alist Posted May 17, 2007 Share Posted May 17, 2007 Hi everyone! Ok, I might really be overreacting, but here is my situation... I've been seeing a guy for a month and a half. We actually met on MySpace just after he moved to my city. We immediately hit it off, and have been spending almost all of our free time together. He is a very good looking man...the kind that turn most girls heads...which made me a little bit insecure at the beginning, but he tells me I'm beautiful constantly and treats me better than any guy I have dated...ever. I think I've actually opened maybe one door myself since we have met! He literally runs to open them for me. Anyway, things are going very well, but I've still been holding back a little bit (1) because he doesn't know very many people here and I keep wondering if he would still be wanting to spend all this time with me if he had a lot of friends here, and (2) because I feel like it's all too good to be true. I feel like someone is going to burst my bubble any day now. That comes from past experiences where I was swept off my feet and then basically told we were "just having fun." Ok, so today I checked my guys MySpace pics because I knew he was going to be putting some up from a recent trip. I then discovered that he had added a couple of pics from his trip, but ALSO added THREE pics of him posing with girls. I can tell 2 of them were taken before we met, but one of those is him half naked posing on a beach on the arm of a girl who literally looks like a playboy model...huge breasts and very cute. I mean, isn't it tacky to post pics like that when you are dating someone? Or am I overreacting? I just feel that it's not necessary...I would never do that to him! If he's trying to make me jealous he's doing a pretty damn good job of it! I actually have given him the impression that I'm a bit of a player myself (although I'm really not!) because I haven't had that many boyfriends and am very picky...which is true...but I've had my heart broken a few more times than I let on. Maybe he IS trying to get a reaction out of me...I don't know. Please share your thoughts with me! Thanks for listening! Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted May 17, 2007 Share Posted May 17, 2007 You could ask him why he felt the need to post those pics and see what he has to say. Are you two dating exclusviley right now? Link to post Share on other sites
Author alist Posted May 17, 2007 Author Share Posted May 17, 2007 ...we haven't had "the talk" yet, but it definitely feels like we are a couple. He has told his parents (I actually heard him on the phone) and all of his friends back home about me, and wants me to meet his sisters, etc. I'm afraid to make a big deal about the pics this early on though. Especially because the very first day we met he mentioned that girls he has dated in the past have all tended to get jealous of his MySpace page. He is one of those people who adds every singe person that requests him as a friend...and then all of those girls in their underwear will post all these suggestive comments on his page and stuff. He says he doesn't know most of them personally, but still... Anyway, I was hoping to be the girl that didn't make a big deal over his MySpace, but I'm beginning to see that is going to be harder than I thought!! Link to post Share on other sites
dbtmarley Posted May 18, 2007 Share Posted May 18, 2007 This myspace thing has really impacted quite a few relationships it seems. I just do not get it... I mean I know what the original purpose of it is, stay in contact with friends and what not. What bothers me is how much time people who are in relationships spend on it. When my fiance and I first became exclusive we mutually decided to get rid of the myspace accounts. It is a tool that only causes wonder in a relationship and in my opinion relationships are hard enough as it is without the joy of wonderment (is that a word?). My example of a relationship in my life is that of my mother and father's marriage... Guess what, they did not have a myspace account to receive comments and flirts from the opposite sex! They did not post pictures of themselves with their ex's and flings for that matter. No!! Those pics were thrown away out of respect for each other at the beginning of what became a 27 yr marriage. This myspace thing is a cancer in my opinion. Thomas... (Who is here because of old love letters in the year book..lol) Link to post Share on other sites
2ndIINone Posted May 18, 2007 Share Posted May 18, 2007 wonderment (is that a word?). I prefer to use the word... temptation. Although I haven't had any bad experiences with it as far as relationships go, I have noticed the attempts of games, the Chess game Top 8 moves and strategy.... the picture posting meant to create reactions and jealousy. Hell, I have had women ASK me to comment about them on their page JUST to make someone else jealous... makin' up some story about goin' out or where we have been.... Hung out with another that was 'off' with her boyfriend... she took pictures of us... sure enough, a week later, she posted 'us' on her page... most likely just to piss off her ex... (yes, I asked her to remove them.) Link to post Share on other sites
pennyjosix Posted May 19, 2007 Share Posted May 19, 2007 Yes, myspace can definitely be a cancer. I know plenty of couples that have had problems over freakin myspace, but then again myspace has been a good stalking tool to figure out what's going on in people's lives. I know many couples that knew their other was cheating BECAUSE of myspace. Maybe it's not you that's the problem. He says that he has had other girlfriends that were upset over something on his Myspace so doesn't that mean he knows that he puts stuff on his Myspace that is upsetting to his gf? Maybe he just doesn't care about what anyone else thinks but him. Not sure but he should be a little more considerate to that if y'all are a couple. Link to post Share on other sites
GuerreroAzteca Posted May 21, 2007 Share Posted May 21, 2007 IF he himself said that this cause problems b4 then thats a red flag. You guys sound like your early on so its difficult to really approach anything. I'm not sure if you guys have mutually agreed on eclusively dating. If his parents know or he wants you to meet his sisters does not mean a thing until you actually talk about where you stand. So once you clear that up if its serious then i'd talk about with him and tell him it makes you uncomfortable. It sounds like you dont like the fact that he does that so simply tell him that. Judging from what i've read it does not sound like hes gonna like that too much but your feelings are important and must be respected. Just this week myspace caused a cataclysmic fight between me and my GF of 5 years. Especially because she gets along with the boys real well she is a tomboy and has 20+ guys on her page. I compared giving your myspace link to giving away your phone #. Link to post Share on other sites
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