alexa137 Posted May 18, 2007 Share Posted May 18, 2007 what does it mean when your boyfriend of a year says that he wants his own place--that he wants to do what he wants whenever he wants?? without nobody questioning him---and also what does it mean when he says he wants to spend all his time with his family??? oh yeah and we have lived together for almost a year also what does it mean when he calls a phone number 10-20 times a day(its a girl) but dont know who or what she is to him Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted May 18, 2007 Share Posted May 18, 2007 what does it mean when your boyfriend of a year says that he wants his own place--that he wants to do what he wants whenever he wants?? without nobody questioning him---and also what does it mean when he says he wants to spend all his time with his family??? oh yeah and we have lived together for almost a year also what does it mean when he calls a phone number 10-20 times a day(its a girl) but dont know who or what she is to him It means it's time for you to move on! He's not that into you anymore...simple. I am not sure why you're asking that question..the answer is quite obvious... which part don't you understand? Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted May 18, 2007 Share Posted May 18, 2007 Yeah, what don't you get? He's making you look stupid. He wants out. He's calling someone else now. Put him out of your place. He sounds like a loser to me. Let him be someone else's loser now. He'll treat her like crap too probably. Link to post Share on other sites
dbtmarley Posted May 18, 2007 Share Posted May 18, 2007 I would definitely kick this guy to the curb. I know it is hard to do, but you deserve someone who loves you. Not wanting to live with you is a sure sign that he wants out... the calls to the other girl just adds verification. Sorry..... Link to post Share on other sites
Not_That_Innocent Posted May 18, 2007 Share Posted May 18, 2007 I think it's mean to say the OP doesn't get it, what don't you understand, etc. She obviously has not been through anything like this before so you guys don't need to be so condescending. To the OP, I think what he is saying to you is that there is someone else. The fact that he wants his own place, wants to do what he wants when he wants says to me he wants freedom to be with that someone else. And the number he is calling 10-20 times a day is that someone else. Has he told you that he wants to break up? If not, it's probably coming. Do yourself a favor and break up with him first! Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted May 18, 2007 Share Posted May 18, 2007 I wasn't trying to be mean. I called her BF the loser. Not her. She's smart. I read in another one of her posts that she called this girl using a pay phone to cover her butt so I know she's a smart girl. That's why I didn't understand why this confused her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author alexa137 Posted May 18, 2007 Author Share Posted May 18, 2007 but no matter what i say or do he wont leave! and i mean ive said alot of mean stuff the past week- we argued last night for 2 hrs he started packing but didnt take his work stuff went for a ride to his dads(i saw jeep there) and came back and talked more and i told him if he doesnt make a decision then i just will and went to bed=he followed me and asked waht does that mean? i said i dont know i will have to think and went to sleep he fell asleep right beside me--now i am here cause i cant sleep! i cant any kind of decisio nfrom him at all! and i am so wondering who this girl is i dont have phone records from may 3- til today so i dont know and i just to hear it from him or her-- like i said last time i called someone when we had our phones together he was really pissed! so how else are you gonna find out if your partner is cheating??? but why would you call someone 10-15 times aday? thats what he did with me the first 6-7 months we were toegheter well he still kinda does though! i want to cal lher again and fin d out more! Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted May 18, 2007 Share Posted May 18, 2007 It means he is thinking he wants out but isn't man enough to back it up. Dump this weakling loser ASAP and move on. He is just biding his time pulling away slowly while he keeps you hanging on. So don't. Get out there and find a man who is committed to you. This guy is trying to lay a path to leave - don't wait and make it easy for him. Get him out now. Pack up all his stuff, take it to his dad's and dump it, change the locks, and if he calls just tell him there's nothing to talk about. The other girl is going to be his go to girl. He just doesn't want to be alone so he is getting her all lovey dovey so he can run to her arms when he decides to. Get rid of him so you can move on to better -- this guy is a boy. Go get a man who can stand on his own and isn't such a weak lame loser. Link to post Share on other sites
O'Malley Posted May 18, 2007 Share Posted May 18, 2007 Get him out now. Pack up all his stuff, take it to his dad's and dump it, change the locks, and if he calls just tell him there's nothing to talk about. Do this, especially if you are in a high housing market. He could be delaying in hopes that you'll finally get tired of his BS and leave--then his lazy butt doesn't have to worry about moving. Link to post Share on other sites
BeachBlonde Posted May 18, 2007 Share Posted May 18, 2007 Sounds like this girl he's calling is someone he's interested in, and now he no longer wants to be with you which is why he wants his space and now suddenly wants to live alone in his own place. Do you think you guys moved in too soon? He sounds very immature and it doesn't sound like he was ready to move in with you in the first place. I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this. But like everyone else said, I think it's time to lose this guy and find someone else who will treat you with respect. Link to post Share on other sites
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