Guest Posted May 19, 2007 Share Posted May 19, 2007 Okay I'm 19, and we have been together for 6 months. We both really love each other, but today I went to a strip club, and got a lap dance. She doesn't even know that I went, and tells me always not to. She's really a conservative type which I really like...But I don't kno what happened to me. Originally I was suppose to just relax with my friends, but that damn stripper kept coming to me. And I got weak and got a lap dance in which I sucked her tits.. I feel so guilty now. If i tell my girl she'll be devastated. It's a long distance relationship too right now, so trust is key. And I betrayed that trust. Im really new to this relationship thingy, and had no clue that I would actually care this much. Please tell me what I should do? Should I tell her or not? Link to post Share on other sites
Bree Posted May 21, 2007 Share Posted May 21, 2007 You need to tell her. How could you even do something so sleezy? Link to post Share on other sites
crazy_grl Posted May 21, 2007 Share Posted May 21, 2007 in which I sucked her tits.. Ugh. Dude... You don't know where those thing have been. You need to tell your gf, because you knew she wouldn't approve before you went and because you took it a step farther than just a lap dance. Link to post Share on other sites
messit Posted May 21, 2007 Share Posted May 21, 2007 Okay I'm 19, and we have been together for 6 months. We both really love each other, but today I went to a strip club, and got a lap dance. She doesn't even know that I went, and tells me always not to. She's really a conservative type which I really like...But I don't kno what happened to me. Originally I was suppose to just relax with my friends, but that damn stripper kept coming to me. And I got weak and got a lap dance in which I sucked her tits.. I feel so guilty now. If i tell my girl she'll be devastated. It's a long distance relationship too right now, so trust is key. And I betrayed that trust. Im really new to this relationship thingy, and had no clue that I would actually care this much. Please tell me what I should do? Should I tell her or not? Dude, you're 19. Telling her really doesn't really serve any useful purpose. You're really trying to find a way to ease your own guilt. Learn from the guilt and change your behavior if you feel what you did is wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
littlepiggy1 Posted May 21, 2007 Share Posted May 21, 2007 If you can't deal with the guilt, you will have to tell her and be fully prepared for her dumping your sorry ass. Otherwise, if you can deal with the guilt, you just need to conceal that from her and hope to god she never finds out. And in the event she does find out, be prepared for her dumping your sorry ass. Link to post Share on other sites
pennyjosix Posted May 23, 2007 Share Posted May 23, 2007 you suck. literally. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted May 23, 2007 Share Posted May 23, 2007 Ok first off you do realise you just sucked up the spit off of every other douche bag that licked that chick's boobs? So in other words you swaped spit with all the other dudes that where there that night especiallu the fat bald dude that was sitting in pervs row LOL sorry I couldn't resist... As per your situation, don't tell her, she doesn't need to know what you did. BUT you can NEVER EVER do something so low and sleazy like that again, make it a personal goal of yours to outdo your own mistake, make a pact with yourself that you will be better for what you did, and remind yourself of your dispicable act every single time you get tempted to do something remotely close to that again. Mistakes we all make it's what we learn from it that counts, it's an agreement between you and your conscience. So do the right thing and smarten up! Link to post Share on other sites
Adick Posted May 23, 2007 Share Posted May 23, 2007 Dude--you did NOT cheat. You got a lap dance! Don't be a dork. Some things are better left unsaid. Link to post Share on other sites
ilmw Posted May 23, 2007 Share Posted May 23, 2007 Dude--you did NOT cheat. You got a lap dance! Don't be a dork. Some things are better left unsaid. I agree... Probably not the best thing... or smartest thing you could do... but it is not cheating... just piss poor entertainment... I'm surprised you were allowed to touch her... I have been to only a few strip clubs.. and when someone has 'touched' one of the 'ladies' they are not so politely escorted out of the building... BTW... I give you some advice... for free. Don't do things that will screw up your relationship... its pretty easy.. when you think about it... Oh wait... I was 19 once...... you will do lots of things to screw up.. until you get it right.. Link to post Share on other sites
Enema Posted May 23, 2007 Share Posted May 23, 2007 This thread is wayyyy too mellow. Paging Rainfall! Link to post Share on other sites
rainfall Posted May 23, 2007 Share Posted May 23, 2007 This thread is wayyyy too mellow. Paging Rainfall! Awww how sweet..... Yeah you did cheat on her and she deserves someone better but you will either have to live with the guilt or tell her and have her dump you for someone who won't treat her like you did. Link to post Share on other sites
imonyourside Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 its not so much that you cheated on her but you did something she asked you not to, and i'm assuming you said you wouldn't. going to a strip club isn't THAT bad but i'd say getting a lapdance is and then using your mouth on a stripper is probably the worse. its a complete tossup for me. i'm putting myself in your gf's position and i'm trying to figure out if i would want to know that piece of information .................... wash out your mouth and never do something so dumb. telling her will be the end of your relationship. or at least start problems and they will go on for years trust me Link to post Share on other sites
zilverenvlinder Posted May 30, 2007 Share Posted May 30, 2007 Um, this might sound weird, but in all honesty, I think if I had a choice I would rather my boyfriend sucked some stripper's tits than stick his tongue in some girl's mouth. Hm? Link to post Share on other sites
reddog63 Posted May 30, 2007 Share Posted May 30, 2007 Telling her would be the silly IMO. Were the titties any good? Link to post Share on other sites
nicki Posted May 31, 2007 Share Posted May 31, 2007 OMG, don't make him visually cheat all over again! Seriously, it was a lack of judgment to do you what you did. Learn from it. While in a relationship, never ever go to a strip club again. Just don't put yourself in those kinds of situations. I know a lot of young guys go to these places and most outgrow it...or their women make sure they outgrow it. Anyway, I can't believe I'm saying this, but since you are 19 and still learning, and didn't sleep with this other "woman," I wouldn't tell your girlfriend. Just commit yourself to being a better man and to being with her, and only her in special and sexual matters. No flirting with other women. No touching other women. No going to strip clubs. No secret contact with other women. It's simple. Your girlfriend is your number one priority, and the ONLY woman in your life that you are intimate with in that way. Got it? Good. Forgive yourself. (Oh, and if you do it again, then break up with your girlfriend.) Link to post Share on other sites
crazy_grl Posted May 31, 2007 Share Posted May 31, 2007 OP, I don't know if you're still concerned about this issue since you haven't posted again, but I disagree with pretty much all of the last post. While in a relationship, never ever go to a strip club again. No, just don't go to strip clubs if your gf doesn't agree with it. And if you must go to strip clubs, don't date girls who don't approve of it. Also don't put your mouth on any part of a stripper. That's just disgusting whether you have a gf or not. Anyway, I can't believe I'm saying this, but since you are 19 and still learning, and didn't sleep with this other "woman," I wouldn't tell your girlfriend. Just commit yourself to being a better man and to being with her, and only her in special and sexual matters. Being 19 does make it better than if you were 30, but it doesn't excuse you from having to take responsibility for your actions. Taking responsibility is how you grow up so that you won't be doing these same things at 30. No flirting with other women. No touching other women. That's a little extreme. You can't go your whole life avoiding even touching another woman, and if a girl demands that you do, she's controlling. Just don't do those things with the intent to do more while you're in a relationship. Others are right that this might ruin your relationship for good, but you're 19. The chances that this relationship were going to last forever were pretty low anyway. You screwed up. Live up to it and learn the consequences of your actions. Maybe next time you'll think about the damage your behavior did to your relationship and reconsider. Link to post Share on other sites
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