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How Do I Talk To A Girl I've Never Met?


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I just started my winter quarter at college. There is a cute girl in my Drawing class who I would like to talk to, but how do I go about it? I am 20 years old and I am sick of never being able to get up the guts to talk to girls, so I'm just gonna go for it. But what should I say? I don't even know her name. Should I compliment her clothes/shoes/eyes? Should I just introduce myself? How do I go from not knowing her to having a simple first date with her where I could get to know her, without making me seem creepy or anything?

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If you have a drawing class with her, compliment her on her work. People always love compliments. Or you could just introduce yourself and then ask her if it's the first drawing class she has ever taken and how she's catching on so far.

 

There are just so many things to talk to people about. If you have that much difficulty talking to people, maybe you ought to take a course in self confidence.

 

You just have to understand that people are just people. They don't bite. You won't die, you won't even get injured. If somebody just ignores you or is rude because you tried to talk to them, they can screw off...you don't need them in your life.

 

You've got to stop taking life so seriously. It doesn't go on forever. Meanwhile, start conversations with everybody you see. It's easy. I do it with waitresses, salespeople, etc. They are so flattered that somebody is interested in them.

 

You get the art of gab mastered and you'll have any lady you ever desire.

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good point. yeah, i am very easy going, but when it comes to chicks, i have little self confidence, and it shoots everything out the window, but i'm just gonna try and adopt the "there are plenty of fish in the sea" attitude, where if it doesn't work out, i can move on to someone else. thanks. any more replies would be great.

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...of course

 

I'll just add that you should make sure you just focus on what you see and hear. Don't see her as anything more than she is or what you may idealise and it takes a little of the anxiety away, and focus on what you hear by listening to her and responding to her intelligence, sense of humour and letting yourself go to throw in some of your own.

 

Just remember women are wonderful and they have the same issues with all this that we have.

 

Oliver

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Oh, just one thing, if you go look at her work, and you see the best drawing you've ever seen, don't say something like, "wow, is this your first time drawing" she might think you think her work sucks. Not a good way to start.

 

I always use a little humor, something like "Wow, if I could draw like that I wouldn't need to take this class." That's assuming it doesn't totally suck, and even if it does, say it anyway, lol.

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i got myself a little problem here too i got this girl that i dated and stuff and we still talk and everything like we are ganna go out again but i want to date other people before i go out with her again? i got no clue what to tell her and im a little shy around the people im intrested in? any advise????

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