Guest Posted May 19, 2007 Share Posted May 19, 2007 Ok, so this girl at work says she really likes me a lot, and I have to say I share those feelings. We talk all the time, im talking like hour long phone calls and im not even a phone person. She talks about how much she likes me and wants to do all kinds of stuff with me. I know there is another guy she seeing right now that she has known longer then me and has had a crush on for a while from what I understand. It took her a while to even tell me she was seeing this guy, and when I found out, she was afraid I would hate her and never talk to her the same again. I asked her why she didn't tell me about him from the start and she said she was not sure if it was going to last. She still says she likes me and wants to hang out and her feelings about me have not changed. The problem is I don't see her leaving this guy, though I really don't know how she truly feels about him. What should I do? Wait it out, move on, what? Link to post Share on other sites
irishguy71 Posted May 22, 2007 Share Posted May 22, 2007 How old are you 2? If your still young, 28 and younger, just ask her if she will date you both. Just my advice, but if you both have strong feelings about each other and are young, you should be having fun and enjoying each others company....life is too short....as Shakespeare would say "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted May 22, 2007 Share Posted May 22, 2007 How old are you 2? If your still young, 28 and younger, just ask her if she will date you both. Just my advice, but if you both have strong feelings about each other and are young, you should be having fun and enjoying each others company....life is too short....as Shakespeare would say "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." more like its better to have screwed and lost than never to screw at all Link to post Share on other sites
directx Posted May 22, 2007 Share Posted May 22, 2007 Well, sounds like she has some issues or lack of guts. Shes comfortable in her current relationship. Its not what she wants, but shes safe there. So you have a choice to ask her to date you or just back off. She might go with you if she thinks she is safe with that move. But, if you don't want to deal with a potential mess but still like her, dont say anything stupid. tell her to look you up when shes ready. Until then, go shop around for other girls and forget about her. For added drama, make sure she finds out every girl you are dating, or let her know of your late nights out with new girls. See how she reacts. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted May 23, 2007 Share Posted May 23, 2007 Simply put, she wants to have her cake and eat it too. She's stringing the other guy along while having you agree to this kind of arrangement by being honest. Dont wait around for this chick to dump her guy for you, it wont happen. Besides, you have all the more reason not to date her since she is a coworker...try dating a girl that's single and whom you arent working with. Link to post Share on other sites
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