Ahhhh, Sweet Wisdom!

[Amazon22]

I have been through some rough and tumble relationships, and while only being 22, I feel like I am in this never-ending cycle of "what comes next"...follow me? The relationship I am currently in(sounds like I am typing a resume here:O) is going okay, except for the long distance part. I am not sure if I love him, but I know there is something there. I am affraid that when I move closer to him things will fall apart...but then again it's also the only way that we will find out if it will progress for the better. I have met his familly on numerous occasions, and we all get along great, they treat me as if I am part of the family...which is great...they treat me with more respect than my own family does...which is all too comforting. I haven't had the best life...but far from the worst. Like many women out there, I am in search of love...perhaps not true love(God only knows if that exists)...but I have to live my life first. My boyfriend, being older and "wiser", thinks that I should be completely independant before marriage...that's how his marriage ended in divorce...(the wifey couldn't tie her own shoes to save her life). I agree with him to an extent, however, I went to college for 3 years and was on my own and took care of myself financailly...but then ran out of tuition money and moved back in with the parents(another story for another time). So here I am, no college degree, a very strong work ethic, hardly any money(although I have a full time job), and credit card debt and student loans up the A**! I am not looking for a "way out" of my problems by wanting more out of my boyfriend, or just love for that matter. I want a special someone that I can connect with on most levels and love inside and out. I see it all over the place with other couples...or so it seems. Many of my friends, my brother, my cousins are getting married and it is truly sickening me to see that happiness that I have yet to come by. I really don't know what I want...I'm 6'2, and feel like the size of a pea! For Christ's Sake, I am a radio DJ who's show is broadcast for all of northern michigan to hear....and little do all of those listeners know that sitting inside some building in front of a microphone is this woman who's voice sounds confident, yet through years of searching, cannot find the confidence in herself to just make life happen!!!! GRRRRRR! Ok Ok Ok, enough self pitty, I just have to pick my a** up and move on!!!! I don't need a guy to survive...now just where did I hide my vibrator last?

[Tony T]

Your height and your job can both be intimidating to a lot of guys. You need to search out older, more confident and settled guys who are happy with themselves.

 

Until you are truly happy with your lot in life you will not find true love. Just like you said, you might find a lot of phoney stuff but that's not what you want. True love comes only to those who truly love themselves and their lives.

 

You're still very young and you have many years to make yourself into the best person possible in order to find the best person for yourself. Trust me, if you have to wait another five or ten years to find someone who is right for you, it'll be worth the wait.

 

Start remaking your life by getting your financial house in order. Nobody can be happy if they are bouncing the wall with debt. Put your credit cards in an ice tray and freeze them so you can't get to them. Work it out so you can go part time to your university to complete your senior year. Believe me, that's really important. A college degree is almost required these days to get into a movie theatre...it's really important.

 

Totally redo all other parts of your life that you aren't happy with.

 

Once you get moving in the right direction and you are happy with things, I promise you you'll have more men than you know what to do with.

 

There is something you're doing wrong now and you have to identify it. My guess is that, in addition to being dissatisfied with aspects of your life, you are asserting your status as a radio DJ a bit too much. Play that down.

 

Remember, the population of men who are your height or taller and ready to go out with you is far less than it would be for a woman who was a foot shorter. That's not terrible but you've got to work extra hard at being the wonderful lady you are in order to find Mr. Right. And don't settle for some dude just because he's tall...and don't settle on some shortly pants out of desperation.

 

If you meet a midget that you truly care for, go for it. But my guess is that won't work in the long term.

 

Be patient. Time is on your side.