sunshine79 Posted May 30, 2007 Share Posted May 30, 2007 i'm just got back from my vacation, went to new orleans. it was a great time and i am happy to be back, well, i was until we got home. my fiance is struggling with his weight and so a vacation where we ate a TON didn't help the weight struggle. we had a super wonderful drive home and 9.5 hrs in the car together could have been testy but it was perfect. we talked about wedding plans and getting our wedding bands this weekend. we get home, unpack and settle down and have dinner. our grass is dying from teh extreme heat and no rain so i kept asking my fiance to go turn the sprinkler on (i can't figure out hte damn thing and he knows exactly how to do it...and we've been gone a week so our yard looks like a hayfield)so about the 3rd time asking him over a 2hr span he lost it...he just got so mad. he ended up going to our guest bedroom to go to bed at 9pm. well, i tried to go to sleep by myself and tossed and turned and then decided to get up to go work thigns out...i can't go to bed mad. well that wasn't the best idea, he got more mad because he claims he was almost asleep...so he gets up and grabs his keys and leaves. so now i lose it, he's leaving? over getting mad because i wanted him to turn the sprinkler on?? wtf so i call his mom, since this is wehre he's giong...she tries to calm me down and i jsut told her to call me when he got there os i atleast knew he was okay... i barely got any sleep. so this moring she calls and gives me an update, that she just listened to him talk and how she gthinks his weight is teh problem that has brought him down so much and he's taking it out on me and blah blha...so now i'm at work, with a mile high pile of work to do since i've been gone and can't do antyhing, just think about him...and dont' know what's going to happen. what do i do???? i can't deal with him flying off the handle at the drop of a dime.... we had it all planned out, get our wedding bands this weekend, hell, in teh fight we were looking at wedding invitations....we were starting a new diet regimen and not going out during the week, walking at a new park down from my house...things were looking good and a total lifestyle change...now...it's like he forgot our whole talk. i dotn' know what to do. i've put my life into him and he's going to go do this to me. i'm so upset. does weight issues cause this much pain to someone to make them lash at another?? he is prob now 70 lbs overweight...he's 6'6" so he doesn't really look overweight but just not as skinny as he used to be...i need some help........please.... Link to post Share on other sites
tatzwife Posted May 31, 2007 Share Posted May 31, 2007 I would suggest sitting down and settling this once and for all before you send out the invitations. Stroke his ego a little bit (he is a man), work out a realistic plan for both of you, like walking every night & planning the wedding. I would recommend http://www.PEERtrainer.com or http://www.SparkPeople.com, these are both really supportive online groups you can do together. Do sit ups together and smooch each time you sit up. Just please work it out before you send the invites. My guy packed his stuff & left this weekend to his mom's and we only have 30 days to go!! (He's back now now but what a crappy scare!) Link to post Share on other sites
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