibly lead to marriage. Why look for problems this far down the road? Do you only care about your vast wealth? Now I don't say this to be rude, because I CAN understand how you've managed your money well, worked hard and don't want someone to take half of it one day, but don't you think you're putting the cart before the horse and being just a little pessimistic? Get the girlfriend first. It can take a long period of time before a couple progresses to thoughts of marriage. Just go with the flow for now, get out there and start dating, have some fun, get to know different woman, get to know yourself, and don't spend time worrying about things that you don't need to worry about now. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted February 10, 2003 Share Posted February 10, 2003 Sell it from the beginning. Once you have progressed to regular dating (not just one or two dates) then casually mention it. It is a get to know each other question - you don't have to specify that it's YOU who wants the prenup. Work it into the getting-to-know-you part. Like, what's your favorite color? Do you like animals? Do you think dogs should be kept indoors or out? What kind of vacation do you like? (relaxing on the beach or running a marathon of doing and seeing things), What do you think about people who want a prenup? Would you rather receive flowers (which die) or a plant (which will continue to live)? Just be casual like that and answer all of her questions honestly too. Once it's discussed in the relationship and the relationship continues then if it gets to the point of marriage it won't be too difficult to ask. You can always say that you want each of you to sign a prenup so that HER assets are protected too. Link to post Share on other sites
ThisGirlNameKD Posted February 24, 2003 Share Posted February 24, 2003 It's funny people always say "unless the marriage doesn't work". If it doesn't work it's because two people did not make it work. It's not just going to one day stop working. You should be more concern with learning how to make a relationship work and stop worry about your money. But I do agree with the previous posting. Let them know right up front your stand on prenuptials. In fact if you can, don't let them know about your financial status. You can ask them "how would you react or how would you feel if your partner tells you that he would like a prenuptial agreement?" And take it from there. Link to post Share on other sites
paguy314 Posted July 7, 2003 Share Posted July 7, 2003 As a divorced man I understand your concern about maintaining your assets through a divorce. You are wise to take this step. My only question is why even consider marriage? As a man, and presumable the major bread winner, the odds are heavily stacked against you in a divorce. Marriage is a contract that gives any wife certain rights with regards to your earnings. Unfortunately the terms of this contract are never explained to the perspective couple that is considering marriage. These terms are only explained to you later when you go to file for a divorce. For this reason more and more people are trying to go into the marriage with there own contract that spells out how things are to handled in the event of a divorce. These are a great idea, but unless they are carefully constructed courts have claimed them invalid. So we return to my original question. Why bother to get married? If you are the major breadwinner in a marriage and divorce results from the union it is inevitable that it will cost you a large sum of money for the divorce itself and the resulting legal fees. Not to mention the time and emotional strain that is involved. Why bother to entire into this legal contract? Two people can have a mutually satisfying relationship without the hassle of a legal contract. If they stay together for there life’s then this is good, but in the event they decide to go there separate ways it can be done without involving a lengthy and invariable expensive legal process. If you are determined to get married I would suggest that you carefully consider all the legal ramifications before entering into the contract. I think if more couples did this they would not get married. I would also consider the other alternatives to marriage (such as living together) that have less legal ramifications then marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
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