MySpace Page says he is Single when he's not...

[Delectable]

I've been with a wonderful man for almost two years now. We broke up for two moths last summer due to trust issues. I was extremely jealous of his ex gf because she would post stuff on her myspace page about him and we would fight and that would lead to him lying to me when he would talk to her because when he was honest about talking to her I would hit the roof.

 

We've been back together since July of 2006. When we broke up he changed his MySpace page to single the very day we broke up....he has not changed it back since we've been back together.

 

I brought it up to him 3 weeks ago and he joked with me and said it must be some glitch. I brought it up 2 weeks ago and he said, "must still be the glitch". I brought it up last night and he got downright pissed off. He said that he NEVER changes anything on his myspace page, he never updates it he just hasn't gotten around to it and that it is no big deal - that he doesn't care about it. I told him that I do care about it.

 

He was like WHY on YOUR MySpace page it says your 16 (which I'm not I'm in my 30's). He said so if there is false information on your page what's the big deal. I told him that it is VERY different...and I don't want the world to know how old I am...but I do want the world to know I'm taken. He said that some of his friends joke around and say that they are gay even though they are married etc. I told him that it mattered to me and he just wanted to get off the phone....

 

What is going on? I totally trust him, but why advertise on MySpace that you are single when you are not? Why when I tell him that it matters to me and that I have friends that are like, "why does your bf say he is single etc."? does he do nothing? What do I do?

[behappy999]

giiiiiiiiiirl. you poor thing..

 

I'd be SO PISSED if my boyfriend was doing that...

Tell him to change it ASAP or ELSE!

 

He is disrespecting your feelings not to mention sort of embarrasing you to your friends.

 

I'd be worried him and his ex have something going, whether physical or flirting through online who knows. But it's awfulyl suspicious that he refuses to change it... after you guys had a break.

 

Myspace is drama. Seriously. My bf and I are both in our early 20's and had them at one point but it is just a waste of time and causes nothing but trouble because its an easy way of "snooping" so to speak.

 

Either way, that's BULLSH*T he will not change it. Personally, I wouldn't waste my time on a guy who wasn't proud to be with me.

[2ndIINone]

Myspace strikes again..

 

more importantly... you're in your 30's? In a relationship? And on Myspace????

:laugh: That's cute.

 

No wonder ya got problems....

 

Aaaand no, there is no myspace 'glitch' thats making him 'single'.

He chooses to remain 'single' cause he likes the added attention and emails he gets from women....

 

smarten up!

and get off myspace if ya want less drama in your life. It's nothing more then a FREE Matchdotcom for people looking for an ego boost.

[Art_Critic]

This is an easy one..

 

He is talking to a girl right now that has his attention and by changing it to in a relationship it will kill what he is cultivating on myspace..

 

I think that since you have asked 3 times then you now demand to know his password so you can change it yourself..

 

If he refuses to give you the password or refuses to change his status then you do what is known as " Dump him "

 

He is single on myspace for a reason...why get yourself more hurt ?

[alex434]

Well once again Myspace strikes, im 17 years old and i often have it affecting my relationships by adding drama, Heres an idea. He said that his myspace doesnt matter and that he never changes it so, why dont you both just decide to delete your myspaces? really.... you guys dont need it and your in your 30's myspace is a little younger lol (sorry) however,i completely understand where your comming from and i agree 100% it takes about 15 seconds if not less to change it from single to in a relationship, perhaps there are other stories that you do not know of, yet.

[LaughMachine]

haha I love how alex said " myspace strikes again" SO TRUE!

 

I understand some guys don't look in too myspace as much as us girls do. And some guys really don't update their pages. But the fact that he lied saying it was a " glitch" or must be a " glitch" again states that he is trying to cover something up : /

 

Seems like he was trying to turn it around on you with your false settings on myspace.

 

If that single doesn't change to relationship anytime soon than you know something is up

[che_jesse]

Why are you being dishonest about your age? Thats just creepy, it sounds like you are trying to rape teenage boys or something. Why not just leave the age spot blank?

 

Normally I would say yeah thats dick of your boyfriend but really you are doing something just as bad.

[LakesideDream]

Let's see. I'll bet your "BF" believes you are a nag, jealous, have "trust issues" (whatever that means), and are highly insecure. Your suprised he is keeping his options open? Maybe he's open to the idea of an upgrade.

 

BTW, I didn't hear anywhere that the two of you were married, as to each other... so... that makes both of you "single".

 

If you both are immature enough to want to be "Myspacers", you shouldn't be to worried about the drama that flows from that cesspool.

[annabelle75]

Fighting over Myspace settings is just kind of ....... (trying to think of a way to say "dumb" with out actually saying "dumb")

 

Are you in a good relationship? Do you suspect he is cheating on you? What other problems are occuring that makes this such a big issue?

 

Perhaps he is flirting with other girls online or perhaps he just never thought to change it and then when you confronted him about it he didn't want to change it because he felt like you were nagging him.

 

BTW- I am 31 and do have a Myspace page. I use it to communicate with old freinds from my past and even when I am in a relationship my page always says "Single." As a person that was once married, I consider some one single if they are not married or engaged. Its all a matter of prospectives I guess.

[Krytellan]

I know there has to be exceptions, but I do thinks that an adult who uses MySpace sends a huge relationship Red Flag. Perhaps it's because I associate it with what ultimately became the downfall of my marriage.

 

A year into my mariage, my wife had just started working as a counselor at a new school and was working with a bunch of "boppers", meaning 23 and 24 year old girls. No offense to those that may be reading. These girls, however, were MySpacers. And they embodied everything I envisioned MySpacers to be. I'll just stop there.

 

Anyway, next thing I know she has a MySpace page... the person I though was my mature 27 year old wife. Well, long story short, within 6 months she had become what was apparently the 21 year old girl she was never able to be before and became somone I didn't even recognize anymore. I had never seen someone regress 6 years in maturity before my eyes like that.

 

The point is that MySpace, to me, is a vehicle for people who cannot handle mature and meaningful interpersonal relationships with just one person and thrive on the need to have constant stimulus, communication, and random friendships with people they barely know simply for the sake of having them. If I was dating someone and I found out she had an active MySpace page, it would be incredibly difficult for me to justify not leaving her. Simply because the fact she had it says much about her character.

 

I am only one person and this is my personal opinion

[Trialbyfire]

Okay, call me anti-Myspace, in more ways than one...

 

Firstly, I'm too old for Myspace so that covers one version of Aunty Myspace...

 

Anyways, my ex had a Myspace page to stay in....touch.... 'nuff said.

 

Both of you need to dump the myspace. Get him to give you his sign-on and passwords for both myspace and email. Delete both.

[2ndIINone]

The point is that MySpace, to me, is a vehicle for people who cannot handle mature and meaningful interpersonal relationships with just one person and thrive on the need to have constant stimulus, communication, and random friendships with people they barely know simply for the sake of having them.

Correcto' and very well said!!!

 

 

I like it when people say they use it for reasons 'other' then the fact they're starving for attention. Business, looking for grade school friends, leads for sales.... etc... that's what Reuniondotcom, email and the cell phone is for. What happened to the days when you'd call a friend up Friday afternoon and plan "Friday" night? Now people goto myspace, post the comment of where they're goin', where they've been and wonder why the ex boyfriends showed up.... blah!

 

No one ever admits they're looking for old gf/bf's, looking for NEW gf/bf's, trying to make their current jealous...etc.

 

Myspace = temptation.... pure and simple, and ultimately will lead to added drama in the life.

[2ndIINone]

and even when I am in a relationship my page always says "Single." As a person that was once married, I consider some one single if they are not married or engaged. Its all a matter of prospectives I guess.

correct me if I'm wrong, but I do believe there are description settings... Single, In A Relationship, Married, Divorced and I think Swinger.

 

The person that chooses Single wants to be 'found' as Single when someone does a browse. The person in a relationship, morally and ethically speaking should be listed as In A Relationship. To each his own.

 

In this case 'thread' the boyfriend is hiding his relationship for a reason.

[annabelle75]

Yikes .... it seems many of you have had bad experiences with people that use Myspace. I don't think its fair to label everyone who uses it as well ..... evil. I think you are all overrreacting a bit.

 

My sister got me to sign up for it becasue a mutual friend from highschool had a page and I wanted to send him a message. Since then I have reconnected with friends from where I grew up (I moved out of state after college) and even cousins I hadn't seen in more than 15 years.

 

And yes when I was married, it said "Married". Now that I am not it says "Single." I see nothing wrong with it and no guy I have ever dated has ever had a problem with it.

 

Let's try to put things into persepctive and not go over board with the Myspace hatred. I think assuming he is cheating or looking to cheat because his page says "Single" is a bit of a stretch. Maybe he just hasn't changed it because he doesn't like being told what to do.

[annabelle75]

I know there has to be exceptions, but I do thinks that an adult who uses MySpace sends a huge relationship Red Flag. Perhaps it's because I associate it with what ultimately became the downfall of my marriage.

 

A year into my mariage, my wife had just started working as a counselor at a new school and was working with a bunch of "boppers", meaning 23 and 24 year old girls. No offense to those that may be reading. These girls, however, were MySpacers. And they embodied everything I envisioned MySpacers to be. I'll just stop there.

 

Anyway, next thing I know she has a MySpace page... the person I though was my mature 27 year old wife. Well, long story short, within 6 months she had become what was apparently the 21 year old girl she was never able to be before and became somone I didn't even recognize anymore. I had never seen someone regress 6 years in maturity before my eyes like that.

 

The point is that MySpace, to me, is a vehicle for people who cannot handle mature and meaningful interpersonal relationships with just one person and thrive on the need to have constant stimulus, communication, and random friendships with people they barely know simply for the sake of having them. If I was dating someone and I found out she had an active MySpace page, it would be incredibly difficult for me to justify not leaving her. Simply because the fact she had it says much about her character.

 

I am only one person and this is my personal opinion

 

I just wanted to say that I understand where you are coming from. I have had first hand experience with people getting caught up with these "internet communites" (not just Myspace) and then sudenly they change and their priorities get all out of whack. Its very sad to see people suddenly start investing all their time and energy into the e-friendships that are usually very shallow and unhealthy. You just want to grab them and scream, "These people don't care about you. They aren't our real friends. Why can't you see that?"

 

I'm sorry you had such a painful experience. I also hope that you won't turn and run if you meet some one truly special just because she has a Myspace page. Like me she may just be using it to keep in touch with "real" friends and family.

[stace79]

I agree Myspace is a lot of drama. I have one. It's actually come in handy though...it's how someone found me to tell me about our high school reunion. And no, classmates.com or reunion.com didn't work for that info.... =)

 

I guess my issue is not so much the insignificant fact of changing a profile page....for me, it's deeper, like if my boyfriend was that proud and happy to be with me, there would be no wanting to hide it. He'd want everyone to know I was his girl. Sure, there are guys who don't use myspace much or forget they have a profile til they get an email that someone messaged them or something, and that's understandable.

 

I might try saying that "Hey, I just want to know you're proud I'm yours and that you want others to know I'm your girl." Every girl wants a man who's proud to show her off and acknowledge the relationship...

[GuerreroAzteca]

My girl has a bunch of guys as friends on her page and they are meaningless relationships, however she does joke around with them a bit. some work with her some are long time friends I dont see the need for this. and at the time we are having a rough time so it makes me that much more insecure.

[GuerreroAzteca]

if your are truly serious well delete one of your accounts and make the other page for both of you and merge your friends.

 

I bet you the comments will drop in numbers.

[princessjulieanne]

Unfortunately these web sites where we meet people online give us more informations than we really sometimes want to know about our partners. I had been seeing a fellow on adult dating site. Admittedly he's say he wants to play the field a bit and I am ok with with the exception of one individual who through her blogs intentionally gives little digs to me..he doesn't see it..she's a nut job I've decided so he deserves her. I hope your boyfriend does change it but sounds like he doesn't want and by forcing the issue you may force an end to the relationship...maybe just stay off his page..i'm ignoring my friends page I don't want to know.