cm12345 Posted May 27, 2007 Share Posted May 27, 2007 Good morning alll. My gf has been tried quitting smoking for the last 2 weeks after smoking for almost 10 years. She said she is quitting for me which she really doesnt have to do, because I want it to be for her. This question is for those who have helped a loved one quit smoking. Do you feel its best to be pushy in their attempt to quit smoking or should you just let it go and let them do it on their own? I feel ive been being pushy and when i see her light up I freak. I know its probably the wrong thing to do but I continue to do it. I just want to see her healthy and live a long and healthy live with me. Thanks in advance. Link to post Share on other sites
Lady Aurora Posted May 27, 2007 Share Posted May 27, 2007 The best thing you can do is to be supportive. Don't be pushy, or be a nag. Those are negative things. Be positive. If she normally has a smoke after eating and you notice she grabs a piece of gum instead, say something. Compliment her on her good choices. Compliment her on her sweet breath, or how her clothes don't stink - be real, you can find something. If she is tempted to get a smoke, try to talk her out of it. Remind her how great she is doing and how she will be disappointed in herself, but if she breaks down and has one, leave it be. Don't berate her after the fact. Try to keep the focus on HER, how this is good for her health, her self-esteem, etc. Recognize the progress she does make, however slowly, and try to ignore any oops. If you are too pushy, that will slow her down. She will only be successful if she does it on her own terms. Best of luck to you both! Aura Link to post Share on other sites
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