confused_young1 Posted May 20, 2007 Share Posted May 20, 2007 Ok, I'm going to try and make this story as short as possible........ First of all I'm in a relationship w/a 36 black male, going through a divorce, and has 2 kids half my age. We have been together for a little over 3 years. I myself am 23 white female, never married or children. I met him around about 1 year after she had left him and moved out. I entered this relationship with the understanding that he was no longer married which I discovered the truth 1 year into our relationship when i had my first conversation with the wife who let it be known. Don't get me wrong, I'm not completely blind..... He was living with me and the kids would come over sometimes on weekends during the day. He never told me due to the fact that I let it be known that I wouldn't ever be interested in a married man and that things should be handled before you progress with someone else...... This man feels like my soulmate - we fell hard for each other and we had so many obstacles against us in the beginning that he said he was afraid to tell me.(interracial couple and my family didnt approve) Needless to say 3 years later they are finally meeting up with the lawyer. I have been pushing him since I found out and this was supposed to be taken care of along time ago. but his excuse was she won't go sign papers. I want to believe him with all i have, but its hard. ** We are at the point now that I refuse to go any further with this relationship until the divorce papers get sent to my house** Okay, my question is, Am I just a fool and has he just been weighing his options or is he really a good father and has been trying to keep piece with her (wife) for the sake of the kids... It has gotten to the point that he was having to keep his kids at his mom's house (?) b/c she refused to let them around me. Its like living two seperate lives or was he really? What do I need to do? I still talk to him everyday and let him know I love him, in return he promises that he will make this right and asap........ Do I just need to cut the attachment from my heart off, pick up the pieces and move on? P.s sorry it ended up being a novel Link to post Share on other sites
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