ItsJustMe Posted January 16, 2003 Share Posted January 16, 2003 I went out with this guy last month for the first time and it was a guy that I have been wanting to date for a long time. Well, we have talked on the phone a few times and I always wanted to go out with him, but he didn't ask me until last month, so we went out. On our date, we just went to a party at one of his friends house. We were playing drinking games and I got pretty toasty. We ended up making out all night and then going back to his house and having sex. We spent more time making out and bonking than actually talking. And then every other time we have went out since then (4 times) all we have done is just go to his place, maybe have a few drinks and then have sex and then he will say that he is getting tired and takes me home. I really dont' even know him that well and I would like to go on a few real dates so we can talk and get to know each other, but it seems like all he wants to do is have sex with me. But I am afraid that if I stop giving it to him, he won't want to see me anymore. Am I being ridiculous? what should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
mighty bop Posted January 17, 2003 Share Posted January 17, 2003 You're kidding right? Can't you see this guy is just using you? Come on it's so obvious......... Link to post Share on other sites
Just A Girl2 Posted January 17, 2003 Share Posted January 17, 2003 See, this is the kind of thing that happens when you're 'easy'....and have sex with someone you really don't even know....they generally figure you're good for nothing but sex, and nothing more.....which is what this guy sees you as. In today's age of AIDS and Herpes and Genital Warts, and unplanned pregnancy and Hepatitis B......why on earth would you jump into the sack with a guy that quickly....?...and not only that, why would you not realize that you're being used? So you are afraid that if you don't continue letting him USE YOU, that he won't want to see you anymore? Hello? McFly? Of course he won't, because he's interested in you ONLY for sex. If this wasn't the case, he would be asking you out on REAL dates (you know...like dinner, a movie, an event, etc)....versus just feeding you booze and getting you into bed. Are you young?? Just new to the dating scene? For the sake of your health and your reputation and self esteem, you really need to wake up. Link to post Share on other sites
Katys Posted January 17, 2003 Share Posted January 17, 2003 JustAGirl2 you are being too harsh. Everyone makes mistakes, that's how we learn. And you are quick to judge this girl's behaviour as 'easy' - the guy is obviously acting ten times worse by controlling the situation! This girl doesn't want an high school health lecture on STDs, she wants practical advice for dealing with a ****ty situation. You are obviously too intoxicated by this guy's good looks/popularity/other superficial trait to realise that he is in reality a COMPLETE a**h***. You know that he is using you, otherwise you wouldn't be writing on this forum. You hope that he will "change", but believe me once these guys think they can get away with something they'll never bother putting the effort into maintaining a real relationship. I know it's hard but you have to go cold turkey, cut yourself off from him entirely and realise that you deserve more than some free alcohol and a meaningless bonk. Otherwise there will only be heartache down the track. Link to post Share on other sites
the temptress Posted January 17, 2003 Share Posted January 17, 2003 your being used. well, that wot i think. if you really wanna find out, dress up really sexy and take him out, when you get to his house and he expects to have sex, kiss him full on really heavy and when he thinks he is gonna get some, pull away and say 'can you take me home please' tease him and if he gets cross then he is using you, if not hen he wants to see you again. the best way to find out is to play games and make them want more by not giving them anything they want. it works and is fun watching them squirm!! but you gotta be really sexy and well, make them want you basically!! good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
jamieileana Posted January 19, 2003 Share Posted January 19, 2003 long enough to find out if he does just want sex. if you stop having sex with him and he stops seeing you, well then you have your answer. why would you want to keep seeing him anyway if that is all he wants.? Link to post Share on other sites
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