Relationship gone and bad. ?

[alenamarks10]

Alright, so I'm having some trouble. I'll try to make this as short as I can.

 

So around a year and a half ago, my boyfriend and I started dating. Things were really great, obviously, they are in all couples at the beginning. We took things really slow and eventually got very close and intimate and it was just a good relationship for about 7 months.

 

Then all of the sudden his attitude got very hot and cold, he got very off an on. He'd make plans with me, then break plans. He'd start to try and play hard to get. I had no idea what to think of this. I was just sort of taken aback. Why was he doing this?

 

He'd still have his days where he was his old self, or how he used to be. So our relationship continued on for about 3 more months as hot/cold on/off. It drove me crazy, but I was in love, and still am. So what to do?

 

He broke up with me for what seemed to be no reason after those 3 months. He did it a cowards way, over the phone, saying "I need a break" and hung up. I was devestated. Ever since then, there had been mutual combat between us. He'd sometimes also pretend like he liked me, or wanted to be with me, but then say "I just want to be friends". I started hanging out with another guy, and he didn't like this very much. So he started being super nice and calling me.

 

Once he decided he wanted to be back with me, I took him back pretty easily. I shouldn't have because of all the hurt he had caused me. Things were all good, he started hanging around me and we hung out a few times. Things seemed how they used to be in the beginning.

 

But then now he's acting like a complete idiot. He never wants to hang out with me. He never accepts my offers to hang out. When he calls, or when I call, he has to go 10 seconds later. He tells me he likes me and doesn't want anyone else, but he is afraid to tell people we're seeing eachother again. He keeps me a secret. He even told his friends I was his "friends with benefits girl". But "jokingly" he says. He makes remarks about my weight or my skin or minor things. I'm not overweight at all, but he makes me feel like it. He doesn't want me touching him in public, or doesn't want to show affection.

 

What is his problem? I've known this guy for 4 years, we've always been super close friends, and of course boyfriend/girlfriend. I know so much about him, and he knows so much about me. Why is he doing this? He's treating me like I'm absolutley nothing. I'm starting to lose my trust in him, and I'm starting to doubt myself and feel bad about myself. He can't even confirm a relationship between us. He can't tell me he likes me again.

 

I'm not afraid to confront him about these issues, but when I do, he doesn't want to talk about it, or puts it off and it never gets talked about. I'll press on the issue, and he'll just sit there and not reply.

 

I don't know what to do. I don't know why I love him so much, but I do. I know he's treating me poorly, but I can seem to always look past that when he's near me or when I see him or talk to him.

 

I just want to know.

What's he doing?

What do you think he wants from me?

What should I do?

What should I not do?

 

 

Thanks for any help you guys give.

I appreciate it.

 

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