My Boyfriend of 2.5 years is severely depressed.

[marzdeli]

My boyfriend is having problems all over in his life, and I like to think that I am the only stable thing going for him right now. His father has been sick with lung cancer, and the reoccurance of brain tumors for the past almost 2 years. His dad is in really bad shape, and can't stand up anymore, has diapers and has to be fed. One month ago he was given 2 weeks to 3 months to live, he is still alive and fighting. My boyfriend while dealing with this for the past 2 years has given up on his schooling, he has been working though, but needs to go to school. He got into Boston University, and other great schools but turned them down when he basically was kicked out a year ago for not caring anymore about anything. He then went to rehab for depression. I thought that was the primary reason why he was there, but later found out that he was addicted to cocaine. He came back from rehab after only 2 weeks, and then stayed home for a few months to just wake up and watch hours of TV.

 

I like to think that he became Max again when he got a job in January at his family business and moved out. He could do what he wanted, when he wanted, and he loved the freedom. He was a great boyfriend again, he was less selfish and it was like he was putting on a show for me. Today though that all changed. He claimed that he didn't deserve someone as amazing as me, and that I should live the prime of my life experimenting. I, of course, told him that what I wanted was to be there for him, and that I love him and care about him for many reasons. He then decided that I was right, but then came clean about something very detrimental to our relationship. He said that he still feels miserable, and that he has been for the past few months.

 

In the past month I have especially noticed that Max wasn't Max. He was always moody, like hours would seperate his moods, not days. He was extremely negative about any proposition I had as to a plan for us to go and hang out somewhere. He became extremely selfish, and just didn't feel like seeing me or anybody for days at a time.

 

I really want to help him, but how? I can't just magically make him feel better, I think that he has a deep pain from everything happening not according to plan. Do you think that he will hurt himself in some way?