manders0724 Posted May 30, 2007 Share Posted May 30, 2007 So i dont know why, i still cant figure it out, but for some reason i started crying during sex today wth my bf. it has never happend before and i guess i just want to know if this has happened to anyone else? i have had alot of things goin thru my mind recently involving our relationship, ive told him a few things about myself ive never told anyone recently also, things that i am very insecure about. and that, along with i was still a little on my period and there was some blood and that made me a little uncomfortable, plus all these things i am worried about involving our relationship is what i believe made me cry. for some reason i feel like i still am going to cry, this was a few minutes ago, and i still have no clue as to why i feel like this. i am so worried about us and whether or not we have a future together, that could be a part of it. we have been together over a year and live together just so you all know. i would value very much some input. thanks Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted May 30, 2007 Share Posted May 30, 2007 I agree that your anxieties are behind your tears. Sex and orgasms can make you feel very open and vulnerable, and that can draw out the vulnerability and insecurity you feel in the relationship in general. I've had something like that happen. I've also had it happen when I've just been stressed out and having nothing to do with our relationship. And I've cried a couple of times from the intimicay and joy of it. Sex can really pull up some very powerful emotions. Have you talked with your boyfriend about your anxieties? Maybe this would be a good time to do that if you haven't. Talking to him about why you cried would be a good way to start the discussion. Link to post Share on other sites
Author manders0724 Posted May 30, 2007 Author Share Posted May 30, 2007 i have told him about all of the things i can think of that cause my anxiety problems. but i dont know how to explain this one. he keeps askin me and i dont know what to say cuz i dont know why it happened. i dont know it just feels like he doesnt want to be with me anymore and anytime i think about that it stresses me out so bad because i dont want to lose him. ugh i cannot believe that **** happend Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted May 30, 2007 Share Posted May 30, 2007 Well, if you've told him you're worried about your future together, and that he has lost interest, what does he say? Link to post Share on other sites
Author manders0724 Posted May 30, 2007 Author Share Posted May 30, 2007 not too much really. he just acts like nothing is a big deal, like nothing gets to him, except when i ask him not to talk to his ex...but thats a whole different subject. i cant trust him around her and i cant trust myself to trust him (if that makes sense) and i tell him this and that that is a big issue as to why our relationship keeps going down hill and he tells me he wont stop talkin to her, and he acts like he doesnt care, like losing me wouldnt mean anything. and that hurts because he is my everything and i dont know what i would do without him Link to post Share on other sites
Starry-eyed Posted May 30, 2007 Share Posted May 30, 2007 i have told him about all of the things i can think of that cause my anxiety problems. but i dont know how to explain this one. he keeps askin me and i dont know what to say cuz i dont know why it happened. i dont know it just feels like he doesnt want to be with me anymore and anytime i think about that it stresses me out so bad because i dont want to lose him. ugh i cannot believe that **** happend But you DO know, manders. You just told us why. Do you feel comfortable enough with your bf and your relationship that you can tell him these same things? You've got hormones going on, and worries and anxieties, you're afraid he doesn't want you anymore, you're worried about the future you may or may not have together. You DO know why you cried, you just have to look inside you to find the answer. I know how befuddling it can feel. Just know that there is nothing wrong with crying and you have a right to feel the way you feel. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted May 30, 2007 Share Posted May 30, 2007 not too much really. he just acts like nothing is a big deal, like nothing gets to him, except when i ask him not to talk to his ex...but thats a whole different subject. i cant trust him around her and i cant trust myself to trust him (if that makes sense) and i tell him this and that that is a big issue as to why our relationship keeps going down hill and he tells me he wont stop talkin to her, and he acts like he doesnt care, like losing me wouldnt mean anything. and that hurts because he is my everything and i dont know what i would do without him I can see why you'd be hurting, if he's just dismissing your fears. He should be trying to reassure you of his feelings, and that he loves you. He should be trying to make you more comfortable with him, so you don't end up crying during sex or any other time. Link to post Share on other sites
DanielMadr Posted May 30, 2007 Share Posted May 30, 2007 at least it is not a hickup:o Link to post Share on other sites
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