Author SBBW Posted May 29, 2007 Author Share Posted May 29, 2007 I assume she can go to Guitar Center on her own. If she loves it, nothing will stop her from going there, with someone, or without. You've said yourself that your band has been together for like, a year, and has only played out once, so I dont see where you're so high and mighty to say she's been in "none". I've played out like a hundred times, who gives a sh*t? Look at what you write about this person who you say is someone you are a friend to. You can't even be HAPPY for HER when she makes personal goals. She wanted to be in a band, and she is, you should be happy for her. She wanted to be in a movie, and she is, you should be happy for her. But what do you do? You sit here and belittle what she's done, as if it's no big deal or you could do better if you wanted to. Why not actually be in this for HER for once, and not for your own needs? If my friends weren't able to be happy for me and my accomplishments, you can be damn sure I'd not be answering the phone either. With friends like that, I wouldn't need enemies. Take a long look at what you've been posting. It does not paint a pretty picture. I'm not sure we could find 1 poster on here that would want to befriend you acting in this manner. It's not that I can't be happy for her. I just find it hard to deal with that she's not that talented, yet she gets asked to join another band before we even booted her. There are plenty of super talented people out there who have no one to play with, and this mediochrely talented person gets booted from one band and imdeiately picked up by another. And she has never done any acting in her life, and she gets cast in a film. An indie film, but still... How many other girls were dying for her part? She is friends with the people making this movie, that's the only reason she got cast. What she's doing is great, but I don't think she earned any of it. here are more talented people. She is a behind the scenes person at heart who is trying to be in the spotlight and I don't like it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SBBW Posted May 29, 2007 Author Share Posted May 29, 2007 So basically now you are stalking her because she doesn't want to be your friend? Sounds to me like you only want her in your life on your terms, and well, that's very unfair to her. It's like breaking up with someone and then wanting to stay friends with them even though you know they were far more invested in the relationship than you ever were. You are just wanting her there for your own selfish needs, nothing to do with her. Give this up and move on. Find someone you can start fresh with, and don't make the same mistakes. Stalking! Uh, no ma'am. She lives right up the street from me. She usually keeps her cell phone off in the morning because her guy is asleep. I figured maybe her phone was off and she might be waiting for me outside. And don't you guys think she could have told me on the phone she wasn't coming? All she saud was "I have a lot to do monday before work." Why not just come out and say "No I don't want to go with you."? Nad yes, she can go to Guitar Center any time she wants. But that was always our thing together. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SBBW Posted May 29, 2007 Author Share Posted May 29, 2007 No offense, but do you drink too much? It would explain why she wouldn't want to go have a drink with you. It also would explain why you might be experiencing this problem of not understanding the dynamics of a healthy friendship. I would recommend you take a look at your part in the problems and try to talk to your friend. I won't even answer a cheap-shot question like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Teacher's Pet Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 What she's doing is great, but I don't think she earned any of it. here are more talented people. She is a behind the scenes person at heart who is trying to be in the spotlight and I don't like it. You don't like it because she's a "behind the scenes person at heart" who is stealing YOUR thunder. As you put it, she has no talent, but she's becoming more successful than you. Face it, you screwed her over, and now she's more successful. She is the Obi Wan to your Darth Vader..... Heck, I'm an actor, not a GREAT one, but for someone with minimal training, I'm pretty accomplished myself. Are my actor friends jealous? I don't think so, they have no reason to be...they are still "living the life" that I've basically given up...if anything, I'm still slightly jealous of them! But anyhow.... you are just mad because she seems to be getting somewhere on her "lack of talent", while you..well..... *shrugs* -tp harbinger of grim reality. Link to post Share on other sites
nittygritty Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 I won't even answer a cheap-shot question like that. I was trying to make sure that drinking wasn't a factor in the problems you are experiencing with your friend. You said: I invited her to go get a drink with me and she claimed she was busy. And I invited her to go driving with me on Mother's day (I forgot it was mother's day) and she had to work and then she was going to see her Mom. The bolded part is why I asked. I am sorry there was a miscommunication. Take Care Link to post Share on other sites
AriaIncognito Posted May 29, 2007 Share Posted May 29, 2007 Stalking! Uh, no ma'am. All she saud was "I have a lot to do monday before work." Well, she basically said "no" as she said she was busy, so why sit outside her house looking for her at 7am? Sounds creepy to me. It's not that I can't be happy for her. I just find it hard to deal with that she's not that talented, yet she gets asked to join another band before we even booted her. What she's doing is great, but I don't think she earned any of it. here are more talented people. She is a behind the scenes person at heart who is trying to be in the spotlight and I don't like it. Who are you to be the judge of whether or not she is talented enough, or whether or not she earned it? It sounds to me like you have a major problem with the fact that this person is not only doing well, but she's doing just fine without you. It's a bruise to the ego when you "break up" any sort of relationship, and you find out that the other party is doing just fine without you. I understand that much, but why be so negative about someone you supposedly care about. I just dont see that you care for her as you claim you do, because you are still unable to just be happy for her. You sit here and tell us all the reasons she shouldn't have what she has. Well guess what, she's got it. Worthy or not, it's hers. Time for you to accept it, and wish her well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SBBW Posted June 1, 2007 Author Share Posted June 1, 2007 update on this story here. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=1207907#post1207907 Link to post Share on other sites
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