Does he deserve a 3rd or more chance??

[love79]

Ok so this is my first time posting but after running this through my head and really having no one to talk to about this I want to start here. I am divorced going on over a year. For some reason my ex has what I call spells where he contacts me and tells me he misses me and we should get back together and then after a week or so he is back to his old ways. I feel like there is never just me..he is always in love with someone eles and me. As hard as I try NC he always has a way of contacting me out of the blue or I break down and contact him for stupid stuff just to talk to him. No matter who he dates he always seems to end up calling me. Am I a fool for believeing he will realize I am the one in the end or am I just a cushion for him when things go wrong?

[Just Visiting]

you are a cushion girl and will always be until you stop it. have some self-respect and cut him out for good.

[rayblueline]

As a guy who wishes he had a third chance with his lover, I would say you should not totally close off your heart if what you want is truly to be with him. But if you do decide to give him another chance, you should be very clear to him upfront what your expectations are, what you need from him, etc, and make sure you have a firm commitment from him that he will provide those things... and make sure it is a commitment that you believe.

[Lizzie60]

Am I a fool for believeing he will realize I am the one in the end or am I just a cushion for him when things go wrong?

 

yes. He won't change. He knows he can manipulate you, you'll take him back.. so why should he stop. He's back with you when he's got no one else around... he's a serial cheater and a player...

 

We are only abused by people who we allow to abuse us.

 

Time to move on...and next time, say no... simple.