tymai Posted May 21, 2007 Share Posted May 21, 2007 I've been in a relationship for 4 years now... We've had our problems in the past, but I really messed up this time. For the past couple of months, it's been like a fairytale. It's been better than when we first met. I'll start out by saying that I have cheated in the past. I never slept with anyone else, but I have kissed/played around with other people. He has too, but it's always been in retaliation to my actions. This has not happened though in the last 2 years. Last Saturday night, we had a really big party and everything was going great. I had alittle too much to drink and all of a sudden found myself alone with this guy that had been hardcore flirting with me all night. He leaned over and kissed me and my boyfriend walks in. Needless to say, he hasn't talked to me since. We live together and he hasn't moved out, so I guess that's a good sign, but he refusees to be in the same room with me. I feel hopeless. I'm self destructive!!!!! Can I fix this??? I feel like my whole world is crashing around me! Link to post Share on other sites
hardcase Posted May 21, 2007 Share Posted May 21, 2007 I've been in a relationship for 4 years now... We've had our problems in the past, but I really messed up this time. For the past couple of months, it's been like a fairytale. It's been better than when we first met. I'll start out by saying that I have cheated in the past. I never slept with anyone else, but I have kissed/played around with other people. He has too, but it's always been in retaliation to my actions. This has not happened though in the last 2 years. Last Saturday night, we had a really big party and everything was going great. I had alittle too much to drink and all of a sudden found myself alone with this guy that had been hardcore flirting with me all night. He leaned over and kissed me and my boyfriend walks in. Needless to say, he hasn't talked to me since. We live together and he hasn't moved out, so I guess that's a good sign, but he refusees to be in the same room with me. I feel hopeless. I'm self destructive!!!!! Can I fix this??? I feel like my whole world is crashing around me! First of all, your bf was just as wrong to cheat in retaliation. You don't stoop to a cheaters level by cheating yourself. Secondly, no, you cannot fix this. You are a serial cheat. Any time you are in a situation where a guy is flirting heavily with you, or you find yourself somewhere and a guy comes on to you, you will accept it. You are showing your bf major disrespect. I think it is YOU that needs to move out. Your bf right now is thinking that he cannot trust you. He is living in a separate room every night thinking on what he is going to do. On one hand he is thinking, do I really want to break up with her...but on the other hand he is thinking, "there is no way I could ever trust her"...and he'd be right in thinking that. Let me ask you this...why can't you keep your hands off of other guys? Do you have that much loathing for your bf that you would betray him like that? You are a fickle person that really needs to be alone for a while. I think you need break up with your bf and move out before you really screw up both of your lives. What..you think you should marry this guy and keep f#cking around on him? Take it from someone who knew too late that his wife was a cheat....break it off now and save the both of you....more him than you though. Link to post Share on other sites
dbtmarley Posted May 21, 2007 Share Posted May 21, 2007 I agree with the above poster. Have you ever considered being single? Link to post Share on other sites
littlepiggy1 Posted May 21, 2007 Share Posted May 21, 2007 I think you need to accept that you are not ready or possibly even capable of a monogamous relationship. Either be single and date, or look to enter a poly relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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