Chargers Posted May 23, 2007 Share Posted May 23, 2007 Well im almost 17 and im finishing my junior year and im 5'7 and pretty athletic. i play soccer for school but im having a few problems. In middle school i wasnt really that shy i talked to a lot of people. But as I got to high school and only a few people from my middle school came with me I had to meet a lot of new people. For some reason my shyness really stood out and a girl that lives by me who is really good looking talked to me alot during freshman year but she stopped because i really never talked to her that much. Now I do like a lot of girls but i guess im known as the "shy" kid so I really havent talked to many throughout high school I want to break out of this but I need advice on how to do this so I can have a great senior year. Also i think im pretty good looking and other girls do to but I just dont know how to get there attention or what to do. What do you think? I really want to start talking to all the good looking girls in my grade. Link to post Share on other sites
Diamonds&Rust Posted May 24, 2007 Share Posted May 24, 2007 High school is rough, in terms of behaving a way that differs from the way people expect you to behave. I would just take the attitude that most of these people are not people you will ever see again (because it is so true, trust me) and that you might as well take risks and chances socially because you have little to lose. Link to post Share on other sites
wookinpanub Posted May 28, 2007 Share Posted May 28, 2007 I would have to disagree with Diamonds completely. If you take the stance that you will never see those people again and because of this decide not to start speaking to them or anything, you will regret it. Your shyness and quiet ways will carry over to college and you will find yourself thinking the same thing through college, that you will never see those people after the next four years are over. Plus it makes it so much harder to break out of your shell later on. I kind of was the same way. When I hit high school I just kind of stopped talking to people. I'm going into my junior year of college and I'm still having a hard time with it after having made a conscious effort for the past two years to change my introvertedness. If it's a big issue with you, just take baby steps until you get more comfortable, then go a little further until your not so comfortable. You know what I mean? Like start conversations with those that you are acquainted to but not exactly friends with. Just general conversation to start and just move on. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedButLoved Posted May 28, 2007 Share Posted May 28, 2007 I'm reading quite a few posts along this subject. It reminds me of my highschool days. Lets face it, high school is rough! You're face breaks out with acne, you're facing more and more responsibility and all the sudden feel pressured to compete for the "coolest kid in school" award. I've read a few views above and while I can see where both posters are coming from, my advice to you is to embrace who you are. I know you haven't found yourself yet, and noone you're age has (whether they want to admit that or not) but if you are wanting to be the loud crazy kid who everyone likes but can't seem to naturally be him, understand that everyone has different personalities with their own charm. While you may want to be the funny fun loving type but have a more introvert, deep personality, instead of changing who you are, try and build on what you already are. Take a few risks, its a very essential part of growing up and learning about consequences and social skills. Some may turn out as stepping stones and others will turn out embarrassing. Guys like you may not make friends so easily as natural extroverts, but rather more choosy of who they associate with and are very loyal and endearing friends. And take my word for it, the quiet mysterious type guys are extremely attractive!! Link to post Share on other sites
brazuca Posted June 2, 2007 Share Posted June 2, 2007 Hey man, I used to be pretty shy myself. Now I think I'm doing pretty good, what I did was take little steps. Tried starting conversations, made jokes, you know .. The main thing in my opinion is that I started to not really care about what other people would think, because in my opinion that's what held me back. I always thought "Damn, what if I say something stupid and **** everything up" .. Nowadays I will just do stuff I think it's cool, if people like it, good, if they don't, they can go **** themselves, lol! But honestly man, don't try to please everybody, just be yourself and you will be just fine. Link to post Share on other sites
beautifulearth83 Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 just stick to your passions and what you love doing and you will meet all the right people. be a good person, follow your heart, and your voice will follow Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted June 6, 2007 Share Posted June 6, 2007 I was very popular in middle school, even more so in high school, and reached heights never believed in college. Be yourself its the best advice I can give you. If you like this girl be real about it go up to her talk to her. If you like soccer u kick those balls hard and dont let any one kick yours. People love a person who is confident in who they are it makes them feel comfortable, so you learn how to be yourself and you'll be having fun and that will atract people to u. sounds easy but if it was it wouldnt be so lonely up here at the top. Link to post Share on other sites
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