I dont think they are having sex but..

[ThumbingMyWay]

HomelyBoy, quite honestly when I read this post about her Brazilian wax, I began thinking you were a troll because of the way you refuse to put these extremely obvious puzzle pieces together. I don't mean that as an insult, I was just blown away that you even considered for a second that she's on the up and up with this.

 

A waxing is torture - especially the FIRST one (as she just had). It's not like getting your nails done. It's not like getting your hair highlighted. It's akin to having 6,893 razor-sharp darts forcibly pounded into your genital region with a dart gun. And all the darts are on fire.

 

You haven't had sex for a long time. This woman can't even bear for you to touch her - yet you honestly believe she's going to go through the Death of a Thousand Cuts (a/k/a a genital waxing) to 'surprise' you?

 

Furthermore, if you hadn't insisted on sex that evening, do you honestly think you would have even found OUT about this waxing? She only came clean about her "surprise" because she knew your finding out about it was iminent since you'd brought up the sex issue and she couldn't find a way to wiggle out of it (yet again).

 

Dude, seriously, you need to face reality here. As an adult woman, the VERY LAST THING I'd do is go through the HE*LL of a genital waxing for someone I haven't had sex with in a very long time. Sorry, but the writing is ALL OVER THE WALL on this one.

 

this makes alot of sense and seams very logical......and coming from a woman...there maybe alot of truth to this.

 

homelyguy....dont lay low....stay on your toes..and watch her closely....I have a gut feeling....theres more to this story.......there ALWAYS is....

[jmargel]

I have asked her to go with me for Marriage counseling and she says she does not think it worth the while.

 

Right there is your answer. Pack up her stuff and tell her to get out. Keep the kids to yourself. Contact your lawyer.

 

As long as you tolerate her behavior she will continue to do this. SHE CHEATED ON YOU. It does not matter if she has had sex yet or not. Emotional cheating is WORSE than physical.

 

She has already told you she's in love with this guy, yet you still are trying to keep this marriage going? It takes two and no matter how hard you try it will fail because she doesn't want to put her heart into it 100%.

 

Who cares if she waxes her cooch or has sex with you. She's just buying time so she can still live under your roof while banging this other guy. You need to stop rolling over and piddling and demand respect from her and show it to yourself as well.

 

You are allowing her to treat you this way and she will continue to do so. She needs to face consequences for her actions and until she does this situation will get worse. I've been on here helping others for years and this is the ONLY thing that will resolve these situations. Quit playing the game, you can't win it.

[reef man]

That must sting like fire, even now............

 

He could always then tie her down...wax her the rest of the way, pour some rubbing alcohol on her "cooter" and put on "Disco Inferno"

 

Burn baby burn!!!

[Darth Vader]

yes it did and still does at times....

 

 

I hope your wife at least knows that. By the way, there was no pun intended.

[ThumbingMyWay]

I hope your wife at least knows that. By the way, there was no pun intended.

 

 

oh...she knows....she is remorseful...and to this day still tells me she hates what she did to me and to herself...

[reef man]

oh...she knows....she is remorseful...and to this day still tells me she hates what she did to me and to herself...

 

Well that is good. And I hope she is sincere. However, don't let your guard down. If things get back to normal, she might just slip again.

Not saying she will, just be on your guard.

[Lynna]

[COLOR=black]I am sorry, but it sounds like she is cheating. This is what my husband did with a woman from his work. He even talked to me about his friend often before I found out. He made it all sound innocent, and that they were always out with a group of friends from work. I had night classes and I was glad he had met people and made friends since we were in a new town. I was completely naive because I trusted him, I thought he would never do that to me. Well they got to be very good friends, they talked about everything apparently (as I later found out) well one thing led to another. They never meant it to happen of course, but it did, and it kept happening, over and over.[/COLOR]

 

[COLOR=black]He showed many of the same symptoms your wife is showing now. He stopped wanting sex, and he formerly could never get enough. He became moody and depressed. He did not want to do things together. He even started backing out on special times I planned for the two of us, in fact he went and spent time with her rather then me several of those times.[/COLOR]

 

[COLOR=black]Even after I first got suspicious he lied to me about what was going on trying to assure me that it was completely innocent, then when I pushed more he even tried to tell me that it was a one-night stand with a stranger before I finally came up with the proof. But the proof was hard to come by. I know what it feels like to be living with the suspicion and the doubt. You have to have some closure on this for the sake of yourself and your children. Find out what is going on, get proof one way or the other. Hire a private investigator. Or heck show up unexpectedly where you think they might be, or get a friend to help. But definitely get the evidence. You will need it if you decide to get divorced.[/COLOR]

 

[COLOR=black]If you want to try and save your marriage, then definitely push her to get counseling with you. Not having sex or not wanting your spouse to touch you are NOT NORMAL ways to behave in a marriage, whether there is cheating or not. If she won't go to counseling she does not really love you. Take the kids and move out for awhile, maybe that will force the issue with her. Don't let her treat you like this, it is not right, and it is not a good example for the kids.[/COLOR]

[Cobra_X30]

This woman is not worth your emotions. I personally cant imagine a reason why you would want to stay with her. She is below you in every way.

 

You need to make a list of all the things you dont like about her. Imagine the Perfect woman and create a list comparing her bad traits to your ideal. Be very specific, because I feel when you are done it will be very clear to you how poorly this woman is fulfilling any of the needs you have for a wife.

[Cobra_X30]

I just posted about a list and I feel compelled to explain why I think this is a good idea.

 

My best friend dated this girl for several years, they moved in together, were moving towards marriage...ect.

 

So he calls me with a very similar story to yours. GF has these new "Guy friends" at work, has been withdrawn, and is no longer interested in getting intimate. He was just an emotional mess, but the more we talked about it the more he began to think about how poor a fit this girl was for him. He wrote a list of the things he didnt like about her... from her tendency to lie right down to skin blemishes. I kid you not the list was almost 8 pages.

 

He dumped her right away... and it hurt, but he more pitied her than hated her. She moved in with a guy from work within a week. By best friend and her still have a friendship.

 

End of story, she drunk calls him to this day (4 years later) to try and get him back (he has a GF that he loves). Tells him that she is sorry, that he was the best thing to ever be in her life. I think every guy that she has been serious with since him has cheated on her!