txchick13 Posted May 18, 2007 Share Posted May 18, 2007 Hi all, I guess I should start by saying I am 23 and getting out of an abusive marriage that lasted for 6 years. I recently started a new job. I have a huge crush on the guy that was my "trainer". I know he is single and I feel we have chemistry but am afraid I might be imagining it. When my training class was coming to an end I added him to my Myspace lol. He messaged me about something general. I messaged back but nothing ever came of it. I sent him a message several days later about something lame and general. In a reply he told me and I quote "YOU give me an imaginable reflection". I messaged him back and mentioned that he was hot and he never replied! He has came by my desk almost every day since my class and just kind of stood there and picked up something I had on my desk. But I was always in the middle of a call with a customer. Not to be conceited but I am not a bad looking girl and guys hit on me all the time. He is sort of nerdy even though I find him to be irresistible and I feel like you could cut the sexual tension with a knife between us. Am I imagining it? Can a grown man really be that shy? Or do I need to admit that he is just not interested. Have I not given him the more than enough go ahead? PLEASE give me some advice here!!! Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted May 18, 2007 Share Posted May 18, 2007 Well, telling him that he's hot would normally be plenty of encouragement for a guy to go ahead and ask you out. Maybe he is shy. Why don't you ask him out? Link to post Share on other sites
Unbeleivable Posted May 25, 2007 Share Posted May 25, 2007 Normally I would say that he's not interested but you say that he's kind of nerdy so maybe he's just not 100% comfortable with women. Ask him out, if nothing comes of it, then he's probably not interested. If something does come of it, then you win. Why not give it a shot, you are young, only one life to live! I personally like women that take the intiative. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted May 25, 2007 Share Posted May 25, 2007 well if it was you and me girl, I would have probably been having sex with you atleast 3 or more times a week, and pertending to care about the abuse youve been through, he might not be that interested, or he just might be a total goof with the ladies... either way your probably doomed Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted May 25, 2007 Share Posted May 25, 2007 that he might just be shy... maybe he's not sure whether you're interested and he doesn't want to get a 'NO thank you' My advice..why always wait for the guy to make the first move... go for him! I bet anything that, if you're as hot as you say you are.. he'll be more than happy to hang out with you...yoooohoooo!!! Come on you can do it! Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted May 25, 2007 Share Posted May 25, 2007 she never said she was hot, just that she was in an abusive relation ship, she added this guy to myspace and sent him a msg saying he was hot, and that he stops by her desk alot Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted May 25, 2007 Share Posted May 25, 2007 she never said she was hot, just that she was in an abusive relation ship, she added this guy to myspace and sent him a msg saying he was hot, and that he stops by her desk alot Do you need glasses... she wrote: Not to be conceited but I am not a bad looking girl and guys hit on me all the time So, in my book...she's hot... Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted May 25, 2007 Share Posted May 25, 2007 im a guy and ive hit on my share of not so good looking girls it means nothing, if she had said im in good shape or specificaly that people compliment her on her looks... but random guys hitting on her all the time means nothing to me.. she could be a duff for all i know... and yes i did forget about her writing that when creating my proceeding post Link to post Share on other sites
blue16 Posted May 28, 2007 Share Posted May 28, 2007 I bet he's waiting for you to make a move. Yup, that sounds weird but if you put the pieces together it makes sense. He's kinda nerdy, so we'll say he's kinda shy and doesn't have a lot of experience with women. You added him to myspace, you said he was hot etc...so I bet he feels like YOU are the one in charge of this thing so he is waiting for you to ask him out lol. Then again he might not be interested...but then why would he stop by your desk all the time? Ahhh too many possibilities, just go for it so at least you will know one way or the other. I do this all the time too, you think someones interested but at the same time you're not sure...and you over analyze to death when you could just make a move and your curiosity would be satisfied! Link to post Share on other sites
Hitman10000 Posted June 3, 2007 Share Posted June 3, 2007 LOL, it's so obvious. Did you want some validation whether he was truly into you? Duh, he is! Sounds like you have to make a move, ask him to casually go for a drink or some dessert. Link to post Share on other sites
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