leeroy1985 Posted May 22, 2007 Share Posted May 22, 2007 First let me set the scene...... I've been with my g/f for 2 1/2 years, we were very much in love but for the past 6-7 months its all gone pear-shaped, we constantly argue over nothing, we spend far too much time together and slowly my feelings for her have been getting less and less. We've talked about the relationship many a time but we always end up arguing and now im not sure if i love her anymore! Last saturday i met this really nice girl, we talked and we got on really well and i felt like i felt when i first met my g/f, we hit it off really well and it felt right. A week went by and a saw her again and we talked somemore and i began to really like her. Meanwhile me and my g/f still arguing as ever! This new girl asked to meet with me for a drink so i thought i could do with a break from my g/f so i agreed..... I didn't drink alot so im not trying to use alcohol as an excuse for what happened next. I took her home and she invited me in, we laughed and joked and we ended up having sex. The next morning i wished it never happened, i felt terrible! This girl keeps contacting me and wants me to finish with my g/f and says she really likes me but i don't know if i want to finish with my g/f. I keep getting visions of my g/f crying and it kills me, i don't want to break her heart and i know she'd be devastated if i told her/she found out! What do i do??? My head is in such a mess, i can't think straight. Do i tell my g/f who will then finish with me and i'll probably lose alot of my friends and then wish i never told her. Or do i tell the other girl that it was a mistake and i can't break my girls heart like that and im going to try and salavge our relationship?? If i opt for the latter is the new girl going to try and split us up herself or just forget about me? There is so much stuff going through my head at the moment and i can't think what is best to do! Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted May 22, 2007 Share Posted May 22, 2007 First let me set the scene...... I've been with my g/f for 2 1/2 years, we were very much in love but for the past 6-7 months its all gone pear-shaped, we constantly argue over nothing, we spend far too much time together and slowly my feelings for her have been getting less and less. We've talked about the relationship many a time but we always end up arguing and now im not sure if i love her anymore! Last saturday i met this really nice girl, we talked and we got on really well and i felt like i felt when i first met my g/f, we hit it off really well and it felt right. A week went by and a saw her again and we talked somemore and i began to really like her. Meanwhile me and my g/f still arguing as ever! This new girl asked to meet with me for a drink so i thought i could do with a break from my g/f so i agreed..... I didn't drink alot so im not trying to use alcohol as an excuse for what happened next. I took her home and she invited me in, we laughed and joked and we ended up having sex. The next morning i wished it never happened, i felt terrible! This girl keeps contacting me and wants me to finish with my g/f and says she really likes me but i don't know if i want to finish with my g/f. I keep getting visions of my g/f crying and it kills me, i don't want to break her heart and i know she'd be devastated if i told her/she found out! What do i do??? My head is in such a mess, i can't think straight. Do i tell my g/f who will then finish with me and i'll probably lose alot of my friends and then wish i never told her. Or do i tell the other girl that it was a mistake and i can't break my girls heart like that and im going to try and salavge our relationship?? If i opt for the latter is the new girl going to try and split us up herself or just forget about me? There is so much stuff going through my head at the moment and i can't think what is best to do! First you say, you don't know if you still love her anymore: slowly my feelings for her have been getting less and less. We've talked about the relationship many a time but we always end up arguing and now im not sure if i love her anymore! Then you meet this girl: A week went by and a saw her again and we talked somemore and i began to really like her. Then you feel bad. You are afraid to lose your gf... AND your friends..(from what I read you are more concerned about losing them) Do i tell my g/f who will then finish with me andi'll probably lose alot of my friends and then wish i never told her. I think maybe you need to take a break from it all...think about what YOU really want then go from there. Link to post Share on other sites
Baybee9404 Posted May 23, 2007 Share Posted May 23, 2007 You know what they say man, you cant turn a hoe into a house wife. If you slept with this girl the first night you met her then she's a hoe and will probably cheat on you with any guy she just meets. Nice girl to bring home to mommy. But karma is a bitch. now to your girlfriend i am sorry you dont love her, because if you did you would have thought about her before you let it get any further with the other chick. You dont deserve your girlfriend. Do what is right for her tell her so she can move on to someone who isnt scum like you. Link to post Share on other sites
fetish Posted May 23, 2007 Share Posted May 23, 2007 I'm not sure how to answer your post because it sounds to me that you don't really love her and are just trying to spare her feelings. If that's the case, dump her and let her move on. If you do love her, i'd probably just say live with the guilt and promise yourself never to do it again. Telling her will just make things UGLY! I 've been with my gf for 4 years and had cheated once when the relationship was still young (under 6 months old). I didn't really feel bad that time. I made the mistake of doing it again our 3rd year and that time, i really felt like scum. I never told her but had to live with that painful, agonizing guilt for a long time to where i'll think 3x before i decide to bed up with another woman (no matter how good she looks). I've decided that i want to keep it real with my woman and that everything you do has a price. Link to post Share on other sites
MissKissNada_Gal Posted May 23, 2007 Share Posted May 23, 2007 First let me set the scene...... I've been with my g/f for 2 1/2 years, we were very much in love but for the past 6-7 months its all gone pear-shaped, we constantly argue over nothing, we spend far too much time together and slowly my feelings for her have been getting less and less. We've talked about the relationship many a time but we always end up arguing and now im not sure if i love her anymore! Last saturday i met this really nice girl, we talked and we got on really well and i felt like i felt when i first met my g/f, we hit it off really well and it felt right. A week went by and a saw her again and we talked somemore and i began to really like her. Meanwhile me and my g/f still arguing as ever! This new girl asked to meet with me for a drink so i thought i could do with a break from my g/f so i agreed..... I didn't drink alot so im not trying to use alcohol as an excuse for what happened next. I took her home and she invited me in, we laughed and joked and we ended up having sex. The next morning i wished it never happened, i felt terrible! This girl keeps contacting me and wants me to finish with my g/f and says she really likes me but i don't know if i want to finish with my g/f. I keep getting visions of my g/f crying and it kills me, i don't want to break her heart and i know she'd be devastated if i told her/she found out! What do i do??? My head is in such a mess, i can't think straight. Do i tell my g/f who will then finish with me and i'll probably lose alot of my friends and then wish i never told her. Or do i tell the other girl that it was a mistake and i can't break my girls heart like that and im going to try and salavge our relationship?? If i opt for the latter is the new girl going to try and split us up herself or just forget about me? There is so much stuff going through my head at the moment and i can't think what is best to do! your girlfriend did not deserve u cheating on her. i feel sorry for her. but mostly for U. dont have much to say for u... let her go, u dont love her, the girl u cheated on her with is a hoe anyway so u shouldnt want her. wut were ur thoughts wen u cheated??? why?? i mean. idk i guess its just sad. if u loved this girl, u wouldnt do anything to hurt her... she loves u man... WHY. just spare her, tell her and get it over with, she needs some1 better than u anyhow. sorry for sounding harsh, but like u cheated on ur girlfriend, im just being BRUTALLY HONEST. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted May 24, 2007 Share Posted May 24, 2007 I'll make it simple for you. Tell your gf what you did and then accept the consquences. Link to post Share on other sites
littlepiggy1 Posted May 24, 2007 Share Posted May 24, 2007 3-some. It's the only solution. Link to post Share on other sites
Diamonds&Rust Posted May 24, 2007 Share Posted May 24, 2007 You should break up with your girlfriend without telling her that you had sex with someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
lovelorcet Posted May 24, 2007 Share Posted May 24, 2007 I'll make it simple for you. Tell your gf what you did and then accept the consquences. Yup, sounds like you and this other girl might be made for each other. You messed up big time buddy and you should let your gf know what kind of man you are. Link to post Share on other sites
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