patterned behavior

[irratic]

Whenever my boyfriend disappoints me, I become so enraged that I cannot calm myself down. A disappointment might be as trivial as planning something to do with him for the night and he finds out he has to work. I know I look like a ninny acting this way, but I take these things so personally, I can't seem to hold back. Unfortunately, I have a limited social life right now because I am clinically depressed. Any ideas?

[Simmer]

Whenever my boyfriend disappoints me, I become so enraged that I cannot calm myself down. A disappointment might be as trivial as planning something to do with him for the night and he finds out he has to work. I know I look like a ninny acting this way, but I take these things so personally, I can't seem to hold back. Unfortunately, I have a limited social life right now because I am clinically depressed. Any ideas?

 

The key word here is clinical depression? Are U on medication for that and if so, are you taking it as U should and also seeing your counselor? Sounds like your anger is out of control. You need to feel good about yourself so you can handle life's little disappointments. Please talk to someone who understands.

[Jim]

Whenever my boyfriend disappoints me, I become so enraged that I cannot calm myself down. A disappointment might be as trivial as planning something to do with him for the night and he finds out he has to work. I know I look like a ninny acting this way, but I take these things so personally, I can't seem to hold back. Unfortunately, I have a limited social life right now because I am clinically depressed. Any ideas?

Hi,

 

To be honest I know exactly how your boyfriends feels on this account, mainly due to the fact that I spend about 3 years with a girl who was 'clinically depressed'.

 

Many people here would tell you want to do, but I`m going to tell you what your boyfriend is feeling, well because hes probably a silent voice.

 

Hes probably wants to help you, and try and understand what you are going through. Don`t reject him, or tell him that you don`t want his help, after all you would want to help him..

 

Getting enraged about trivial things (eg. him having to work late) isn`t fair on him, after all hes going to be the one who has to work AND (AND!) have to listen to your 'enraged' state. I often found myself wondering if I was worth all the 'hassle', in the end after 3 years I left - because I couldn`t stand it any more..

 

So, unlike the loads of replies that say try and get better, I`m going to tell you its not a matter of trying, you have to.. If you want to keep him you have to stop what ur doing, because a person can only take so much..

 

If you love him, then show him, don`t get angry or annoyed over stupid things.. Like is going into work that big a deal?? No, its not..

 

Thats from a male point of view, whos been there.. done that.. :-)

 

Take care, and good luck - because your on the first steps to having things rite - You understand whats wrong, and you want to do something about it !!

 

Jim