I guess it's time...

[Chrome Barracuda]

Command! ATTENTION!

 

To all who see these procedeings ~ we bid welcome!

 

Know ye that having special trust and confidence in Saxis we do henceforth re-award him his balls and fore-claim him a true Spartian in the keeping of Gunny376 and Chrome Barricuda!

 

 

Here ,HERE!!!!!

[Saxis]

Command! ATTENTION!

 

To all who see these procedeings ~ we bid welcome!

 

Know ye that having special trust and confidence in Saxis we do henceforth re-award him his balls and fore-claim him a true Spartian in the keeping of Gunny376 and Chrome Barricuda!

 

Here ,HERE!!!!!

 

Thanks!

 

 

Things seem better now. I say that lightly because I still suspect BS, but she asked to talk again, and this time it wasn't what I was expecting. It went something like this:

 

"I know I was a horrible wife to you and I'm sorry. I know you want to move on and that's probably better for both of us. The only reason I considered getting back together was for <our daughter>. I hope we can at least be friends for her sake though. I'm also sorry about being jealous. You were my first love and it's hard to imagine you with someone else. I'll get over it."

 

That's trimmed down to the basics. It was about 10 minutes of her going on and on in the same fashion. Mostly agreeing on the stuff I already told her, and affirming my reasons to not keep beating a dead horse. I told I was also sorry it didn't work out, but no one has to take the blame for it. I think she's still feeling guilty for walking out, and just trying to look like the "good guy" in all of this now. Oh well.... I couldn't argue with anything she said.

[Mustang Sally]

Good Gravy, Saxis.

What a drama queen, that one.

 

Good for you for sticking up for yourself.

Good for you for having the strength to move on.

Too bad for her for letting a good one get away, you know?

Sounds to me like you are much better off without this kind of person in your life. Who needs that kind of juvenile game-playing?

 

Stay strong - for you and your daughter. Sounds like there might be more drama in your future....good luck and keep us posted.

[Saxis]

I really shouldn't be surprised. The last conversation we had sounded too good to be true. This time she spent a half an hour trying to convince me to come over and have sex with her! More bawling when I told her NO about 10 times. I really can't even be friends with her if this crap is going to continue....

[ShoeGirl]

Wow! She is getting desperate to get you back.

 

Stand your ground! Too bad there isn't a good way to get her out of your life completely.

[Nemo]

This time she spent a half an hour trying to convince me to come over and have sex with her!

How long is the drive? Next time, I advise you to take the quickest option, and just get it over with. Anything to shut her up. Anyway, if she springs for pizza, then that would be a sweet deal.

[Gunny376]

Just more (as Mustang Sally said) ~ immature juvenile game-playing!

 

Really! You could get the same if not more "drama" (but with twice the fiber! ) by daily watching "Day's Of Our Lives" or "General Hospital"

[Gunny376]

How long is the drive? Next time, I advise you to take the quickest option, and just get it over with. Anything to shut her up. Anyway, if she springs for pizza, then that would be a sweet deal.

 

Naw!!!!

 

At least

 

Sex!

 

Pizza!

 

and beer!

 

Gas is expensive these days!

[Saxis]

Yeah... so the little "don't ask, don't tell" policy we made about not telling each other about people we're seeing? Failed on the first shot.

 

Last night I made plans with the girl my friend set me up with on the blind date (The date went well, by the way!). She was coming into town to go couch shopping, so we planned to meet at my house, grab some coffee and go together. Not really a date. I have my daughter for the weekend, and we decided it would be fine to bring her along. Then the X called and asked if she could have our daughter for a couple hours, so I just told her we had plans for the morning, and some grocery shopping to do but we'd be around in the afternoon, and I'd call her when I was done. So my "date" got to meet my daughter and we spent the morning couch shopping. My daughter really took to her quickly, which is rare because she's usually very shy around new people. Had fun, and I treated her to lunch afterwards. Yeah... it was a lot of fun actually!

 

I left my phone turned off and in the car while we were out. When we parted after lunch, I checked my messages and the X had left one asking if I was home yet. This was about 2:30, and I told her we were just headed to the grocery store. She starts asking where we've been all morning. I tell her we just had plans, abiding about our "don't ask, don't tell" policy. She starts drilling me about our "plans". So I just tell her everything. Yep... that pissed her off! She was furious that I let another girl meet our daughter. She's got one mean streak of jealousy!

 

After calling my "date" about every name in the book and screaming at me, I hung up on her. Just let it ring for the callback. A rude text message came along after that. On the third call I answered, rather annoyed. Screaming continued, I hung up again. Fourth call was a few minutes later. She wanted to meet at the grocery store to pick up our daughter. During the hand-off, she proceeded to scream at me in the parking lot, threatening to never let me see our daughter again! I started walking away and she chases me and tries to hold me there. Think she realized she was looking like a psycho as everyone was watching, gave another good yell at me and went back to her car. I'm laughing, and so are a couple other people that were standing around!

 

So I walk into the store, low and behold who do I see? The counselor we talked to in the beginning!! So we have a quick conversation about how things are going, the latest news of her wanting me back and about the scene that just took place in the parking lot. He laughs and says, "Sounds like she's a little confused on what she wants, and emotional about not having control.". I don't think he could be more right! He told me "Good luck with the date!" too.

 

So the X brings our daughter back to the house a few hours later. Invites herself in and proceeds to apologize for her behavior and get this: Asking me to take her back again! Asking if we could go on a date sometime and get to know each other again! I tell her it would never happen as a date, but possibly we could be friends sometime in the future. Her: "Well, think about it!". Me: "I have... for 6 months. I don't want this anymore!" Her: "I know, but still just keep it in mind!". Freaking lunatic....

 

She said she was really pissed that I introduced a date to our daughter. Somewhat understandable and maybe a bit soon, but I trust this girl. She works as a nanny to 6 girls, aged 2-13, and I know the family she works for. It's not like she's trying to replace my X as a mother! That's absurd! We do have a very smart little girl though, and we did nothing that might confuse her. Nothing physical or conversation about anything other than the task at hand. She knows the situation I'm in, so we've decided to just spend some time together and get to know each other. After our day together though, she's definitely someone I want to date! Is this really that inappropriate?

[Lyssa]

Saxis! What a drama queen that one!

 

You handled it very well - I don't know if I could handle it if someone made a scene like your X did!

 

I don't think it's inappropriate of you to date the new girl. Why should it be? You know for sure you don't want to go back and that it's over and done with.

 

I think your X is toxic and I know you both are co-parenting your daughter but you have your own life. You are an adult and I'm very sure you know how to take care of a situation. The new girl sounds like a really nice girl - just enjoy the freedom you have now - to date whoever you want

[Gunny376]

Sounds like the ex-hex has a personal problem ~ and that's what it is! HER problem! Not yours!

 

I've been divorced eighteen years, and to this day? It PO's my ex for me to show up around my grown children with some gal ten, or more years younger than she is? What can I can say? I still hit the gym five times a week? I still run three miles X's five days a week? I'm still the same weight I was when I graduated from bootcamp/high school thirty years ago?

 

A couple of "laugh-lines" and "crow's feet" but essentially tha same guy I was thirty years ago ~ albiet a little less hair on the crome-dome! But even that mostly still there!

 

Bottom line? Worse than some ~ better than most!

 

Oh well? Too sad? Too bad? She had her chance?

Edited February 10, 2008 by Gunny376

[Saxis]

The crying and pleading? Was thinking about how to go about making arrangements for my daughter on V-day, since I now have plans with someone. This morning the X came online and asked me to take our daughter for the night. Then we made arrangements for Tues and Wed also. So.... I went ahead and asked if she could take her Thurs. She immediately asks if I have a date and gets pissed. Said she was also invited to dinner, so I offered to make arrangements so she could go. That was even worse!

 

I never once confirmed to her that I had a date, even though it is true and she assumed correctly. But then she asked ME to dinner. Got really butt-hurt, thanked me for another day of tears, that I already replaced her, that this girl is getting all the things she wanted blah blah blah....Then she starts plowing through the questions, about what we're gonna do and where I'm taking her. I don't answer any of her questions or even confirm the date, so I say "We agreed not to tell each other our plans.". Her response: "Well I changed my mind, because I realized that we should be together,, that we could make it work. "I dont want you to take someone else out, I want you to take me. Like when we were together and we just passed right by the holiday, take me out and show me you love me. That is all I wanted and maybe things would have been different.You should give it a chance.." Ughh....... "Is she that much prettier than I am? Nicer? I mean you know that I am not all bad, you should know that. I am the one that should be there not her. I know that now. I know you could still love me, you just have to try. And now you are taking her out I am crushed.. My heart is breaking. That is not fair to your wife."

 

I sh*t you not, those are direct quotes copied from our IM conversation, which I have learned to save a copy of and date it every time.

 

 

And now I was interrupted writing this for another hour of begging and pleading....

 

If I say "No" any more I think my vocal cords will get stuck in that position....

 

*sigh*

Edited February 11, 2008 by Saxis

[Chrome Barracuda]

The crying and pleading? Was thinking about how to go about making arrangements for my daughter on V-day, since I now have plans with someone. This morning the X came online and asked me to take our daughter for the night. Then we made arrangements for Tues and Wed also. So.... I went ahead and asked if she could take her Thurs. She immediately asks if I have a date and gets pissed. Said she was also invited to dinner, so I offered to make arrangements so she could go. That was even worse!

 

I never once confirmed to her that I had a date, even though it is true and she assumed correctly. But then she asked ME to dinner. Got really butt-hurt, thanked me for another day of tears, that I already replaced her, that this girl is getting all the things she wanted blah blah blah....Then she starts plowing through the questions, about what we're gonna do and where I'm taking her. I don't answer any of her questions or even confirm the date, so I say "We agreed not to tell each other our plans.". Her response: "Well I changed my mind, because I realized that we should be together,, that we could make it work. "I dont want you to take someone else out, I want you to take me. Like when we were together and we just passed right by the holiday, take me out and show me you love me. That is all I wanted and maybe things would have been different.You should give it a chance.." Ughh....... "Is she that much prettier than I am? Nicer? I mean you know that I am not all bad, you should know that. I am the one that should be there not her. I know that now. I know you could still love me, you just have to try. And now you are taking her out I am crushed.. My heart is breaking. That is not fair to your wife."

 

I sh*t you not, those are direct quotes copied from our IM conversation, which I have learned to save a copy of and date it every time.

 

 

And now I was interrupted writing this for another hour of begging and pleading....

 

If I say "No" any more I think my vocal cords will get stuck in that position....

 

*sigh*

 

Good lord better get that restraining order ready!!!! lmao!!!!

 

Wow she sounds like she's losing her mind! Is she better, prettier? take me back, it'll be like old times. lol.

 

Six just keep it moving, your ex isnt worth taking back she hasnt changed. Girls that you take back with issues deeply ingrained like that, she cant change, or wont. The minute she' feels she got you trapped again, she'll revert back to her old ways.

 

...Keep it moving!!!

[Saxis]

Yep, it sure is. So after the X found out about my couch shopping "date" with our daughter on Saturday, she apparently went through all my Myspace friends, and the girl I went with just happened to have a Status posted that she had bought a new couch. Busted! So now my X knows her name and the small town she lives in.... and she's pissed! She was promptly deleted from my friends and my profile locked.

 

She invited herself into the house as usual when she dropped our daughter off, and we pretty much had to rehash EVERYTHING. Why I didn't want to "work things out" and all the crap. She tried getting lovey dovey on me and I pushed her away, so she ended up getting pissed, and pretty much TELLING ME why I didn't want to get back together with her. Made a huge scene in front of our daughter, calling me selfish because I won't work it out. Handed her to me, and pushed us both, luckily down to the couch. She had our daughter ask me if I wanted to move into their new apartment with them, and of course I had to tell her no. She's finally down to using our daughter for manipulation, so she can blame the entire thing on me.

 

She wonders why I don't want to reconcile.... hmm....

 

I was honest with the girl I"m dating and told her everything that happened. The response I got was not exactly what I was expecting. She said "I'm not worried, I can handle her!". I like her...

Edited February 12, 2008 by Saxis

[Pyro]

Yep, it sure is. So after the X found out about my couch shopping "date" with our daughter on Saturday, she apparently went through all my Myspace friends, and the girl I went with just happened to have a Status posted that she had bought a new couch. Busted! So now my X knows her name and the small town she lives in.... and she's pissed! She was promptly deleted from my friends and my profile locked.

 

She invited herself into the house as usual when she dropped our daughter off, and we pretty much had to rehash EVERYTHING. Why I didn't want to "work things out" and all the crap. She tried getting lovey dovey on me and I pushed her away, so she ended up getting pissed, and pretty much TELLING ME why I didn't want to get back together with her. Made a huge scene in front of our daughter, calling me selfish because I won't work it out. Handed her to me, and pushed us both, luckily down to the couch. She had our daughter ask me if I wanted to move into their new apartment with them, and of course I had to tell her no. She's finally down to using our daughter for manipulation, so she can blame the entire thing on me.

 

She wonders why I don't want to reconcile.... hmm....

 

I was honest with the girl I"m dating and told her everything that happened. The response I got was not exactly what I was expecting. She said "I'm not worried, I can handle her!". I like her...

 

She pushed you while you were holding your young child? You could get her in trouble for that can't you?

[Saxis]

In her fit of rage last night, she sent a message to the girl I'm dating to pretty much tell her we are still married and not to touch our daughter. Then she sent another one with a huge apology, saying she took the anger out on her and that she doesn't care if we were friends or more.

 

She also sent a big apology to me, and says she's moved on (overnight, of course!).

 

It's like the Twilight Zone!

[underpants]

Man that is messed up.

 

Saxis, how long is it before your divorce is final?

[Melovator]

Is you're ex medicated??? Cause she clearly should be! Wishing you all the best Saxis, reads like you're doing it tough but staying strong.

[Chrome Barracuda]

Good lord ge that restraining order ready!!!!

 

lmao!

 

We are still married. it's cool if you have a relationship???

 

WTF?

 

Someone has clearly lost their marbles.

 

You dont want her pissing in your kool-aid man, So you know what you need to effectively bar her from entering your place. Hand off the kid at the foyer and tell her peace out! that's it, game locked , cypher closed.

[Saxis]

The last month or so has gone fairly smoothly. She got settled into her new place after living with friends for a few months, and has asked if I would move in with her. As civil as it's been, I'm really considering this as well as taking her up on the offer to go to counseling and possibly reconcile.

 

The problem is: How do I tell the girl I'm dating?

[Chrome Barracuda]

The last month or so has gone fairly smoothly. She got settled into her new place after living with friends for a few months, and has asked if I would move in with her. As civil as it's been, I'm really considering this as well as taking her up on the offer to go to counseling and possibly reconcile.

 

The problem is: How do I tell the girl I'm dating?

 

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!

 

You feel much happier on your own right? Your ex doesnt want you right? Then keep on moving!!!! Do not go back six! If you love yourself and respect yourself to see that she treated you like crap?

 

I dont understand men and women who go back to horrible people who honestly treat them like crap!!!

[ShoeGirl]

The last month or so has gone fairly smoothly. She got settled into her new place after living with friends for a few months, and has asked if I would move in with her. As civil as it's been, I'm really considering this as well as taking her up on the offer to go to counseling and possibly reconcile.

 

The problem is: How do I tell the girl I'm dating?

 

She hasn't been civil all that long, look at your last post on this thread, are you sure you want to go back to that? Why not tell her you want things to keep working civilly while living separate lives before you change you life for her, before you ruin your current relationship.

 

Do you want to make it work for your daughter or for you?

 

Slightly off topic but how is your gf doing?

[Saxis]

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!

 

You feel much happier on your own right? Your ex doesnt want you right? Then keep on moving!!!! Do not go back six! If you love yourself and respect yourself to see that she treated you like crap?

 

I dont understand men and women who go back to horrible people who honestly treat them like crap!!!

 

She hasn't been civil all that long, look at your last post on this thread, are you sure you want to go back to that? Why not tell her you want things to keep working civilly while living separate lives before you change you life for her, before you ruin your current relationship.

 

Do you want to make it work for your daughter or for you?

 

Slightly off topic but how is your gf doing?

 

 

April Fools! Not in a million years!

[underpants]

 

April Fools! Not in a million years!

 

Alright, Saxy...

 

You got me worse the Woggs.

 

I couldn't even respond and felt so for you.

 

Thank goodness this was a joke.

[Saxis]

Alright, Saxy...

 

You got me worse the Woggs.

 

I couldn't even respond and felt so for you.

 

Thank goodness this was a joke.

 

 

I thought it might be too transparent considering the psychosis of it all. I'd really have to fall off the deep end!