Author mewbomb Posted January 24, 2003 Author Share Posted January 24, 2003 and want to get flamed on this. lol... well... i am going to our fav. hangout tomorrow night with a friend of mine. Should i "just" tell her that i will be there if she wants to talk??? I know its probably not a good idea but i would love to see her there. I know...bad idea. Anyone think its an ok idea??? anyone!!! I think if i give up too quick it will be over forever. Link to post Share on other sites
barry Posted January 24, 2003 Share Posted January 24, 2003 I think if you do ANYTHING but go there and seem as though you are indifferent your finished. She already knows you are around if she wants to talk. Remember NO contact, and dont let her see you sweat. good luck barry Link to post Share on other sites
Author mewbomb Posted January 24, 2003 Author Share Posted January 24, 2003 but what do you mean??? do i go for it or no.... i don't want to call...quick...its getting almost too late.. thanks barry Link to post Share on other sites
mighty bop Posted January 24, 2003 Share Posted January 24, 2003 Man this is really sad. Give up on this girl already. You shouldn't be stressing out like this. It's not good for you. You're only hurting yourself........... Link to post Share on other sites
Swamp Posted January 24, 2003 Share Posted January 24, 2003 NNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PAST GIRLFRIENDS... BAD BAD BAD EXPERIENCE! STAY THE HELL AWAY! DO NOT GO TO THE HANGOUT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES! Link to post Share on other sites
Author mewbomb Posted January 24, 2003 Author Share Posted January 24, 2003 thanks for the yelling...but... i am going anyways... maybe i shouldn't tell her i will be there...that is prob a mistake...but you never know... but if i do...and she is there... that could be good...and don't get me wrong...i feel somewhat indifferent to this whole situation... it could be good because she does not have to go...if she goes because she knows im there??? what does that mean? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted January 24, 2003 Share Posted January 24, 2003 Back again...the 81st poster in this thread!!! Guiness, where is your record book??? Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted January 24, 2003 Share Posted January 24, 2003 Although, I agree with Swamp and that no contact should be made....I do have to say this. If there WERE to be any contact....it should be to tell her that you will be there in case it makes her UNCOMFORTABLE. That way she can elect to not show up if she had already made plans. Link to post Share on other sites
mighty bop Posted January 24, 2003 Share Posted January 24, 2003 Hey mew I know why don't you just start following her around nonstop, calling her nonstop until she is so sick of you? That'll teach her a thing or two! No one gets rid of mewbomb that easily!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author mewbomb Posted January 24, 2003 Author Share Posted January 24, 2003 I agree... i wouldn't want to be there if she would feel uncomfortable or whatever... but i don't want to call.... i do want to tell her that i will be there... i dont know... hey mighty bop...just cause she didn't come back to you... no reason to be like that... doesn't mean the same will happen to me... Link to post Share on other sites
mighty bop Posted January 24, 2003 Share Posted January 24, 2003 Just because who didn't come back to me?? Actually my first girlfriend did break up with me and I was mad and called her over and over. Then I actually went to her house and left her something on her doorstep for her birthday. Then I finally just give up, which is what you need to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mewbomb Posted January 24, 2003 Author Share Posted January 24, 2003 sorry that your sick of my posts...and all that... but you shouldn't have left anything... anyways...this is nowhere near my first GF and to take advice from someone like you prob. would be a bad idea.... maybe i should give up, maybe i shouldn't even bother, but if im not annoying her...calling all the time... or emailing...whatever... then why not take some chances...yeah..i know im holding on to some hope..but hey...i love er... so what am i to do??? I came to this board because ive never had such a hard time...and let me tell you...ive had a number of 2+ year relationships and this is by far the hardest to take..... I hope this post goes on forever!!!!!!! LOL...jk... thank you everyone for your advice and thoughts Link to post Share on other sites
mighty bop Posted January 24, 2003 Share Posted January 24, 2003 I understand how hard it can be. I just hate to see you in so much pain man...... Link to post Share on other sites
Author mewbomb Posted January 31, 2003 Author Share Posted January 31, 2003 Well... im sure lots of you out there have read my post on what was happening between my gf and I. She broke up with me and I thought that was it for good. I tried to stay away...not call, email... whatever. So.. the past few days have been quite strange to say the least. We talked the other day and I decided to ask her to be friends if nothing else. She said ok... Either way, i told her it would be better to see her soon. I didn't want to let too much time go by. So.. we made plans for sat. of this week to go and get some dinner, talk, who knows. Well... turns out, she doesn't know if she can be friends and wanted to meet... TODAY. Ok... fine. So we go out today and get some coffee, notice a Tarot card reading in the midst. Let me just say it was quite uncomfortable being with her today to say the least. We kept looking at each other, not the same as it used to be, just a little different. Well.... we went to the Tarot card reading, for fun of course, and went to get into our cars. I said she should start it so its not so cold and she did. All this time i could see it on her face that she loved and missed me. She went to go kiss me, i pulled away. I wasn't sure if that was the best idea. But, we did, and it was great. Now my question is this... What is expected of all of this??? Should i take it as a new chance, or take it as something else. As good as it felt, i want to be carefull here. There was some heavy kissin' involved and she actually asked me to go back with her... I said no.. lets wait. "gee...what a guy" Either way... let me know what you all think about this.. am i getting set up for another let down. Are we going to get back together??? Its not as if anyone would REALLY know but... i wanted to see some opinions... Thanks again everyone... Link to post Share on other sites
mighty bop Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 Make her go through all the pain you went through. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mewbomb Posted January 31, 2003 Author Share Posted January 31, 2003 ya know... ive been thinking about all of this quite much. It was a lot of pain i went through, do two wrongs make a right??? in my eyes no! but, on the other hand... down the road... "something" might just happen... hehe... im not even sure i want to do this. But it looks like im going to give it a go. I really do love her! we will see what happens...surely not to let anyone down! Link to post Share on other sites
midori Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 ... I think that mighty bop has a point. Not to be vindictive (fun, of course, but ultimately fruitless), but because you've been suffering quite a bit, and if this is going to be revived, it has to be for a good reason. Not just an auld-lang-syne flaring of passion, not just a "oh perhaps I made a mistake" bit of back pedalling. She needs to really KNOW that she wants to get back together with you before it will be safe for you to consider getting back together with her. It's hard, when you want something badly, to hold out to make sure that it's real. Believe me, I know. But if you're impatient and give in too quickly (and it's so easy to rationalize and justify doing so) you might very well find yourself back in a state of despair, sooner than you'd ever guess. If she wants to rekindle things, she'll pursue it. There won't be any doubt about it. In the meantime, no matter how much you want to see her, you probably ought to keep contact to a minimum. She knows where to find you. Try not to get your hopes up too much (not to be a wet blanket, but if you're really counting on things working out a certain way it will be so much harder for you to be prudent and patient). Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
pinkroses Posted January 31, 2003 Share Posted January 31, 2003 sounds like she may be influenced by her sister, who doesn't get along with you, or her depression may be making it hard for her to function in a relationship. Or she may truly feel that you are not right for her. Whatever the reason, don't keep trying to win her back. You've made efforts and she's obviously not interested in working on things, so save your energy for a girl who is interested in a relationship and emotionally stable. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mewbomb Posted February 25, 2003 Author Share Posted February 25, 2003 Im not sure if i should be continuing with this thread but ill give it a shot. We starting going out on and off as friends again. Now once again... said i didn't respect her wanting to be alone. Now my question is.. why does she tell me over and over how much she loves me, but is willing to be apart. Is this to see if we are right for each other. I know im a dummy for even seeing her again...but what can i do when I love her. We had a great great time the past few weeks and she has people talking **** in her ear. Like, "hey....you broke up, why are you seeing him" blah blah.. now the next morning she decides its not working. She goes on and on about how incredibly she loves me. How spectacular the sex was... Is it really possible that someone could "want" to be alone or even away from someone the "love" so much. I guess i don't get it and never will, but like... someone said on her.. Fool me once.. shame on you! Fool me twice... SHAME ON ME!! I know i know...my fault. Well.. nothing i can do now but let it go. Maybe one day i will see her agian!! i would like to hear some advice as to why they think this is happening!! thanks everyone!!!!!!!!!111 Link to post Share on other sites
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